Should I still continue with my girlfriend??

wow... based on your story you are like holding your girlfriend in the neck. yes you are possesive but i would just like to inform you that you and your gf is two different individual. dont let her change the way she is just because of you. she is not your maid to follow everything you say. if she feels that the relationship does not have much space to grow then i dont think that you and her will be happy in this relationship. how old are you and your girlfriend? your girlfriend sounds like a very out going person.... i think you need to find someone who is shy like you. welcome to mylot vis, happy posting

I'll tell you what. If my daughter were dating a boy like you, I'd advise her to run as fast and as far as she could from you. The first thing that grabbed me was "I have allowed her". YOU allowed HER? Are you her parent? You sound extremly controlling!! Then you scolded her??? I have dated men like you and I have felt compelled to lie to them simply to avoid an argument and then I broke up with them because for one thing , I never cheated nor never would have. I left my parents when I was 18 and I don't need some guy telling me how to live my life especially when he hasn't figured out how to live his own. I also have found that most guys that do not trust me when I have done absolutely nothing wrong are really the ones that are not trustworthy. Trust is everything in a relationship. When a guy has treated me as you treat your girl it is like saying i am a tramp and I get very insulted because i am not. I would love to sit down and have a chat with your girlfriend...she deserves much better than how you are treating her.

It seems you are actually very much possesive. don't get me wrong. may be this is getting into trouble. May be she is feeling this too much. it seems you just don't like her meeting boys. that can't be like this. don't you believe friendship? Also when you say you logged in to Yahoo, it seems her Id. is it? so it was spying. this can ruin it. I am not saying she is all correct but pls everyone should have some space.

no you better find the right girl for you.. just be patient.. and ask God to help you fine the right one that will love you honestly and pure

Well in my opinion,you are so sensitive that you cannot relaxe when facing your girlfriend meeting other boys.Maybe there are also problems with your girlfriend,it is you who are breaking your love.First you should relaxe and tell your girlfriend how much you love her,and then have a deep talk with her,after you love her so much,you have to do some things.If your girlfriend already hasnot loved you any more,that is all right,just move on!

Trust is the most important thing in a relationship. If you do not trust each other, the situation here is getting worse. besides,you two live in different cities.I am sorry to tell you that you should not continue with her. I know it is difficult, but short time hurting is better than long. actually, I broke up with my boyfriend yesterday. We study in different school. He fall in love with a girl in his school. Though I feel sad, but I understand that distance is the obstacle. above is my opinion. No matter what decision you made. Do not regret,to be brave and just face it. wish you luck!

Well, there are two words called freedom and space. If you try yo take control on these two then the other person will definitely feel being corner to one place, where for everything first she has to take permission form you or has to inform you in advance. First create bond and faith between both of you. I know you love her like anything but still be a person she want you to be. Ask her views, ask her what she does not like and like. Rest have wonder fulday

First of all, I think if I was her I would have felt a little violated by you sneaking in to my yahoo account and looking at my personal and private life. It doesn't sound like she wants just one boyfriend right now and maybe that's a good thing that you found that out. Young girls can be very fickle. I think you should find some girl who wants a serious relationship, but honestly, at your age, that usually doesn't happen, and it shouldn't. You're too young for this. Go have fun with your friends and forget the girls for now....there will be plenty of time for them when you are more mature. Stick to girls that live close to you.

You "allowed" her to meet boys? What are you, her owner? Seriously--get a grip. And why did you have her password? What business do you have spying on anyone? She has lied to you, and in your shoes I'd break it off--but I seriously think you need to work on your insecurities before getting into another relationship. You have a right to ask for certain boundaries in any relationship, but they need to be negotiated explicitly and agreed upon before they're in place. You also have to expect that whatever restrictions you want to place on a girlfriend will be reciprocal. If you don't want her hanging out with male friends, or entering chat rooms, or IMing with males, you don't have any business hanging out with female friends, chatting, or IMing with females. My ex-husband was so insanely jealous that he caused me to lose a good job, because he kept calling all day or even showing up there. Outside of work, he actually followed me around at times, or called or paged me several times an hour when we weren't together. When we were together, he was constantly touching me, like he was marking territory or something. It drove me nuts! I wasn't cheating, never have and never will--but he made me so crazy that I was nearly willing to give him something to "find out" just to get back at him. I later found out that HE was unfaithful, so he assumed that I must be too. In fact, every truly jealous or possessive person I've known was unfaithful. Is that why you want your women on such a tight leash?

