you will hate me for this...

relationship is like studying to read or to right. you have to learn a lot before you make it perfect. you will never knew if a person is perfect for you if you will not try. if the relationship didnt work out then you have to try again and make sure not to do the same mistakes again. even you found your soul mate or true love if you dont know how to handle a relationship it will not still work out.

Some people just think they're in love, and they get into a relationship without carefully examining how they feel or how their partner feels. I've been married for 44 years, so I know that true love exists... but its a valuable thing, and sacrifices must be made for it to stay. Too may people aren't willing to sacrifice anything, so they break up and move on.

I don't hate you but I do think that it is great to discuss things. Everyone has their ideal of their perfect man or lady. They have a relationship and see how long it will last. During that time they learn about the other person and see how compatible they are. People used to work harder at making marriage last but now there are more divorces because people don't work of their problems. One lady may feel that her boyfriend is too argumentative and think that his poor temper is not going to away. So she splits up with him and sees a new boyfriend. But until some time has gone past she won't know what he is really like. It is sad that love can fade or stop. If someone meets their soul mate will they be together forever?

Well, I think being in love is something that needs time to developed. Basically I don't really agree with love at first sight. Though some may have felt it but perhaps its more of infatuation. Love is more complicated than that. That is why some relationship do not last. It is simply because there is no love. But people can learn to love each other, some people are not that hard to love, there are also people who fall out of love. As stated, it is somewhat complicated. But once love is there, it is one of the greatest feeling.

You really do not need to be in a relationship. If you meet someone and want to be with them, that is lovely, but you can be single and happy. Too many people think they have to be in a relationsip all the time and they make a lot of mistakes. When you know for sure you love someone, then you will be happy to be in a relationsip.

well not all relationships in life work. we get to meet wrong people at the wrong time. let us say that we live in a world where all teachings could be learned. it may be past and present experiences and we try our best for these things not to happen to us again. it is how we are. we lived in this world to continue showing love until we find that right person. the person God has intended for us. that true love will still come as soon as we dont hurry things up. it is indeed true that Love is PATIENT. so for you to meet that person and be with him/her for the rest of your life, it is up to you how you manage to run a relationship. it is up to you how to keep the love alive. never stop believing in love.

Well Bubbles, you sound more like Buttercup with your straight talk! With the rate of divorce rising worldwide, its true what you are saying and here I am not talking of immature college days bf/gf syndrome but serious love marriages where each partner thought that s/he could not survive without the other. But survive they did and even flourished in another home, another family. While it is good that if you find somebody incompatible, its better to split ways and start afresh but it is not always healthy, specially for small children involved. As it is children find it difficult to adjust to new surroundings, and then having to deal with new parents every few years can be very traumatic. The main reason why I think we are going so much for the split is coz we have too many options and choices and give too much importance to individual rights and privileges and that’s making us short-tempered, oblivious to our spouse’s needs and shortcomings and loathe to change ourselves to make the marriage work. If its not working, fine I can always walk out, relocate maybe, find someone there and start afresh. There are also so many aid societies and govt. agencies to help me stand on my feet. However, it was not so easy to start afresh maybe a few decades back and so people actually made an effort to compromise, work out and stick together as long as possible.

i believe it is okay to have a relationship with someone.. for one, you will have feelings for that person who have the relationship with. it may end at some time, but definitely love is there... i dont hate you for your opinion, you have a point that if they love each other, why will they break up in the end... i guess i can only speak for myself because i have been through 2 relationships that started off as okay, full of love and promises... but we broke up years after... you are right people who break up are not meant to be. when it is not meant to be, it is best that you dont force it... True love, it exist and when you find yours, you will not find it hard to sustain that love, and will make it grow more.

We call it "scare of committment". The fact is that love is something which develop over a long period of time. And you need to be in a relationship for it to develop... or not. When it does not... you break up. You don't start a relationship because you love each other. You do... because you like each other. Those who fall in love overnight... usually do so for the wrong reasons. It is either "puppy love" or simply "lust".

Hello friend. I actually like this new trend of having relationship, staying together, sharing all the responsibilities and then making a decision, whether you can spend your whole life with this person or not. In India, most marriages are arranged marriage, where two strangers are first tied into marriage bond and then asked to love each other and if you cannot love still for the sake of respect, spend your full life with your unwanted spouse, with adjustments and sacrifices. This is very wrong. We get life once and each person should have full right to choose life partner of his or her choice. If a relationship breaks then it was definitely not going to be a successful marriage, so I think breaking of relationship always have some valid reason behind it. Like you I too believe in love and I am happy for those who get love of their life, no matter how, marriage or relationship, as long as they are happy.

I don't hate you. I don't think not having a relationship will be weird, because I am one of those people I also know that don't have relationship more than becoming friends. I'm quite happy with my singlehood. I also believe in true love. well, for those who later break up even after marriage, I think their love just grows cold and they can no longer mend it. Perhaps they also didn't know that it wasn't true love back then. * shrug * Some people are even enjoying the life without any pairing relationship, I am one of them. Some other judgemental would have many accusation and prejudice but I think they (and I) are free from the fear of losing the ones they love, and nobody would cheat these on love, because ... LOL there are no commitment and those people are not our lovers.

It is quite natural to have this concern especially if you were raised a certain way. I used to think the same way. I remember when I was much younger and had not yet started to date I would listen to my girlfriends carry on about their first kiss and how many, as well as which boys they had kissed or would like to be involved with. All I could think of was how could they really kiss so many guys and feel no way about it. I just used to feel that if I was talking to a guy and we ended up kissing then broke up then my mouth would feel dirty for almost forever. In my mind it would always be what if I kiss him and he's not the guy for me then I'll have to kiss another who Id hope would be the one etc..... To be truthful such concerns did wear out a bit after adulthood stepped in and I started dating. To me now it is a natural part of dating but I still have certain principles. To maintain these principles I simply do not rush into a relationship. Well I have not found my true love yet so the search continues. (lol)

i understand where ur coming from and i can see ur point, but not all relationships are ment to be thts why u date people before getting married so tht u can find tht one person tht u wana and can spend the rest of ur life with.

Not all relationships are going to work out. The point of having a relationship is to try to find someone that you could love. You aren't going to love every boyfriend or girlfriend that you have. Finding love takes time. Sometimes breaking up is better if the couple is having problems. Not all relationships are meant to last. It is all a learning process. You gain experience from having relationships and they help you find out what you do and don't like in a person.

You need to meetlots of people and see how you and the other person fit because it takes time to find the one person who you will love and who will love you. then do get married as that is so much more stable than just living together. Once married to the person you really love you will find happiness and peace and a stable relationship too.

no your right about it and loving one is that loving your self and the future of your relationships. i know some are like that but you want true love that having a many relationship like limitless.