"You won't understand because you're not a teacher" - I am the MOM!

i think that type of child are often extraordinary. you should focus on her interest only. she must have something special.

I know that Einstein is dyslexic and his thesis was poorly written that's why it was only now that its worth was noticed. She is not dyslexic but she only only lags behind the school's standard for gradeone. She is only 5, turning 6 this October and grades 1 here should be 6 by June. I am not an effective teacher for her because I lose my temper most of the time because I get disappointed from her actions. She considers our lessons at home as play so I cannot make her sit down for 30 minutes straight. She would always find something to do so we cannot focus.

She is actually one of those who excel in their class but with regards to the private school's standard for grade one, she lags behind but I don't mind having her enrolled in prep. I just want her to be in the 1st grade to save money and time since most of what she will be doing in prep were already done in her kinder. I just can't make her sit down with me for two hours daily at home so I am asking them if they have special reading class where she could be included but since the teacher said that in two hours everyday from April 14 to May 14, they will be studying reading, math, science and arts but the main focus is socialization and preparing the kids for their regular schooling in June.

I'm in the UK and, to be honest, the education system here is not too bad in general. We have free full time until up to aged 19 which is a very good thing. I am beginning to get a little disappointed with my son's school teacher though. The school as a whole has always been one of the best in the area but he has a teacher who, I am sure, has only just come out of education herself. That's not necessarily bad in itself but she seems to be a bit of a "I've been to university, therefore I'm better than everybody else" kind of attitude. I know that feeling in the shops as well. I've gone into high street fashion shops and had that "you can't afford to shop here" look. Or it may have been a "you're too fat to shop here" or "You're dressed like a tramp, what could you find in here" sort of look. I CAN'T often afford to shop in some of them but that is beside the point. That's why I now only go to Primark and Peacocks for tha sort of thing! Not only better prices but staff who (mostly) don't judge you.

Just wanted to add that, it doesn't matter how a child is taught as long as they learn. The teacher's way is obviously not working so you go ahead and do it your way. Some children need different methods and some need a number of methods before information sinks in. I get annoyed with people going on about my toddler not being potty trained yet. It's usually from people whose kids are less able in every other area but happen to be "text book" in bigger issues. Just to clarify that, my toddler was late walking, he's now late potty training. My friends toddler (older than mine) walked and potty trained at the "right" time but friends toddler still gabbles while mine talked at 6 months and I can have intelligent conversations with him. He also is very co-ordinated and dextrous with his hands. He can draw different sorts of lines and circles, I don't think friends toddler has ever held a pencil. I think you get the idea.

This had happenend to me several times, and not just in school. When I go to malls, I would just wear my shorts or capri pants and shirts and my old sandal or just flip flops and some of the salesladies wouldn't want to entertain me just because I don't look nice to them. There was even one instance when the lady just pointed me the shelf and I'll have to go there alone. Little did she know that I am buying 5 VCDs and will be paying in cash. She was in the cashier when I was paying and I really brought out all the money I have, bundled and fresh from the bank. When I went out, she said "Thank you ma'am, please come again". I should have blurted out "sure, as long as you'll learn to respect customers" but I didn't waste my breath. I am also a mother of two, still unmarried but I am still with the same man. My eldest is 5 and I am looking for an affordable school here with good quality - not just the student-teacher ratio, books or classroom and facilities but teacher with good ethics too. Thanks for posting! At least we have burst out our emotions towards the system. I don't wanna say that the public education system here in the Philippines is nothing compared to the American system because some are still excelling.

She is only five years old and I onlywant her to be in the first grade to save money and maximize the time spend in school. What she will be learning in Prep were already taken in Nursery and Kinder. I think I was dressed suitably for a parent who is canvassing for the right school for her child. I don't think I would need to be in business suit to be taken seriously but if you'll ask me, I don't mind how I look like unless Ill be in official business. If the teacher was keen enough to observe, she would think that I am not a nobody since I've said CVC words instead of three letter words that my child could read. CVC (consonant-vowel-consonant) is somewaht technical already. I have met a lot of people who only took me seriously when I started talking and these were the ones who are really listening.

I pity those moms who are were not even able to finish high school. At least in my case, I won't feel so low about being treated that way because I know where I am in reference to the teacher who insulted me. I dont intend to enroll my kids there anymore. I would rather send her to a more expensive school who would teach her how to be a compassionate and respectful child.

you're right. good manners are important. and teachers should be role models. with that kind of teacher, i don't think she's be a good role model for children. i hope you can find a school that would fit your needs.

Yup, I agree with that I must not enroll my child there.Afterall, they are not the only school near us. Provided that they are affordable, quality education and good manner can never be bought anyway. Role modeling good attributes are more important than the tuition we will be paying. They must be happy that there are parents who are willing to work hand in hand with them. If I am just an ordinary parent, I won't mind how my child would fare in school and let them do the teaching and I will just pay the tuition. But I am not like that so I don't really intend to enroll my child there anymore. Thanks for your time!

I am not sure if she was the principal or the guidance counselor because she was even asking me to bring my child this afternoon or tomorrow for assessment but I insisted that the assessment must be made after the reading class and now, it must only be a diagnostic test to check where they must concentrate in teaching my child. I was just so disappointed with the way she treated me and I don't wanna see myself being in that position again. I don't also want my child to be in that kind of environment. To think that they are not even the best school here in San Pedro, Laguna yet they had treated me that way. I even went first to a private school near our house and the one I talked to was the owner and I was treated nicely. Congrats to you and I hope you are not in a rewarding a career. I was a valedictorian too but I was a bit disappointed with myself because I haven't taught in a school for a year, I only work parttime as tutor since I have kids to attend to.It is still rewarding though.

