Is it necessary for me to make a compromise to my child.

I have the experiences of punishment to my child. After that, my child is very sad and I am very sad also. I always regret to punish him and blame myself. I am hard to overcome this feelings.

I can honestly say I have never met a parent who enjoys punishing their child but sometimes it has to be done, how can they learn to respect your choice if you let them get away with it because you can not bare to enfore what you are saying to them. At ten years old your child should do as you ask aslong as you are not asking the impossible and like I say most parents only say no for a good reason explain that but if your child continues to do it anyway against your wishes then I would see no further choice but punishment over the matter. If I let my daughter run the bath taps like she wanted to one time and she then scalded herself I would be to blame, she insisted on doing it so she was told off and given a suitable punishment I did this for her not because I enjoy telling my child off you at least can make this clear to a ten year old make him realise you are doing it for his own good. A child will forgive punishment in the end but letting them do as they like is in my opinion the road to ruin of a relationship between parent and child gives complete lack of respect

After dinner, my son was sitting on the chair. He shaked it to make some noise. For we are living in an apartment and on the third floor. I told him that his actings may affect the people on the second floor. But my son doesn't stop. I told him that the people on the second floor may come and shout you. How do you explain to them? He said I have some excuse. I told him that you will lie. It is not good. But he doesn't hear me. I have no choice, I shout to him and said if you don't stop and I will beat him. Then he stoped and went to bed. He was very sad and I felt angry and upset.