Why is it so hard to give compliments?

I think people do it because it's helping them with fusterations from theirselves. I always give my husband compliments and my children even though they are young I get compliments from my parents as well. As for my husband on the other hand he likes to complain and i guess insult. My husband does compliment me and very rarley insults me. I'm sorry you get so much criticizium from your family. Good question though.

If your going to look at it inside your house, it is really the majority of all siblings will hear criticism rather than compliments. About 80 percent criticism and 20 percent compliments. But those criticism in the house are the best criticism that i would heard in my life. From my brother, to my sister and even my mother criticize me. I believe so because i know they love and care for me. They criticize me for good and not to put me down to the level that i might hurt myself and resist them. They may criticize me but there a smile in their face that sending me signal to understand their words. Likewise, same word as criticize outside the house, often time we will be upset because it really hurt us even we know from ourself that it is not true. This is when we apply to learn how to manage criticism. Outside our home where majority compliments us and not criticize. They just let it and have no concern even others may laugh at us on our mistakes. But if it is just a light criticism and compliments, it is hard to accept compliments rather than a mild criticism. Remember: The first step in learning to handle criticism: Make sure you are really being criticized. Most of the time, if you bother to examine the situation, no criticism was really intended. Also, do not invite criticism by such asking insincere questions such as – Did you really like it? Or How did I do? If you can't take a frank and honest answer to such questions you are better off not asking them. And, hearing in mind how it hurts, you should not criticize others.

Don't worry, take their critics as an advice, you are not alone, there are many other family whose parents were just like this type. This was brought up from many factors in our parents childhood. Simple thought, they implanted from how their own parents who raised them by military system. They implanted the system now into their own to their own kids. Another factor is from the effect of parents who always spoiled them, so they only learn to receive only, but hard for them to gift. Receive means they can't take the negative feed from others, so they make critics on any snippets which are not suitable in their own heart. Hard to gift means it's rare you will see they will give you a compliment, they can, but for an extraordinary good result from others. So, don't take it as a bad reward. They are your own parents, try to take them as an advice, but an advice which is delivered in another way. Try to understand their way, even though it's disturbing. But none parents will hurt their own bloodline, as long as we respect them, no matter how bad they criticize on us. Grab only the positive feed from their critics.

Because humans are greedy.. we complain to get more of wat we wants.. When we give compliment, ple will tend to think that they have done enough.. Thus, complaints and insults has sort of becoming an encouragement instead of comlpiment.. LOL

parents dnt compliment us it du7znt mean they dnt lyk us. Sometimes over complimenting is annoying n u thnk they dnt mean. Thats why wen they do compliment u u noe thay mean it frm there heart.I in my heart noe my parents love me but they dnt compliment me coz i wiol get a big head and slak off. forexe with house chores the more they sai wow u do so much ur gonna slak off n think u do too much and ur siblings shud do more. Wen they dnt sai much u want to do more to keep them happi.

that is very truth. But i beliv if opur parents criticise us it is them showing us more how much they love us. My mum never compliments me bcoz she noes if she duz we are gonna get a big head for excample if we do alot of work in the house we may slack off. But wen she duznt complkiment me i keep wanting to do more to keep her happi.

Some of it is human nature. Many people assume another individual already has enough self-motivation and ego that they only need to hear the criticisms. It is also very popular to spread bitterness and insults, especially if that is what that individual was accustomed to receiving themselves. It beomes a cyclical pattern of negative energy and it takes a lot of positive thought and patience to break the cycle. Be strong, attentive, and listen to the messages not the delivery. Just because someone is rude does not make them wrong, just as compliments are sometimes hollow.

I don't know about that. I love giving compliments and making people feel good about themselves. If I see an opening for a sincere compliment then I make sure I give it. It's wonderful to spread positivity in the world and it definitely enriches your own life. I'm sorry to hear that your parents are so negative. You need to look in the mirror everyday and tell yourself that you love yourself. Try and shield yourself from insults and don't take them to heart.