Whew!!!...Well what do you know? My first tell off on Mylot.
By tjades
@tjades (3591)
Jamaica
April 2, 2008 11:40am CST
You know how you surf around on Mylot looking for interesting topics to comment on. Well last night I landed on one that was of a religious nature thou it was a rant.
I have religion as one of my interest but really never stopped to comment on any until last night I did so on two discussions. One of the posters made me know just how they felt about my contribution to the dicussion and I sure dont think its over yet. Real anger was shown to just about anyone who deared to say something that pointed in the opposite direction of the rant.
Well I am never one to tangle. I say my piece and have a discussion even if we dont see eye to eye but I aint gonna tangle. The nature of a discussion is that it attracts various views on the topic, not just like views. In my opinion I may not take a liking to someone's comment on my discussion but I am not going to cuss them out. I think to do so is below the par of any discussion. I learn from and respect each participant and also learn the art of tolerance for another mans view.
Well the line between a discussion and a tangle is definately not thin. It takes two to tangle and I dont tangle so I leave that alone. Lesson learnt..........Leave religious discussions alone.
Whats your take? I surely wont cuss you out whatever you say (smile).
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@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
Well, you sure learned something new on Mylot. Anyway, things do go that way every now and then. In my point of view, if someone starts a discussion, I write my ideas about it. If they don't agree, well, that's their opinion. I can't change that. We all have our point of view about everything, and we can't expect the whole world to agree with us just because we believe we are right. For me if someone is not in agreement, just to leave it at that and respect that person's point of view.
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
I sure did Paulsy. In college it might have been called a grubbing for the freshman o r an induction into college life. Im sure things will continue to get a bit heated every now and again. Afterall there are so many of us here with so many different views.
I just expect it to be a heated discussion at best not a tell off. Im just a bit jolted at this occurence but I'll get over it. Thanks for sharing. (lol)
@Rosekitty (19368)
• San Marcos, Texas
3 Apr 08
Morning tjades!
Guess you are in trouble if you talk and if you don't lol..shame this being the country we live in wih freedom of speech, you'd think it would be easier..oh well..keep the brain working and don't give up!
By the way loved this discussion!
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@recycledgoth (9894)
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3 Apr 08
To be honest I stay well clear of topics involving religion. You will probably find a representative of up to two dozen religions on here and all feel that their way is the right way and the only way, hence the often inflamatry nature of some of the discussions here.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Im learning that lesson Recycle. Hitting the iceberge every once in a while may be a natural part of navigating ones way around mylot I guess. Well this aint the titanic in all its stubborn pride, glory and self confidence so I wont sink. Thanks for sharing. (lol)
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
3 Apr 08
Well if everyone took your view, myLot would be as dull as a tarnished Pot! I respond to any discussion of interest to me, no matter whether I agree with it or not. If you look at my rating you will notice its not very High. But thats ok with me. I love a good discussion! I will get right into it with anyone, but only once!I seldom go back for more because then its not a discussion its an arguement, and I don't argue.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
The key word here is discussion.
We are here to discuss. Not tell off each other and that is the view of this discussion. A robust discussion is far different from a low down telling off. I say what I have to say and you do the same but when either of us decide to tell the other where to stick their this, that or the other all because of a difference in views it is no longer a discussion.
Be strong in what you say but there is no need to be downright rude.
@azahari33 (221)
• Malaysia
3 Apr 08
I've always tried to stay away from religious discussions. Not because I don't know much about religion or that I don't have my opinions, it's just that you always seem to come across people like this. It's always the case that in religion and also politics you will find fanatics who think that they are always right and that nobody should say anything against them. I find them to be hypocrites. I try to avoid these pople as much as possible.
@MoxieNox (54)
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3 Apr 08
Very interesting discussion! I always try to avoid any discussions that's about religions, cause like many here said, you're bound to run into these types of 'closed-minded' people who thinks their religion is the "one and only" religion that everyone should follow. Whatever happened to "Freedom of Religion" that's in our constitution? Of course, everyone's got an opinion, it's how they react to the debates defines who they are. If they can just agree to disagree without retorting to childish antics like flaming, cussing, etc, then we'd have world peace, wouldn't we?
~Moxie
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Heres a little twist to this. The rant was against religion. I agreed with aspects of the rant and simply expressed ways it may be dealt with. Its only after posting your comments and receiving the posters response that you realise it was almost like a trap to tell of anyone who is a christian or believes in Jesus. It was like a trsashing house over there. It was much like being ganged and torn apart.