Yup, I know about inclusive school but I would say that my child, who was an only child for almost five years (I just gave birth to her little sisi last year) is somewhat egp-centric, a little hyperactive but basically, a regular kid and need not be included. Actually, she doesn't even have to be in a reading summer class but I just wanna maximize her time and potential, as well as the money we would be spending. I am still looking for a school for my child and that school is now not in my list because I don't wanna have another encounter with that teacher.

I strongly agree with you. We don't have to tell people that we are professionals or have this or that label just to be respected. Thanks for reading my post and for responding. I just wish that teacher learned too because I barked at her well enough for the other teachers kept quiet when I started talking in English and explaining my side.

Thanks a lot! Now I am having second thought in enrolling my kid to that school. It's way cheaper and their curriculum is good but with a teacher like that, I'd rather spend more than let my child be with a rude teacher.

Yeah that's true. Many people who claim to be fluent in English aren't. I know that I try my best and English is my first language, but I still don't use proper grammar when I speak. I always stutter really bad because I am thinking of what to say and trying to say it at the same time lol!

You got it! My reason for looking for flash cards with pictures is to catch her attention and maintain her focus. You would know anyway if the child is reading or not (like saying alligator for crocodile when it was already written below or beside the picture that it is indeed a crocodile) so I still encourage picture reading aside from the fact that I have introduced her to iconic reading when she turned 1. I am good with written English because I could review my grammar and spelling when I have enough time but I am not that good in speaking because I tend to be conscious with my grammar too. Unlike some people, they say that they are fluent with English when in fact, if you will nalyze it gramatically, they have lots of mistakes.I am glad I have good English teachers back in high school because I have practiced my Filipino more often in college.

I don't wanna homeschool my child because even now that she has a sibling, it seems that ego-centrism remains in her. I hope she will learn to ourgrow it by being in a school. At least now she learns how to wait but when in our house, she seems to insist to be "served" first. Aside from the fact that I am the fact, I am also a teacher, a licensed one here in our country but do I have to tell the teacher that I am also one of them in order to gain respect? I don't think that I need to tell them that. I am one of the their client so they must at least show me some respect. I am still angry and I don't wanna enroll my child there anymore.

Thanks! I am still in the process of choosing which school and I already had this terrible experience so that school is out of my list.

Her point for not admitting my child is she cannot read sentences yet but she can read phrases like "cat in the mat, the fish is in the dish, top and a pot, etc". I asked her if it is ok that my child be assessed instead after the summer class but since the summer class will not be focused on reading, math and science but on socialization so that they won't throwing tantrums on the first day of school. I don't have problem with my child's attitute but I am after her ability to read, I want it to be continously honed and two months out of school would make her forget some of what she had learned. Some daycare centers, especially the DSWD supported daycare centers doesn't focus on academics but I would say that my child's former teacher was great because she made sure that my child and her classmates could read a few words and phrases and even copy her own notes. But you are right, some of their lessons are indeed difficult like Roman numbers from 1-50, subraction/addition with regrouping and even fractions. They even had a project which my husband had done patiently (a model community, A 3d paper model with the church of Notre Dame as the highlight. very intricate indeed!) "What if you don't take any degree or undergraduate, so she will degrade you even more." Regardsless of the degree or what I was wearing, the teacher must have shown respect because I am a client of their school. I went there to inquire so she must at least be respectful.

First, I am looking for a school where I could enroll my child possibly in prep or in Grade I. HEr first question was her age, so I said , "She is 5, turning 6 this October". Then she asked where she had her Kinder. I replies "Just in a daycare center for both nursery and kinder." She assumed that she cannot discriminate sound but I said she can read "abakada" (Filipino) and CVC or three letter words. If she was keen enough, she should have noticed that I used CVC which is a technical term for educators. My child, in the public school standard is alreay OK except for her age - public schools only accept children in Grade who are 6 by June 30 and provided that they can read CVCs. I was dressed suitably, at least for a mom who is looking for a good school for her child. I don't think I should be in business suit to be treated with respect. I am not asking her to accelerate my child in Grade but what i was asking is for my child to be considered for Grade I provided that I can teach her how to read and understand sentences before classes starts in June. We tackled about a lot of things until we started talking about picture reading and those with no pictures. So I said I have some materials at home but I was looking for something that would catch and maintain my child's attention because when I start teaching her, she couldn't focus and would try to divert her attention to other things that's why am also interested about summer reading classes but I would still do my part as the mom. Until suddenly, in the middle of her explaination, she blurted out that i would not understand because I am not a teacher. An administration officer, whom I just met the day before I went to that school said "ah, ma'am, she is also a teacher." That's when the mean teacher stopped lecturing me. Her tone changed and began asking me what was my degree and all. She was asking me to have my child be assessed that very day or the next day but since she had said that they don't offer special reading class, then there is no use enrolling her there because what I want her to do this summer is to learn and enjoy reading. I know how reading classes should be handled because I have MA units in reading, You can't just force a child to read or memorize sounds, it would be better if you continue catching her attention and rewarding every milestone she achieves. I am not forcing my child to child but we cannot deny the fact the she needs it. A child who knows how to read CVC, CVCV or CCVC or CVCC words but don't even know how to different here and her has not learned at all. So reading is not just reading words or sentences but is a very complex process. I am not trying to push my child to be in Grade if she cannot do it but I cannot see any problem bargaining if it will be for your child's future. I wanna maximize the time, effort and money we will be spending for my child's education that is why I wanna know all the things I must know before enrolling my child in a certain school.