where do you draw the line?

well, I mean, like what is verbal abuse? Emotional abuse? Physical abuse is so obvious. I mean, does drinking come into play? if that is a factor. do you say you should stop drinking? or just be done with it?

if drinking is a factor, yes, make an ultimatum, he can give up the drinking, or you. And it has to be cold turkey right now, not "I'll try". Any abuse, no matter what type is unacceptable (physical seems so obvious, but really its the easiest of them all to get over, pain goes away, emotional scars last a lifetime). The most important thing is to stick to your word. Don't say "next time this happens I'll leave" unless your really going to leave.

ops, sorry, left a bit out, you asked "What is abuse (different types)" Clearly, physical is any kind of hit, or grab that is unwanted with VERY few acceptions (like pinching your butt). Mental, and verbal normally go hand in hand. Its putting you, or your family down. This can be a broad range of things, but typically things like "your dumb", "you'll never amount to anything" and most common "without me you'd be nothing". Abusers of this type generally want their victem to feel like they "can't" leave, like they won't make it on their own. I've seen people with this type of abuse, they don't even know they are being abused after a while, I'll hear things like "he yelled at me for burning the dinner, but it was my fault, I shouldn't have burnt it". When you start thinking that his actions are your fault, chances are, your being abused to think like that.

If a guy tried to make me have kids, I would leave him.

huh?

I get the first three but what do you mean exactly?