Girl chase boy: can you accept it?
By wnbwnbwnb
@wnbwnbwnb (426)
China
April 5, 2008 1:13am CST
In my cultrue,girl shouldn't do this.When it comes to girls, there are words like "shy","polite",etc,etc. And girl who chases a boy may probably be called"desperate", or even "cheap".
But the thing is men could be equally shy as women,so if the girl doesn't take the frist step,then there would be no hope for this relationship!
Although more and more people accept the truth that women have the equal right to chase her own happy,it's still sort of embarassed for a girl to chase a boy!
So,what do you think about it? Do you think it could be doomed to fail right from the beginning?
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13 responses
@gemini_rose (16264)
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5 Apr 08
Well, I guess I can see the points about it being bad for a woman to chase a man, but to be honest it never stopped me! I was always chasing someone, mainly just for fun especially if I found out it embarrassed them. But when I first met my hubby, I chased him and then the second time we met we sort of chased each other, we have been married for nearly 7 years now and together for 9. I do not think it matters anymore, sometimes boys are too shy to go for what they really want so the girls have to take the lead!
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@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
girl chasing boy is not applicable in our place too before, however due to too much liberation and western counties influence there are some women now who are doing the chasing to the men. these ladies are more of a liberated type which i presume the boys don't favor too much. i have a lot of guy-friends and they all want a girl which has a high standard of morality and does not do the first move in chasing. for them chasing is a guy thing.
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
5 Apr 08
In Canada Both genders are equal under the Law. In my book equal means Equal! If this doesn't mean women are equal with men I don't know what does? I think its quite proper and right that women have equal Rights. I realise that the Pope does not believe women are as equal as men, but He's behind the times. Hes way out of date! Yeah! Sure! why can't women go after the man of their choice?They have a perfect right, In canada anyway!
@270884 (1)
• Belgium
2 May 09
i am sorry to be so controversial but besides the fact if it is socially accepted , i am simply not turn on(emotionally and sexually) when i have to chase a boy or even make it way to abvious that i like him and thereby making it to easy for him. It turns me on if a guy takes the risk of rejection, it makes me feel special.i do not think this has something to do with equal rights.mother nature does not think in these terms. Men know that wamen do this! we are making them lazzy lovers.
@phillygirl606 (1112)
• United States
6 Apr 08
A girl chasing a boy being called desperate? I disagree, sometimes we know exactly who and what we want, so whats so wrong if we take the step to go for what we want. There is nothing wrong in my opinion with the girl approaching the boy, it just shows that she may be more out going than the other girl, and that she is determined to get what she wants.
@tntslaughter (2)
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6 Apr 08
Do I think it would be doomed to fail right from the start? Absolutely Not! I have been married now for 5 years and have been with my husband for 9 years. Had I not have pursued him, we never would have gotten together because he was too shy and quiet. I would hate to think of what my life would be like now had I not have chased him (as you say), he is the love of my life and we have two beautiful little girls as a result of it. There is no shame in pursuing your goals and dreams!
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
5 Apr 08
Girls do chase boys nowadays, and I think that it is okay, but the guys might not see it that way. I am still a little old fashion. I would never chase a guy, I would flirt with him and see if he meets me half way. Never chase the guy, let him come after you. Now, if you are already in a relationship, remember to make things as equal as possible, you do not want your man to think that you are a "damsel in distress".
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I know there are cultures that do not accept taht kind of behavior, but I think you are right that sometimes if a girl does not make it known that she is interested, the guy won't approach her. What could have been a perfect match would have never happened unless the girl acts first.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
5 Apr 08
We are in the generation that most of the people think outside the box. I mean very open-minded..So, there is nothing wrong for the women to take the first move as long as she will not hurt anybody else! We have the right to express our feelings too rather than regretting in our entire life for not doing things...Life is too short!
@jiangsl (377)
• China
6 Apr 08
Hi wnbwnbwnb,it is very ok for a girl to chase a man.I will admire her.Everyone has their right do something,include chasing boyfriend.I think she is a modern girl and she can liberate herself from ancient thought.A girl should be positive to chase a man who she likes.
@owstalaga (4707)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
i think doing this is ok. =) I don't see anything wrong with this. =)
@stonesir999 (36)
• China
5 Apr 08
it is more and more popular nowdays. in our country china there are many people who think the boy have the right to be after the girl he likes. but a lot of the younger don't think so ,they can chase who she loves .
you have the equal right to chase who you loves ,no matter the gils or boys you are.
