wat should i do?
By smiley21
@smiley21 (2)
April 6, 2008 9:13am CST
hi,im 21,my girlfriend is 17 yrs old,weve being 2gether 4 3 yrs,her family love me a lot,shes beautiful,intelligent etc,im from a family which have being in big trouble in the past,i mean my dad,my mom n my sister nearly lost their mind,however my in laws to be really love me so much as they think that im the real one for their girl did everything so that i can settle in life,my girlfriend do love me, i know but not in the way i want to receive the love,shes a type of girl who dont like grief,moaning,always wana be happy,followin stars,passed in every subject,ov 85%.as from my part,im just thinking of future n dont know wer to head in life,i dont knw exactly wat i want,i think gud but it always turn bad.now im abroad weve a year apart,im phning her every 3-4 days,my job is hard,send her everything she wants.her family always keep in touch with me.sometimes she just text me n ask to kal.her mom said shes a very naughty a girl without manners,but i dont care.she always said that am trying to show off,watever im telling,she said do this dont this...make a tattoo of her name on my hand,every second i keep thinking of her,i dont wanna loose her.im here bkoz of her,im not cheating on her koz im faithful.everywer ive gone in my life,school,college,my in laws,at work,my friends,all like me,all c zat im an entertainer,funny,cool dude,some wanna me as their son in law,some as their brother in law,koz im a very trusted guy,i love my girlfriend so much that am afraid of losing her...im doing everything to make her happy that i dont care for myself,im just mad of her or am i mad?
2 responses
@synuay (33)
• United States
25 Apr 08
obviously you were confident in your feelings for her to go abroad, she must do the same and be confident in those same feelings. I too do not understand why you are second guessing the relationship, as there must be more you have not said. I do agree with the other post that you can smother someone to much with attention and affection and if they are not ready for that level of affection it can drive them away. but she is texting you to call and such, i do not see where that is the case.
Distance is a big thing in relationships ecspecially with young love and each person still finding themselves in life, what they want to do, their beliefs, views, wants, needs, etc.... thats a lot to figure out for one person much less two, and even harder for two people very far apart. but thats not to say it cant be done. be strong and confident, believe in yourself and your girlfriend. faith can move mountains.
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@smiley21 (2)
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27 Apr 08
thanx a lot 4 big support,thx 4 judging me zat im not mad,i know zat i lack of confidence and sometimes i do let myself down.i should be strong,zat really help....
i do talk to her,ive put in my confidence n ya i do realise about scaring her off,but now she wants me to be by her side more by phone n shes more open with me.thx synuay(16) charmallan(57),im abroad koz im here for some important work it might take 1 more year to go ahead,shes still studying zer,she said to me once she thought i was cheating on her,she really made my life a hell zat time ,but she feel sorry for these as she came to know it was untrue.even at work here many girls to wanna me to come wiz them or chuck my girlfriend out,start a new life over here.but im faithful.... even my boss,she wants to go out but only thing i can say is a NO! may be it was time for some to tel me to put my confidence n be strong to move the matter to go foward..... THANK YOU....
@charmallan (58)
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6 Apr 08
Hang on a minute. you are doing everything you can to keep her happy. And she probably is. But you could be scaring her off. You said she likes to be happy, doesnt like grief and moaning. Thats probably why she went for the entertainer, funny, cool dude... At the moment i feel you are perhaps not being yourself . No you are not mad, (but you do seem mad about this girl) you are being maybe a tad bit too needy, almost desperate with the tattoo. Not good feelings.. You dont care for yourself ? Why ? Its part of what makes you attractive. Relax and be confident. You obviously play a big part in all their lives.
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