Mentors, Book-learning, Intuition, and Hands-on Experience

By Leca
@lecanis (16647)
Murfreesboro, Tennessee
April 5, 2008 10:36pm CST
My own path has been a mix of all four of these things, as well as many others, but these were the four things that popped into my head in thinking "How do you learn about paganism?" This popped into my head because of my (too-long) response to a discussion about coven vs. solitary practice, as I was thinking about some of the pagans I've known. I don't mind anyone at any level of experience as long as they are honest about where they're at, to clarify something before I offend anyone. I have some very beloved friends who are new to paganism, or who tried it and didn't like it, or who work purely off instinct, or who study more than practice or practice more than study. Everyone is new sometime, whether it was "blah number of lifetimes ago" or "last week" or "when I was born". That doesn't bother me. What interests me, though, is to think about what types of learning people prefer, or choose. I know most of us would probably choose to have a mentor if given the option, though not everyone is lucky enough to find one, and a bad mentor can seriously mess you up if you're too trusting. Books can be very useful, but also sometimes misleading, and sometimes doing things "by the book" can stifle a lot of your emotional and spiritual growth. Instinct is a key when it comes to most spiritual practice, but the power of tradition and culture that it doesn't tap into by itself is also of great value. And hands-on experience is a key, but one can't be faulted for not having it, and I know some awesome non-practicing scholars that I'd love to have in my circle anyday. In my own life, I started with a mentor. My great-grandmother. However, since I'm a Reconstructionist (read: nerd), I study a lot of history, and sometimes I've found myself reverting to earlier forms of things than she used, given more accurate historical information. I've also found things that are historically accurate that I reject off lack of usefulness in the modern world, my own honor code, and my own instinct. As for the hands-on experience part, I suppose I have that in spades, but I do often find that I love working with new people for a fresh perspective, and I've actually changed some of my own practices based on those fresh perspectives before. So even experience isn't everything. What about you? What forms your path? What twists has your spiritual road taken, and is there anyone you've worked with whose level or type of experience differed from your own in a way you found refreshing?
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6 responses
• United States
6 Apr 08
One of the reasons that I like reading your discussions is the way you have such a knack for "opening cans of worms", so to speak. I find that I love the way you think on so many topics. But this one really does open a can of worms for me. My personal path of spirituality, practice, etc., has been about the most twisty one that one could imagine. Visualize a steep mountain road with lots of complete switchbacks, and you're pretty close to how mine has been. I was raised as a child of a Lutheran Minister, so Xianity was my first spiritual training. Around the age of 8 I began to exhibit psychic abilities, visions, and paranormal abilities. My father, even though being a Xian Minister, allowed me to follow this through and begin studying and practicing. By age 13 I was approached by a Coven of Witches to learn Olde Witchcraft (not to be confused with Wicca, two very different animals). I was Priested in Olde Witchcraft on Samhain, 1971 and HP'd a yr later. I then began getting into Eastern Mysticism and studied Buddhism (in several forms), Hinduism, Tao, etc. Even went as far as to study for the Priesthood in Buddhism. Then had a "born again" experience and became a fundamental Baptist. Felt the "call to the Ministry" and began studies for ordination as a Xian minister. Went to Bible College (graduated with a B.Th.) and was ordained as an Evangelical minister in 1980. Went on to Grad School (Seminary) and earned a Th.M. & Th.D. in Apologetics (defending the faith) and a D.D. in Pastoral Counseling. While in Bible College got involved in "Messianic Judaism" and sought to delve into training in the Jewish belief system; so I attended an Orthodox Jewish Yeshiva (Seminary for Rabbis) for 3 yrs while in Bible College. Learned Hebrew, Talmud, Torah, Rabbinical Theology & Law, etc. Became the Asst. Rabbi at the Messianic Synagogue. After Ordination as a Xian Minister I began an Apologetic/Evangelistic Association. And several yrs later moved from the L.A. area to Philly, where I became the Director and Head Counselor at The Christian Counseling Association of Philadelphia. I went from extremely "low church" fundamental Baptist, through Charismatic, to Reformed Theology, into Anglican Theology, and there to higher and higher "Churchiness", until I finally ended up becomming a Roman Catholic. Which ended my career as a Minister. The Pope has this little pblm with married priests with children. LOL. So I went into Respiratory Care. While working at a large hospital in Bethlehem, PA, I met ppl from around the world, of every possible belief system. I found ppl in each and every one of those different religions and beliefs that could only be described as ppl that walked hand in hand with god. So I began to question my own faith and took a really good look at it. Ended up becomming convinced that Modern Xianity is NOT what Jesus taught. It is actually Pauline not the teachings of Jesus. So I ended up leaving Xianity entirely and went