Are you brave enoug to love deeply and ardently?
By gxnfly
@gxnfly (1147)
China
April 6, 2008 8:31pm CST
"Love deeply and ardently ,even if there is pain,but this is the way to make your life complete."Do you agree there words?do you brave enough to should the most risk of love?
I remember when I was at high shool,one of my teacher said,"There is only one true love in your whole life.You love deeply and ardently,you are willing to everything for your loved one.But when love lost,it never comes again.You can never to love again love the first love."Her words is till strong in me after 5 years has passed away.
I should say her words are fit on me.I was willing to do everything for the one I first love,I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him,no matter wealth or poverty.But he broke my heart greatly.Although I have a boy friend of five years right now,but I could never love him like my fist love.I am a coward,I am afraid to get hurt again,so I shield myself with a shield.I can't love him unconditionally like my first love,giving 100% effort.I believe true love is an instinct,you love and you care ,you do everything for the one you love by the light of nature.I don't have this instinct anymore.Some time I just feel I am obliged to do something for my boyfriend,not out of instinct.
Do you believe the is only one true love in your whole life?If you are hurt badly by someone you loved,are you ready to should the most risk of love again?
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8 responses
@subha12 (18441)
• India
7 Apr 08
i completely understand your situation. its sad to know taht the first love is not with you. it is said that you can never love like the first love. actually it seems you loved with your whole heart. But may be he was not wirth of that. time eases out some pain, but its never gone. Hope you find deeper love in life.
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
7 Apr 08
Every love hurts because it comes from your heart.. Like u say, it's 1st love.. everything has got it's 1st time, just like swimming and eating.. If u almost drown or choke for the 1st time, will u give it up entirely?? Surely not, i guess.. Instead u will be more careful.. Same like love, it's normal to shield yourself properly b4 u really open up again.. Because love is not an everyday thing, u need time to recover from it, break away from the hurt.. Always remember, wat u've done for your 1st bf, may bot apply to your current bf.. Because they are both different ple..
If u feel that u are only doing things for your bf out of obligation, most likely is u are feeling guilty, u dun really love him as much but rather take him as temporary shelter.. And as time goes by, it's a sense of responsibility that has been built up, not love..
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
8 Apr 08
for some people that could be true but is mainly people who are afraid to love again and get hurt,
you can fall deeply in love with another guy if you let yourself
if you don, t that guy that hurt you hurt you twice over,
first when he broke your heart,
and now that your heart in not healing, that is twice the hurt
@munhozmib (3836)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
8 Apr 08
Hello, Gxnfly!
I believe that I am not afraid of loving. I can risk myself, and put everything I have into game. However, I have never been loved back yet.
But hey, how many times have I spent hours and hours planning a conversation or writting letters... I don't mind, I risk if I have to. I believe that it is the only way to feel what people consider to be the best feeling in the world.
And I don't think there is one special person for me. A special person is one that I conquer myself, with my efforts.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
@afternoontea (1005)
• Indonesia
8 Apr 08
I had that experience too, when I fell in love with him, I love him unconditionally but he broke my heart and I shield myself never to love again. One of my friend said that the one you love or the one that close to you are in the right position to hurt you. Because If I dont love him like that off course I wouldn't hurt me when he left...
After all I opened my heart again for another person love me unconditionally and treated me the way I treated my ex bf. So I think he deserved to be loved. I now married with him but what I didn't realise is, love can change... He did not love me the way I believe he was...It hurt me again but I fight back, I love him and even if it is hurt I will still love him and will try hard to keep our marriage last a lifetime... I dont want to give up, because love is never give up..
@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
I dont know if i found my true love in my exes...but i know i love them the time were still on. They hurted me and i received alot of pain...and because of that i tried not to fell inlove..But i think i am brave to fall inlove again and again..Fear and worried is still here with me but they said when you have it and you feel it again for one more time don't even let it go.
@dhvani_ant (63)
• India
7 Apr 08
its good to hear someone has gone through the same thing that ihave gone throug.i m sorry to say this but yes i have gone through this.my first i wen we were in a relationship i thought thats it i got everyhting i needed i was feeling so lucky that my first love is with me n he will be with me througout my life.but as u said he broke my heart.it was painful n difficult to come out him.but i tried and my boyfrnd who later becme my husband helped me alot.wen i found my husband i cudnt lov him as i did to my first love but it cudnt let go him bcz for him i was his first lov and i knew how it feels wen ur first love breaks your heart.though even i now wen he asks me how much you lov i reply to him that i lov u but little less than u lov me(he knows the reason) and today my first lov is my frnd a very good frnd to whom i sometimes call up and have a casual talk.evne my hubby knws abt this.a casual talk also makes me feel good.cant help it.
@wittyakanksha (436)
• India
7 Apr 08
i feel love is something which you do with people.I understand that you're still not over it in a way but love moves on.I feel that you can love the way you loved earlier even better than the way you did earlier.I am of the view that love is something which stays with you forever and your past experiences enriches it further.so that you're ready to love the person more completely and fully,doing all that you did earlier and even more than that because you understand that its not th e person its the love!
