Have you threaten a friend?
By jeanniemay
@jeanniemay (1798)
Philippines
April 5, 2008 6:02pm CST
I did. I have no choice and I think it was the only remedy.
I have a friend who owed me about $2500 since July 2007. Up to this time, it's still unpaid. She ignored all my personal demands to repay the amount. I told her that I will be waiving $275, her oldest personal debts but still nothing happened. I even asked a lawyer friend to make a demand letter for me and send it by mail but still she ignored it.
I learned last month that she is undergoing the program I went through.(It's a leadership achievement program that will guide, coach and help you realize your potentials and within 70 days, you must achieve some personal and professional goals with some guidelines and program initiations.) She noticed that the programmed helped me a lot not only financially and socially but also professionally. I am already performing better than before I went through the program. Maybe she is thinking, it could also become a big help on her life. (She never want to realize that things happen if we make it happen and not any program will make it happen for us.)
I tried to talk to her in all politeness and made her sign a promissory note. The first installment was suppose to be yesterday but again nothing happened. This time, I got pissed off. I threatened her through short messages sending in her mobile phone that I will send all my concerns about her to all the coaches in the program and all her teammates including all the graduates in that program. For the first time in 7 months, she replied and renegotiated, promised to settle 10% of its indebtedness today.
I am still crossing my fingers and hoping that she will comply today.
If you were in my situation, what could be your remedy? Will you be doing just as I did? What could have you done?
What will I do, if she will not comply to her promises today?
I don't know but the trust I've given here is unlike before..
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8 responses
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
yes I would, and take her to court as well if you have to. So did she pay back the 10 percent today?
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
Only 3% yesterday. I'm looking forward for the 7% today. Still crossing my fingers.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I hope that she follows through this time. I am not sure if I would be that calm with her about it right now. I would be boiling over it by now too. She needs to pay you what she owes you. I would seek an attorney also and let them handle it if she does not comply. I would not trust her again either even if she makes a payment today. She is being rediculous!
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
Yes, I cannot make myself trust her again and that's definite. I am still crossing my fingers on her promises.
She gave me 3% of what she owes today and promised to give another 7% tomorrow. I guess, my treat worked.
@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I can understand how it got to that point. I used to watch my nephew for my sister when she worked. She would pay me out of her tips, I counted on that money everyday. She kept putting me off, she said I will pay you tomorrow, tomorrow wasn't coming. I had to finally tell her that if she didn't have money with her not to bring my nephew over, she came with money and stayed current after that. She only gave me $5 a day but back then, that was alot of money to me. I was a struggling single mom with a baby.
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@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
Yes, it feels better when we also teach people how to teach us fairly..
Great example. Thank you for that input.. 
@Justme2007 (1848)
• United States
6 Apr 08
You can take her to court,but how did she get all this money out of you at one time? Because if this person didn't pay you back the small amounts she wasn't going to pay the big amount. They have a saying that if you loan someone money make sure that it is money you won't be needing and won't expect it back and if you get it back thats a plus.
See some people think that if you have it and they don't that you should want to GIVE it to them.Some people mean well but they don't do right. I hope she returns your money god bless
@djmarion (4898)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
i understand your situation and i too will resort to that if left to no choice. lending money even to your friend is really a big pain especially when the time comes that you need your money back.
i have the same experience with my friend, she owe me a big amount of money 4 years ago and until now hasn't paid it fully, part of the money is still left unpaid, few months ago i send her a message asking for my money but she said she has no money yet to pay.
i was really in need at that time but i let her delay the payment, another month passed and i ask her again but still i receive the same response. i was so mad at her that i want to yell but respect our friendship.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I have tried this and what I did is to remind everyday and make him feel that I helped him and now that I need it I hope he will understand..Honestly, it took a while before he paid but I never trusted again..I feel like I have spent more cards in my phone by calling him everyday!
@jeanniemay (1798)
• Philippines
6 Apr 08
Wow! Everyday is really tiring. I'll try to do that. Thank you for sharing. T'was a good idea.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
6 Apr 08
That is a large amount of money to lend a friend jeanniemay and I think what you're doing is hopefully going to help. I am not sure what I would do other than keep hassling them about repaying me. Not sure either whether this will hold up in court but if she doesn't pay as agreed again, then maybe it's something you might need to look into.
It's a huge dissapointment when you trust a friend so much that you are willing to lend to them only to find them not willing to pay it back when they said they would.