Thanks for sharing Moxie. (lol)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I feel that people who tend to get offended from something that a person posts back in one of their discussions, needs to tend to expect that from people from time to time. Especially when it comes to Religious discussions on here. No one person is going to agree with everyone on here, but when someone takes offense to a post, then what type of Christian example (if they are leaning on that side), are they setting for themselves and others? Personally I feel this is absurd, and this person needs to be a little more respectful of others.
Continued Luck in here, and if I were you I would not quit responding to items of Religion... Just remind yourself to be a little more cautious is all.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Thanks KrauseHome. I will definately be more catious in the future.
The poster wasnt a christian though. The discussion mentioned some problems they had with christianity so christians who responded tried to address those points and give suggestions as how it could be dealt with. The poster was apparently terribly opposed to hearing anything from any christians or Jesus believers whatso ever but instead of just mentioning that in the post so that those persons would know not to comment just about all christian comments were chewed up and spat out.
I dont see how anyone could reasonably post a discussion and expect that all comments should be in line with their belieffs either. That is just absurd. Well we live to tell the tale and determine nver to fail so let us continue to enjoy ourselves here on mylot. Thanks. (lol)
@smacksman (6053)
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2 Apr 08
I quite agree with you that Mylot should be a place for discussion, for and against; pros and cons.
But I have also had your experience, even to the extent that the ranter then followed me around Mylot discussions putting the knife in.
My skin is too thick to let it worry me.
However, don't be put off religion as a topic. There are some splendid tussles there.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Well please do send me a bit of that thick skin Smacksman.
Anyways I guess all of that will fall inplace over time. It is a bit disconcerting though to actually have that happen. Being followed around I mean. Some times we do get so nasty with each other and all because our views differ. Nonsense.. Thanks for sharing with me and I look for to our sharing some more here on mylot. (lol)
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I'm sorry you had to go through that. It happens quite a lot in controversial type discussions which I avoid altogether. It's fun reading till it gets to the point where they start to get nasty and then the whole discussion is lost.
There really is no need for cussing in any discussion and I agree with what you have said in yours.
I don't tangle either! 
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Well we live and we learn which objects are too hot to handle and which substances are too poisonous to fool around. A lesson learnt ought not to be unlearnt and I surely will remember that.
I do agree with you that a good discussion is sometimes lost in hostility which is sad. Well thanks for bearing me up Maddy. Thanks. Much love.
@kbourgerie (8780)
• United States
2 Apr 08
A discussion is a talk between two people to exchange ideas or come to some kind of conclusion. I believe what we post are called "discussions". There is not right or wrong, everyone is entitled to their views or perspective on any subject. To get upset with someone because of their views is really wrong, especially on a site like this that invites you to discuss your viewpoint. If you post a discussion, you have to be prepared to receive both positive and NEGATIVE responses.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
You could not have said that better Kbourgerie. Of all the disagreements and difference of opinions which take place between poeple the worst and most harmful are those done out of meanness. I do not see why I should become hostile to anyone because they said something I disagree with.
We're all entitled to to be a bit strong in our resonse but definately not rude. We are all adults here and I think the discussions should reflect that. Thanks as always for sharing. (lol)
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@Samanthavv (1380)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I don't know. This little tell off you wrote seems like you're trying to tangle, but not look like you are. If it really wasn't something worth tangling over, you should have just dropped it, instead of making a subject over it. As for me, I say what I have to say in the most respectful way I can.
@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Thanks for stopping by to share Samanthavv. Here I see a good example of respecting the views of others. Our interpretation of a discussion will not always identify with that of others.
Now I never even viewed my post as a tell off or as an invitation for a tangle. I just simple stated how I was feeling. I commented on the discussion in question sometime last night where I recieved two responses before signing off. This morning I got up to three or four additional responses. Granted all were not from the same person but most were and I just felt as if I fell in an ant nest.
Now walking away from something in my opinion does not mean you have to be silent about it. I simply avoided making any more comments on that discussion and raised my own concern.
I understand your point about dropping it but after seeing the additional comments this morning I dont think so. Avoiding confrontations does not mean you allow other's to still your voice. As you stated in your response you say what you have to say but of course what we have to say cannot just end with someone elses discussion. You raise your own. Mutal respect to you and thank you once again for sharing. (lol)
