My Stepson thinks we are making Harrassing phone Calls to his Mother!
By jennybianca
@jennybianca (12912)
Australia
April 3, 2008 10:57pm CST
This is really p..... my hubby & me off.
Hubby rang his 14 year old son the other day. Son accuses him of "ringing all day with silent phone calls".
Why the heck would he do this? He works at Police Headquarters in the Missing persons Unit. Why would he waste his too short work time ringing from a work phone, to make harrassing phone calls to his ex-wife?
Then the implication was that it was me doing it. As if...
Evidently someone hates his Mum, & thats very understandable, & made a lot of phone calls, whereby the caller hung up as soon as the phone was answered.
His Mum is so pyschotic, that should would have the level of mentality that hubby or I would do such stupid things.
I couldn't care less what the my hubbys ex thinks to be honest. But I am extremely annoyed that my step son thinks myself or his
Father would do such a silly act.
After all the years we have spent trying to teach this boy values & honesty!!
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8 responses
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
First off with your husband working at Police Headquaters really doesn't say that he wouldn't do it. There is so much on the news lately of corrupt police officers. I am not saying that your husband is one of them but there is a fact that there are corrupt ones out there. Anyway I think that your husbands ex is feeding your step son with lies that it is you guys doing it. I don't understand why a grown up would do it to be honest with you it is quite childish. As for your step son acusing you honestly don't worry about it. Both you and your husband have told him otherwise that you would never do such a thing. It is probably one of his friends with nothing better to do calling and hanging up to see what he is doing etc etc. Or maybe a girl that has a crush on him. I know when I was 14 people did that all the time. Do 14 year olds still do that?
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Apr 08
Yes, I know there a lot of corrupt Police Officers, including here. Even if my hubby were inclined that way, he is in an office with other people & it would very difficult to make all these phone calls.
Yes, my step sons mother is feeding him lies, & he should know better than to believe it.
I did suspect that it could be one of his friends, but he says his Mum knows whop it is.
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
Even if you are in an office with other people doesn't mean that you still couldn't do it. You are just dialing and number and hanging up. It is being discreet.
Well that's good that she knows who is doing it.
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Yes, fourteen year olds still do that and worse. It does sound like something a child would do.
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Jenny you must be a saint! After all the trouble your husband's ex and his children have caused I would have already drawn the line and told my husband that I did not want to be involved in any of the continuous drama they cause. Your
husband keeps allowing his present family to be hurt by the ex and her children. I feel his loyalty and concern should be with you and your children, one day he is going to have to choose between his past and his present family!
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@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I hope things are going better for you now. You are often in my thoughts.
Thanks for BR.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
Sadly, I think you are right. As much as people admire the fact that my husband goes out of his way to support his kids & get them to lead a better life, what people dont know is that they dont appreciate it & just use him (well, the son anyway).
Eventually, it may come that he will need to make a choice.
I am not a saint by the way. I get fairly aggro at my step son & my hubby.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I would tell him that we are not doing anything. If he has no proof, then he does not need to accuse. It sounds like his mother is sure filling his head with nasty things.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
We have had this discussion with him, & he agrees with everything, then behind our backs he goes off to Mum & tells her crap & believes everything she says.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
4 Apr 08
That is sad. Why dont they just trace the calls get caller Id something instead of accusing you.
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@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Duh she telling a big lie of course.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
Exactly. My step son now says that his Mum has been getting these calls for 2 months. It would be easy to get a tracer put on it, but she hasn't. Which makes me wonder why not?
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 Apr 08
It sounds like his pyschotic mother that's putting these thoughts in his head. I don't think but I could be wrong, that it's him coming up with these accusations but his mother doing it. What a low life of a woman to do that to her kids. Parents should never ever put a child between them. What a terrible shame. Hopefully this kid and the rest will grow up normal and come to realize what is really happening and hope they don't inherit their mothers nasty traits.
I started the discussion that you were waiting for. Check it out...
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Apr 08
Yes, it is definitely his Mother who tells him these lies. Unfortunately he is becoming very much like her, but there is hope for the girl who is 9 & not so influenced. That is what I meant the other day wi9th my discussion about my step children, meaning my step son.
I saw your discussion & am about to respond.
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@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
4 Apr 08
I want to say something else, I don't mean to be harsh and if I was, I apologize. It's been bothering me ever since so wanted to let you know, I do apologize.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
Please do not apologise, there is no need. I know how it comes across when I talk about my step son, & it is very understandable that people think I am mean. I have tried hard to do the right thing by him, but I am finding it very difficult to overcome what he did last year.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
4 Apr 08
Apparently he is home for some of these calls. But when I asked him about it 30 minutes ago(after I picked them up), he told me lies, lies & more lies.
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@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
5 Apr 08
He thinks that way because if she could, she would do it to you and your husband. It is logical,in an extremely twisted way. She is paranoid, and guilty, and other people dislike her, too. He is just thinking the way she thinks.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
5 Apr 08
You are so right.
She not only thinks this way, she has acted this way. Many years she was traced making anomyous phone calls (many of them) to hubbys sister.
Then two years ago she was making them to us. That is why I now have a silent number for my landline & mobile.
My step son does indeed think the way she does, which is a big worry.
@Hunkydorey1 (28)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Jenny you might find out if its not some other child from school calling the boy...I had alot of that with my kids when they where in school.... as we all know kids love to prank call and are imature enough to do such things.If the EX is getting these she may want to believe you and your husband are behind it. It may seem far fitched but some exs think that they are still important enough to get this attention. Good luck on your detective work and finding the culprit.
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@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
6 Apr 08
I have suspected that it could be one of mt step sons so-called friends, but he denies it.
