scared of giving birth

Giving birth should not be a scary thing for a properly trained woman! And the best training comes from their mothers I think. Therefore, the best way to be a good mother is to ask those Godly mothers, observe godly mothers, and read the Bible about the virtuous woman in Proverbs 30. Good day to you and cheer up! Congratulations for being a mother soon!

There is just one skill you need to be a good mother and it is patience and in big portions the rest comes with it. It is nothing to be scared of once you have that tiny peace of you in your hands you will guard him with your life. I have 2 and they both came fast one is 2 years and the other onw will be a year next month.

You should not be scared of giving birth. It is a wonderful experience. Yes, there is pain but when you hold that beautiful creature that you and a loved one created all else goes out of your mind. I know I had pain but I don't remember it. I remember the joy of holding my child. You will be a good mom. You will learn as you go along. Never doubt that you will make a wonderful mom. It will come to you.

you will know the min your child is born. no worries about being a good mom, if you want children thats a good step. child birth.. egh just think of it as pain, that goes away... then you get this GREAT gift. i was always scared, but the min i got pregnant, i didnt think twice. its scary to think that you HAVE to go threw it. but its really not bad

Hi there Sandybel20 I hope this note finds you well. I have three children, 22, 18 and 14. I know the horror stories you hear all the time from women and their childbirth experiences. And indeed, every birth is different. Its funny for me to be talking about this because more than anything I wanted to be a midwife. I find childbirth such an amazing, beautiful experience. How two people just showing their love can produce this amazing little person is mind blowing. One of the things that I always tell girls is this; if childbirth was so traumatic and painful, then why do we have 2, 3 4 or more. You would think after the first time, you'd never do that again. But its not so. Childbirth induces pain for sure. But you soon forget it, in fact most times as soon as the baby is born. Its painful, no doubt, but boy it is soooo worth it. So when the time comes, just grin and bare it (sorry for the pun). Good luck Cheryl

Mother INSTINCT is part of being a WOMAN.. so once u get to that situation like giving birth and becoming a mom, your instinct will help you go through all the process and you'll never know you just successfully made it. Don't be scared!!! it's a GIFT for all WOMEN to become a MOTHER someday....

As a 'Dad' I may not be fully qualified to answer your question, but my answer is that it all comes totally naturally. There are some practical preparation you can make for having a child, and the midwives can help you with some issues, but parenting should come naturally. One thing I would say is that nothing prepares you emotionally for having a child, and there is no point having too many fixed plans, 'cos that baby comes with plans of it's own (including deciding when to be born). If you are concerned about being a good mother, then I guarantee that you are definitely 'Mummy' material...

you'll know. that's what my mother told me long ago. you'll just know how to be a mother once you're already one. giving birth itself is pretty scary. but think of all the mothers in the world and how the hell they got through it. it just shows you that it's the most normal thing to happen to a woman who wants to have a child. i remember when i got pregnant, i was so excited. but as the day to give birth came nearer and nearer, i got scared. what's worse was, i had to have an emergency ceasarean operation coz my pelvic bone (or something) won't open wide enough for my big baby to come out. THAT was scary. when my doctor told me she had to operate, i was more than willing to get it done so i would be over the pain once and for all. (i was in labor for more than 24 hrs already!) oh but i don't wanna scare you. don't worry, you can do it. we all did. good luck, girl!

giving birth is something that scares me too. and I don't know if I will be able to have a baby in the future, I will always tease my sis that I will just borrow her child when I need to have one! anyway, about being a good mother, we have several books that introduce tips on how to take care a baby and what are the proper way in raising them! plus, you can talk to your mom an learn her style! talk to your friends and gather info too!Its true that it needs to have some special skills but, when you have the child already, I know you will always want the best so you will take the initiative to do the best that you can to raise them good!

i'm not afraid to be a mother but i'm really scared of giving birth at all

Dont be scared,you will be painful,but you do a wonderful thing.Mother is great.

i just became a mother two months ago so i can tell u that giving birth is not so scary.if u're healthy and your baby's growing well, u can enjoiy first the time of preganacy and then the time of seeing him/her and then the time of raising him/her!it's great!though the time you give birth is painful, it's so worthwile and this is why most woman wants more than kids.

Be sure you are ready to have children. It take time, money , and patience. I have one child and it was not a planned birth. I love my baby, but it is hard to be a parent. You have to think about costs such as diapers, food, etc. It is not cheap.You learn from experience with parenting. I was scared which is a feeling all mothers have when having a baby, but everything worked out for the best. I was mostly scared of the labor, which was a hard 4 days of labor, but not all ladies have that long of labor.But when the baby is here it is a joy, the pain of labor only last for a few hours or days or days in my case, but I don't regret it

well.come on if you scared of giving birth and be a mum,you should not make love with him. how redeclous you are!!

Scared to give birth and wondering whether you will be able to be a good mother to your children is a natural thing for any woman to be thinking about. I am sure you have heard about the pains experienced during childbirth. Sure you cannot escape labor pain but bear in mind that every mothers birth experienced are different. Who knows yours will be less pain and quick. Alternatively, if you dont want any pain, you can opt for epidural or ceasarian, but it will cost you a little. Mothering a child will come naturally. If you are worried that you will not be able to do it, ask your mom or maybe anybody who is a mother.

Don't be scared of giving birth. If it were that bad then there would be a lot of only children out there. I am due in August and I am actually excited for the birthing process (I am having an epidural so the pain will be little to none). You just have to think about the outcome of all of it and how its worth it. Becoming a parent is a learning process for everyone that has a child. It is not like some mom's get an instruction manual and some don't. Both you and your child will learn and grown with each other every day. There are many places to seek advice and information on things that you have questions about or are unsure of. I think everyone has a little aprehension at first but eventually you will ease into the role of mom and dad like it is no big deal.

I was pregnant once, but sadly got a miscarriage. 2-3 months. Uhm, I too was scared of giving birth before. i think thats the essence of being a woman. Giving birth is such a beautiful thing. In which the woman connects with his husband and her child. being a mother, is the most challenging part of being a woman that's why it's tough to be a woman and its the most wonderful part of being alive.

Hmm, I also used to be scared of giving birth, in fact i still am! However, I really, really want children, and I know that when the time comes I'll have NO second thoughts. Oh, and I want a natural birthing, with cesareans you lose too much blood. You know, when you see that wonderful miracle in your hands, your mothering instincts will kick in, and there'll be no looking back!

I also think that way before but now that I experienced giving birth I come to know that it's not something to be afraid of. No one can either tell if you are ready or not to be a mom. I think once you find out that you're expecting it comes naturally to act like a mom. All you think is always for the sake of the child you're carrying. And once your baby comes out you'll do your best to take care of him. That's according to my experience.

Well, children don't come with instructions and I'm sure most mothers (and fathers) will tell you that you experience times throughout the child's life when you question your parenting abilities (not only before you have children). You learn to trust your instincts, model yourself after people that you consider to be good parents, remember those annoying comments that your parents and other elders gave you when you were growing up (all of a sudden those things start making sense), and build a network of people that you trust to support you along the way. Believe me, if being a good parent is what a person truly wants, it all comes together piece by piece. As far as childbirth is concerned...it is a little scarey the 1st time, but you get thru it and usually end up doing it again.