How to resolve common relationship problems and get your love life back

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Most couples argue from time to time. It’s not the amount of conflict, but how one handle it. Destructive behavior, such as yelling, shouting, or withdrawing, is not appropriate. You need to develop a constructive conflict style. Here are some tips that might just work if you put your effort to it: 1. Respect each other. Speak and behave respectfully toward one another. Don't humiliate or put your partner down, especially in public. When you speak with each other, speak as you did when you first started dating. 2. Show appreciation of one another. Say "thank you," and "I appreciate that you . . . ." It lets your partner know that he or she matters. 3. Be realistic. Thinking your mate will meet all your needs — and will be able to figure them out without your asking — is a Hollywood fantasy. Ask for what you need directly. 4. Recognize that the two of you are different, come from different families, and have been raised differently. Rather than getting annoyed or assuming that your partner doesn't care, open up and be receptive to learn about your partner's different way of doing things. 5. Use humor. Learn to let things go, and enjoy one another more. Have fun! How many of us genuinely able and willing to do all these?