Setting the date
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
United States
April 3, 2008 7:37am CST
My fiance and I have been together just over four years. I was still married to my ex when we got together, separated but still married. My divorce was finalized last summer, and he proposed to me on Christmas. When we got together, we agreed that we wouldn't even consider marriage until we'd been together 5 years. Three years into our relationship, we knew we couldn't imagine our lives without each other. But now that we are engaged, I really want to set a date, but we NEVER talk about the upcoming nuptuals. It almost seems as if we aren't planning a wedding. I know he loves me, and doesn't want to live without me. And I know I live him, and can't imagine a single day without him. So why is it so hard to talk about our wedding?
Any ideas?
3 responses
@Galena (9110)
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3 Apr 08
I think because, for one reason or another, you've had your long engagement. whearas sometimes you get engaged, and that's the trigger to start planning.
maybe propose to him again, and then start talking about what you want for the wedding, and start planning away.
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@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
5 Apr 08
That's a good idea. I had to drop him off for the weekend. He's staying at a camping resort for a life training program. As he got out of the van, I said "this is a really beautiful place. Look a gazebo, you should find out how much it would cost to have a wedding here." He just chuckled, but he'll be thinking about that all weekend, cuz it was the last thing I said to him, besides I love you, be good.
hehehe
@snowzhxq (46)
• China
20 Apr 08
I think Marriage is not the most important if he love you and you love him and you can not live without each other. So I think keep the current relationship as before is not too bad before you want to have your baby.
@edgyk8inmomma (2157)
• United States
20 Apr 08
Marriage is important to me, even though I'm living with him, and we already have a child together, I believe God blesses a marriage. He doesn't want us living like we are today. It's not the most important thing, but if we want to receive the blessings God has in store for us, then we need to be obedient to what He is telling us.
On a side note, who said anything about having a baby? We already have a child together, and he is raising my three kids from my previous marriage as his own. We have no desire to add anymore children to our lives. But thanks for the response anyway.:)
