Infidelity, how do you deal with?
By mefadon3
@mefadon3 (296)
United States
7 responses
@venshida (4836)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Interesting you wrote this post, I just found out today that the person I have being involve with has being cheating. I was suspicious a long time, but I could not find concrete proof. Well, I got it today, and I called him just before I left for work left a message on his voice mail. I cannot use cell phone at work so my cell is on vibrate he has called 4 times. I have no intention of staying with him. I need someone who is going to love and not cheats. I prefer to be by myself than accept this type of behavior. I believe once a cheat always a cheat.
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@AnnieOakley1 (5596)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
I agree 100%. Cheating is lying and I do not deal very well with dishonesty. Plus, if you are stupid enough to put up with it he will surely do it again, with your blessing, as far as he is concerned. Human nature is just like that. By putting up with something you are condoning it.
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@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I don't know what made me write this post, but I see why now. I hope you can find someone that will be faithful to you. I think cheating is wrong and I have been on both sides of the fence. It is true what they say, what goes around comes around. I do not agree with once a cheater always a cheater, though. I recovered from cheating over 7 years ago. I stopped cheating on my girlfriend when we decided to get married, but then she cheated on me and we are not together and we have been divorced over 2 years.
@greemeyes (32)
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9 Apr 08
im sorry for your lost it sucks when the person you love cheats but it also sucks when your are the person cheating and you can't figure out why. I cheated on my baby's daddy I feel horrible and I dont know why. maybe because he is never around, or because he always puts me down but I love the man for some strange reason and the love alone make me sick everytime I think about how I cheated.
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Several years ago I found out that my partner of 9 years had been cheating on me and alot of the girls he was cheating on me with were my own friends. Girls I'd known for years. I guess deep down I knew I just didn't want to admit it. Well, we split up and after a couple of days he came around wanting to patch things up and I really did sit down and think about it. The truth was I couldn't trust him to go to the store without trying to nail someone in the produce aisle. If I couldn't trust him then there wasn't any point in trying to patch it. We went our seperate ways. I moved on and met my Hubby and we're very happy together. He moved on and married some girl and cheats on her now.
I don't believe that cheaters can change. I don't even know if they really want to. I know that without trust you don't have anything for a relationship and I know that there are millions of other "fish in the sea".
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
30 Jul 08
No, I'm not friends with any of them anymore. They got kicked to curb right along with him. I'm a firm believer in "Everything happens for a reason". You may not know the reason when it happens but there is a reason. As for someone changing, I guess that would depend on how much the cheater want to. I've never known a cheater that quit which is why I said I don't believe they can. Maybe one day I'll meet one that has.
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
30 Jul 08
Wow. That is wild. He was sleeping with your girlfriends? That is crazy. Are you still friends with these girls? I am glad that you found your husband and that you guys are happy. However, I do believe cheaters can change. It will take God to change them though. Thank you for your post on this subject.
@mememama (3076)
• United States
5 Apr 08
I'm married, so I'd ask for a divorce if he was cheating. I've been cheated on in a few previous relationships, took the a-holes back-and guess what? They continued to cheat! I wouldn't want to go down to their level by getting even. I'd do what I did last time, kick him to the curb.
@julievy (593)
• United States
5 Apr 08
That happened to me (about 17 years ago) I kicked him out on the spot and never went back. I knew then that I could never trust him. I was his second wife, the first one had dumped him because he was sleeping around (not with me). Once a cheater, always a cheater - I just wish I had realized that before I wasted 11 years of my time with him!
I do have to admit though, he gave me two beautiful sons. He never did support them after our divorce... but they're great kids and I'm glad that I have them (and a beautiful grandson now too).
@jerryvikram (202)
• India
9 Apr 08
if i am not married yet i will insist her not to cheat me again. if she continues it will definitely leave her. if i a married i will definitely kill her and i will set it up. i could not digest it
@ayessa (1583)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
If ever my partner now will cheat on me, I'll surely dump him. I really hate being cheated cause I am not a cheater.
If we are married, same thing. I'd rush to get a divorceto end our relationship.
Trust is very important for me. Without trust we will never have any relationship even platonic one.
I am not the person who will get even. I believe in karma. So I'll let nature decide for him.
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
4 Apr 08
Well my mans do good to me to let him go even if he cheated (but shhh dont tell him that) Honestly I have 100% faith he wouldnt so its easy for me to say. Hes providing for me and my kids he can fix or build anything I need and he treats me good id be silly to ever let him go.
@mefadon3 (296)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I'm not trying to judge you or anything of that nature, but you would not leave him if he cheated. What if he continued to cheat? What would you do then? I understand that you can work out relationships through cheating and if you can do it then my hat is off to you. Are you saying that he could cheat on you if he continued to treat you well?
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