Why are only moms held responsible?

I absolutely agree withyou. I think that if a teen mom does something like that, they should also go after the teen father because they should be held responsible as well for not helping out the teen mom in making the best decision for what THEY had done together in the first place. I absolutely agree that the fathers should also be held accountable for that too. If there are parents out there that have a daughter that was put in jail for this type of crime, they really should go after the father of that baby too and have them put in jail as well, I figure they are just as responsible, they both put themselves in this predicament, just because he did not carry the baby, he is the one that planted the seed!!!!

I actually made that same point on that same discussion. I read thru many many of the posts and not once did I see any one question about the dad. They questioned the girl's parents and the girl but not the dad and certainly not his parents for not keeping an eye on their chld and all. I happen to have 4 girls but it makes me wonder if I had 4 boys wouldn't my job as a parent been so much easier? It's all pretty ridiculous. Even when girls get married, tradition here has it that it's up to the girls parents to provide for the wedding? I love my girls but my purse doesn't.

I could not agree with you more. It is time that guys are help accountable for what they do. I for one know that when I got pregnant, I had help in the matter. I certainly didn't get myself pregnant. I think it's a shame that the women are always to blame.

Good point. I always believe that parenting should be a shared responsibility. Women should never be prejudiced simply because they made bad judgements at one point or another. Men have their own share of bad judgements and they should be made to face the consequences of their actions too.

I responded to that discussion and I was saying some of the things that you said. The reason why the mother's are always held responsible is because they are the ones caught doing the thing they did. Where was the guy when this happened? Nobody is going to blame him even though he was the one that got her pregnant. And if they go find him he'll probably deny it to, like it's been done before. He's going to deny it so he won't get in trouble. But she wasn't the only being held responsible, the girls mother was being blamed too which i think is not fair. The mother can't be everywhere her daughter goes. Even though her mother is supposed to know everything that her daughter is doing, and her friends. There is no way that the girls mother can be with her daughter all the time to prevent stuff like this to happen. I think that the girl committed a mistake by getting pregnant and should have cried out for help while she was pregnant. And I was thinking right now, how did no one ever find out she was pregnant? I know she was wearing baggy plants but there are times when people wear pregnant clothes where will start talking and gossiping and things might have gotten around. Someone must have though along the lines that she must have been pregnant. I can't see how her mother didn't see it either or any of her friends.

I also read about that story earlier today on mylot about that mother trying to do that to her child and I thought that it was horrible...I mean what is a person thinking whenever something like that happens I couldn't even think about doing something like that...and I don't really know why the mom is only held resposible but that is the case a lot of times...now that i think about it... Iguess becaues that is the one that they catch doing whatever it is that their doing...that is the only thing that i could figure... JHL930