Wow..ok first of all..i don't know where you live but htere isn't alot of women around here thats gonna let any man tell them what to do like that...and I wouldn't worry about it too much because I am a guy and I know that women are gonna have guy friends and all of that and thats normal...I mean as long as you don't suspect anything of going on(such as things start to sound a little strange)I wouldn't worry about it too much...I mean like I said that is a normal part of life like I am sure that you have friends that are girls...well women have freinds that are guys and if she loves you she won't cheat on you and if she does..then it just wasn't meant to be and you need to move on to another girl that won't cheat on you...so just give her a chance to prove that she can be trusted...I know soemtimes you might get a little uncomfortable...but it will pass... JHL930

The same thing happened to me, my girlfriend went to wish her male friend for his birthday and which I never liked. That was utter disgusting for me. Instead of suffering alone like you are doing now, I gave a call to my other friend, of course female, and asked her to go out with me. I took her with me on ride, I wandered with her and I walked past my girlfriend's house. She saw us together. The very evening she came, she cried, she yelled, she screamed and I promised her that I would never do that again but only if she commits thing like that in future. She knew what I was upto. YOu shouldn't always be suffering brother, if your girlfriend truly love you, she should be back, else, she must be fooling around. Don't give her second chance and don't you put yourself as an alternate to her. good luck to you ..

Trust is a very important part of a relationship. If you can't trust someone you can never truly be comfortable with them. It sounds like this relationship is too stressful to maintain. You shouldn't have to check her messages like that, nor should you. If she leads you to feal like you need to do such things, this might not be the girl for you.

hi i have male friends that i talk to on the internet and i have been happily married for 14yrs and my husband knows about it but he doesn't go looking in my messenger or my when i'm on the internet as he trusts me and like i said i even talk to them when he is about because he knows that i'm with him at the end of the day and not out about meeting these guys i think if you really do like her then you should trust her more as a relationship should be based on trust and what you did was wrong by going into her messenger. yeah maybe she lied to you cause she knew that you would react in this way you must think to yourself that she is only talking and not doing anything that she should'nt be doing.

vishalshah... 'we r the same u and i'. i am also soft,sensitive,shy and possesive. my girl had friends(boys) but not many(only 2). she talks to them often but they r from schools. i really dont like her talking to boys. we r in same class but she is hosteller. i get some feelings that she does something wrong. i told her that i dont like her talking to boys (i'm outspoken). she agreed and stopped talking. one day (1.5 years later) i came to know she talked to her girl friends lover(boy). next day i got angry n didnt talk to her. on seeing her i couldn't forget her. i cried at her and said 'i never talked to any girls u know, then y r u doing like this'. after that she wont talk to any one. i say u that u can't forget her. but u will some day take it easy. say her that i dont like it. if she continues it u can leave her because she needs only fun from boys and not love.

I think you should trust her if you love her.I admit being a heartthrob with many boys running after me but my bf never doubted my loyalty.but this is another catch,if she loves you,she would avoid things that would hurt you.But I guess what she did is just an ordinary girl thing.It would not be nice hanging out with girls all the time.Guys spice up girls' lives.I guess it is also necessary for her to hang out with others too because she might grow tired of you if it will be always you that she'll encounter.

Hello! Relatioship is trusting, being honest and believing you, and openess and no secret!If you have doubs think and let go. Will you accept what your girlfriend doing at your back? Why don' you talk o her sraight to the point until when will she stop doing things like chating and meting boys. Maybe your girlfriend is not yet sure of what she really wants. Talk to her and give hr an ultimatum.. now it's up to you... Have a nice day! Life is so simple don't make it complicated!

I think you are not made for each other. It is better to stop this relationship. It will hurt you for some time but time is a great healer. You will get it out of your system.

Well i think, you should be more sensitive. try to weight things. I really believe in a saying that one word is enough for a wise man/person. You mentioned that you have confronted her already about her meeting with other boys, then she should be able to understand you as her girlfriend. If she keeps on doing it over and over again, then i can conclude that she doesn't love you enough.

try you best to communicate with her, and find the truth.If she really don't love you.Stop your relation.Time will let you forget her.

DUDE ... as u guys live in different cities .... these things are bound to happen. as far as i think your relationship is not that deep, either you guys have not been together for too long or u don't trust her at all ..... YES. if she is going out with her male friends WITHOUT informing u, that means 2 things... #1. as u say... she might be lying to u.... #2 she is just too scared of u and feels that u might just get all hyper for nothing. in any case .... i wud suggest u to go and meet her face 2 face.... tell her what u feel. tell her that u are not comfortable with such an attitude ..... and try to find a solution URSELF rather asking ppl over here ..... the say "if u love something, set it free .... if it comes back its urs otherwise it never was"