Do you jump to your child's defense without thinking?

Call it mothers instinct. I think it just happens when they are born. If you are a mother it is automatic.That is my baby and that is all. So go ahead. Protect 1st,ask questions later.You can always hear someone out later.

Of course I am protective and as a mother naturally want to defend my children at all times but I have learnt from experience that it is better to try and let them resolve things or at least hear the whole story before I jump to conclusions! I also know my childrens good and bad points and know that all kids lie sometimes for all different reasons! I hope that he will bring home a good report - I am sure that he will! xxx

I think it's a parents first thought. Of course we want our child to be the best and never do anything wrong. However, some parents can see their chidl for exactly who they are and they are human and they are going to make mistakes. Life is learning process for all of us. My son is only 2 and I know that I will jump first and think later. It's a parents natural instict to see the good in their child. I do think as my son grows, I will too and realize that he is not perfect, but he will always be my angel!!

I always jump to my Childrens defence whether they are right or wrong and I know my Children and I know when they are right or wrong If they are wrong I will defend them towards the other Person and I will sort it behind closed Doors with my Children in other words they got a Lecture and told not to do it again, it always worked You need to watch him very carefully and watch his reactions

no I never did, my son knew that I would come to his defense if he was right, and he would be punished if he was wrong. Many things that were just between him and other kids stayed that way, I only intervened if it was serious. children have to learn to be responsible citizens in this community, they don't learn if mommy is there overprotecting them.

Yes, I tend to do this with my oldest son as he is autistic. I've gotten into a couple of arguments with people that got mad at my son because they thought he was some dumb @$$ kid that was being a trouble maker. Though the first thing I did was apologise to them. But when they were still being rude and didn't back off I jumped to my son's defense without thinking and protected him like a mother bear protects her cubs. I absolutely hate it when people put my son down because he is different.

I am proud to say that I very rarely have reason to defend them! I think the only time I have had to do so is when my 8 year old clashes with my partner (not his dad). My partner doesn't seem to know how to deal with a child at all, he will immediately snap if something has happened that he doesn't like. I will tell him to leave my son alone but maybe sometimes I am too hasty and don't consider whether my son deserved to be condemned. Although, I sometimes think about it later and try to explain how a child works to my partner!

i think sometimes it will be normal to the parent to jump direct, but the best thing is we need to read & doule check so we are not going in trouble.if people will say something to our kids it will bling our ears most of mom dont like to hera from other what there children did specially in wrong situation.

My mother was always that way with my brother. I guess its motherly instinct but she never did that with me. Usually she was the one criticizing.

You seem to be over protective (which is a bit strange... considering the conversation we had previously). You are going to give him an inferiority complex by protecting him. And when he grows up... he will be shy and won't be able to stand on his own two feet. If you don't let him fight his own battles now... how do you expect him to fight them as an adult? All those things are part of life education... and it start from the day you are born. They actually say that you are what you were taught before the age of 6.

Yes I have been terribly guilty of this in the past. I was a single parent with my firstborn up until he was nearly 8 years old, when my now hubby came along as far as I was concerned I was my sons mum and no one else had a say. His real father denied him you see and so I was very protective of him and I did not want anyone else to have a say in how he was brought up. But my son did not want anyone else in his life apart from me and so would cause trouble wherever and whenever he could and once he realised that I was going to defend him at whatever cost he just manipulated it to his advantage. Of course I would defend him when he did something and say it could not possibly be him,refused to see that he was a little rogue, but unfortunately it would turn out that it was him. I would be so upset and disappointed in him and I would feel a fool to be proven wrong. I realised that I had to stop jumping to his defense so quickly and as soon as I did the bad behaviour stopped. My son is now 16 and has grown into a lovely boy but if I had carried on mummying him as I was doing then it could be a whole different story. We do not always see or admit that our little angels may not be quite so pure as we would like to think, but it is better to see it sooner rather than later.

I used to many years back . While he was in the second grade his teacher was complaining because he was not doing all his homeworkon how to tell time and I told her flat out that he had known how to tell time since hewas in the first grade so was probably bored. well I thought afterwards duh I could have handled that a lot better so I wentback later and talked to her she was very rude and then the school superintendant came in and told her that my son had shown on his IQ test that he needed to be in a school for gifted kids so we moved him to a private school for the gifted and no more problems.

Being a teacher taught me a lot about children. They have a mind of their own and can be quite tricky when they're up to it. I have seen many parents go in a state of shock after finding out the truth about the childs behaviour when not in their presence. There were times when I came in the defense of a student I thought would do no such thing only to find that I was wrong. The truth is they have their faults just like adults do but the difference is that the adult is there to guide and correct wrong tendencies. I have come to realise that children can play on the emotions and trust of their parents if they need to have their own way. I have seen some jaw dropping things happen. I have come to appreciate the way my parents brought us up, not just taking our word for it but ensuring that they do their investigations before they give us their full support. We were not bad children but they did not take that for granted. The other side to doing this as a parent is never allow the child to feel as if you have no faith in them. It is best to let them know that as a parent you have to be sure of what is going on so that you do not wrongfully cause embarassment to anyone. My parents had that covered and that left us with little lee way to get up to much of a hanky panky. It was too much hassle to think of a way out. We have adopted that same approach with my nephew and so far we like the results. They can be so cute and innocent sometimes that our first instinct is to say "Oh no he/she did no such thing" or "Why did you cause him/her to cry". After the real story is found out I will speak to the one at fault as best as I can. It can be a tough task sometimes. (lol)