difference between child abuse and raising your child right

I agree with you. Parents have become frightened to discipline their children because of what might happen. I know in some areas it has become illegal to spank your own child! Well i think spankings work. I think that in some situations a child needs a good spanking. Time out does not work all the time. Taking away the wi does not always work either. But, if a parent is scared of what their child might do, then something is wrong here as well. Children should not decide how they will be punished. I never talked back to my mom, because she was scary. I didn't like getting in trouble, so I acted right (most of the time) What has our world come to, when the kids run the house. When they can do whatever they want, and have no repercussions, because they can call the police!!! Dont raise your kids to believe this. Dont let them watch shows, that put these ideas in there head. Parents are still the parents, and should discipline there children the way they see fit (as long as it isnt actual abuse)

In modern times, with all we know about brains and behavior, we realize scientifically that there are many ways to instill discipline in a child. Some of them work better than others, and spanking doesn't seem to work at all. When a child is spanked, the lesson they learn is that you solve conflicts through violence and that the bigger person should dominate the smaller. There are too many options available to lose your head and resort to spanking. If a child is lying about abuse and the state believes them, it's a problem with the agency lacking investigative abilities.

yes i do agree with you. It is tough being a parent now. I am very laid back about so many things but I don't beat or abuse my children. 3 are grown now. I am very strict on certain things. I am very strong on being honest, considerate and doing what is right. Raising them on my own it was the most difficult and frustrating thing to be compared by other parents by them. When they were teens..oh my...it was horrible. I am not good at holding my tongue but I do not and will not tolerate total disrespect. I didn't think I could possibly change it because one of my girls was as stubborn as me. Oh we butted heads. I never once hit her but oh did I want to. You wouldn't believe the stuff that came out of this kids mouth and mine in retaliation. She was 16 and she said some things to me...I can't repeat here. I called her a f'ing btch. Now she was in control. I was not. She said,"hmm, I think I should tell someone about this. Wouldn't they just love to here how you called your daughter a @@@@@@@@@@. I told her to go ahead and make that call.They'd probably take her away from me and she'd have to live in a shelter somewhere. I had 3 other kids I was raising. It'd probably save me money and give me a much needed break. She had also punched a hole in the door which since i was renting was going to cost. she did call the cops. Her complaint was that I yelled at her to get up and go look for a job. she'd dropped out of school. The Cops took my side and were all over her. As for the door. She had to replace it herself. She did all the leg work. I would not measure it or tell her where to go to replace it....nothing. That was 3 years ago. she's a good kid now.

You are right, a lot of parents are frightened of punishing a child for doing wrong because the child seems to have much more power than a parent these days. If the child knows this they will use it against the parents as well. Real children of abuse quite often do not say anything they will just put up with it, these are the ones that need the real help, not the ones who just shout out about it because they have been told off for being naughty. So much real abuse goes undiscovered until it is too late while the innocent people are having their families ripped apart with untrue claims.

This is more of a parental failure than anything. Parents at some point found it easier to take let other people make the rules for them and decided it was too much of a bother to fight back against the idiots taking charge. The majority of parents these days are just plain lazy when it comes to being parents too. It is easy to say I gave little johny a time out every time he steals a cookie. It is hard to say I smacked his hand or spanked the hell out of him after the third or forth time I caught him doing it. No one wants to make their kid cry, not out of love most of the time, but simply because they don't want to listen to it. parents should quit trying to be friends with their kids and act like the responsible adult in their life.

I agree that sometimes the "system" can get too involved in private lives. When my 20 yr old daughter was about 2 someone reported me to the Human services department in our city. They (and I do not to this day know who it was) did not know that a little girl that went to the same daycare as my daughter had bit her. First I was called at work and later they came to visit me at work. I endured many questions all while I was at work. Later still they came to visit me at home to see how my daughter and I interacted. That must have satisfied the "system" because I never heard from them again. Shortly after that I was fired from my job because of all the interuptions while at work. I was a single mother and this was my only means of supporting my family. I think back now and I feel like I am glad they checked me out but I also feel that they spent too much time on me. At the time I was not happy about the interviews. Who would be. I know there are people out there really hurting children and we as a society need to be aware of how children react but we also need to get some facts straight before we destroy families lives. I love my girls and would not hurt them but not all people can say this.