back to Metaphysics and Hermetics and Magick. Ended up studying for Ordination in a Hermetic Organization. (Yeah, I know, there I go again. Can't do things half way, I always jump right into the deep end.) Then I discovered my American Indian blood and that set me off on another tangent, studying American Indian spirituality. Was called to study under the Medicine Ppl. and eventually became the Spiritual and Ceremonial Leader and Inipi Keeper of The People of The Morning Star. When I moved back to PA, I ended up having ppl come to me for training in Native Spirituality. So for several yrs. I taught them. Then in the later '90's a number of students came to me wanting to learn Magick, so I began teaching them as well. Eventually all this coalesced into The Ekklektic Universal Church (basically a combination of everything that I've studied throughout my life) which we are now in the process of turning into The Ecclectic Universal Community (an Intentional Spiritual Community) without all the trappigs and titles of the old Church. Along the way of this path I also delved into studying Islam, Theosophy, Aboriginal Spirituality, Asatru, and many other forms of Paganism. What has led me on this appearantly eccentric path has always been my unquenchable thirst for Truth, and my refusal to stop learning. Ok, I may get the most long winded post award for this response, but see what happens when you ask a former Preacher / Teacher a question... LOL. We don't just say a word or two, we give you our life history. :) So to answer your question, I've learned from books, teachers, mentors, practicing, formal educational settings, AND making mistakes. All the above. Sometimes the last one has often been the most valuable way of learning for me.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Apr 08
Mmmm, worms, my favorite! :P Definitely an interesting path you have walked, my friend! I can't imagine having so many experiences with different belief systems. While I have studied most of the major religions as well as quite a few pagan ones, it's mostly been from a scholarly aspect rather than a "seeking" one because I've followed the same deities since I was a very small child. It must have been exciting to experience so many different belief systems from an inside/priesthood perspective. I would probably have written a lot more than I did if I were responding to this discussion rather than starting it, but I've learned my discussion topics are two long anyway.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Apr 08
Heh, I promise never to complain about that.
• United States
6 Apr 08
Your discussion topics are never too long. I may be one of the few ppl on here that enjoys reading the lengthy answers. I'm sure that as ppl get to know me they'll be yelling at me to make my posts shorter... LOL.
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@Galena (9110)
6 Apr 08
I learnt from my own family, initially. basic stuff, rather than the religious side. I honestly can't say where I learnt my religion. it's like I just knew it. it's like a story that I don't remember ever being told. but remember it. although my family is Pagan, the practices are taught, but not the religion. each is free to find it for themselves. so as a child I learnt Divination skills, spellcraft, and how it works, how to use energy, and about spirits. in my early teens, around that time my dad (who we no longer lived with) took an interest in Spiritualism, and joined a local group. this group used to meet at different members houses, and I often joined in, as it was at the weekends, when I used to visit. although the group had nothing much to do with Paganism, I learned a great deal from them, honing divination skills, trying new ones, like Psychometry, which I'd never tried before, learning a bit about essential oils, crystals (which I got really into at the time, and have now moved much away from as I'm not comfortable with the effect on the environment and communities where they're blasted out of the Earth.) I learned more about spirits, much more about meditation and pathworking, more on energy work, and trained as a Medium. I feel that my experience with this group really built my confidence, as they were all impressed with my "knack" and it really made me a better and more capable Witch, even though it had nothing to do with Witchcraft. then I started reading more books, getting involved in online communities, and researching other paths, other traditions, and the history of modern Paganism. I've met other Witches and Pagans, and learned a lot from them. although most I've met, it's fair to say, I know I'm a bit further along. I've still learnt from them though. you can always learn something, even from people just starting out. I don't really get involved with the wider community. in my experience, the people that tend to be heavily involved with other Pagans, beyond being friendly, and occasionally going to each other for help, tend to be shameless self publicising charlatans. it seems like nearly anyone who's worth knowing keeps to themself. unfortunately, because of the way they push themselves as pillars of the Pagan community, and founts of knowledge, it's the people playing at Grand High Poohbah that those seeking teachers tend to end up running into. and it's the blind leading the blind out there. on the occasions you go to a Pagan meet, you know it's the quiet ones watching the room that are the real deal. not the one surrounded by a circle of wide eyed newbies telling great tales of their exploits. that person is usually just an imaginative storyteller, who probably has the magical skill of a lump of rock.
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@Galena (9110)
6 Apr 08
hehe. cynical? me? no wonder I've been called the twenty something crone.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Apr 08
Thanks for sharing with me, Galena! I've always been interested in the way your family taught, sharing the practice but not the religion. I haven't known anyone who learned that way before. It sounds like you really had a great experience learning with the Spiritualist group, and then applying that in your own life to Witchcraft. I have some mixed feelings about the pagan community stuff. I have met some definite charlatans, but I've also met some pretty wise people who got involved with others to help, so it's kind of a mixed bag in my opinion. The key is learning to tell which is which.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
7 Apr 08
I learn from the same ways you have, I borrow from all religions to find where my place in this universe is, I find truth in every form of religion though no one religion can answer all the questions
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Apr 08
I'm glad you can build your own path in that way and find your own place in the universe. That's wonderful.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Oddly enough I started out with gut instinct when I was very very young...it was just a "feeling" if that makes sense..and i did, believed etc etc many "Paganish" things if that makes sense....Of course back then I had no idea that Paganism, Witchcraft, Wicca or any alternative path for that matter, existed...Fast forward to my 20s I met my bfs sister who at that time had been on her path for 15 yrs already..we got to talking one day and I learned that all the things I'd known, felt in my core and experienced throughout my life etc was an actual religion so to speak LOL...THATS when I started reading like a madwoman...NOW and for the past several yrs now its my instinct and experiences above anything that my personal path is based on...Sure I still read, research, learn from others via conversations etc etc and so on but life I think is the main factor at this point..more specifically, MY life if that makes sense..LOL Am I making sense..I'm only half here at the moment.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Apr 08
You always seem to make sense to me, but I could be reading something in you didn't write, or living in your head again. You know, I've heard a lot of people say that... that they always had the same beliefs but didn't know what to call them. It's interesting how our spirits will draw us to where we should be.
@livewyre (2450)
7 Apr 08
At the risk of entering a discussion which is not entirely in my sphere, I think your question can be applied to Christianity too... Some people have learned solely from reading the Bible, others solely from a Church or minister (mentor). My own approach is really combined and probably fairly typical. Originally the first thoughts are planted by mentor of some sort, whether it be a friend associate or a minister of religion. This is then followed up by study (in the Christian case of the Bible and maybe other books), and then lived out in experience whilst being fed by study and mentoring. Most Christians may also say that they feel led by the Holy Spirit along their journey and this might be equated with your intuition as although this is external. it usually manifests as intuition,instinct or conscience. Does that make sense? What I am trying to say that a balance of all these things is required, we cannot lean too much on a mentor because they are just human, study is all very well, but we benefit from insight from others (EG. those that might speak Hebrew or Greek), intuition needs to tempered by intelligence and learning and should not be followed blindly. Without all the others, hand-on experience will be poor...
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Apr 08
Everyone is always welcome in my discussions, and I really enjoyed your response. Thank you. You have some great points about balance here.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
17 Jan 09
Hi Lecanis, are you still around? Shamans and Elders Dreams Books Formal study Discussions with friends Prayers Meditation Dancing