being polite

I try to avoid discussions where I see trouble brewing - if the author and another member have already got into a heated debate and have resorted to name calling then I feel my time would be better spent somewhere else. I really try hard not to judge people and try to base my responses on the question in hand and not what my personal views are about how the person might come across. We're all different, that's what makes the world go around and that's what makes myLot such an interesting place to come to.

I don't respond to any topic in which the topic or other responses are 'hostile' I prefer not to bother with accidentally making the situation worse or something, but I do think that people should be more polite, so that other can acutally enjoy thier time here. I have a friend that quit mylot because people were annoying him bigtime :(

I can totally relate to you on this one. A few months back I had posted a discussion regarding whether or not you would pay extra for a cat/dog to live in your house or apartment. Most of the responses for or against were funny and carried a point. There was one that I could clearly tell was trying to start something. He/she was name calling and belittling. I have to be honest I did finally become so aggrivated because this person kept responding to other peoples comments and so on. It just didnt stop. Finally I did return with a rather rude response. This only encouraged him more. I did end up viewing this persons profile and he was new and approximately 16(I think). I could tell that this person was less than mature and probably didnt even understand what paying rent was yet. I no longer payed any attention to it. I think the others who responded followed my lead and it did stop. I learned something from this. Never respond negatively to a situation until you view where it is coming from and by whom. When I came to myLot it was accidentally. I have never been so happy of a mistake. I had watched my daughter on the other popular sites and couldnt see myself as a member. I like being able to debate issues not deface them with name calling.

We should all be just as polite to each other here as we would in real life. Of course we all haveour differences but we should be adult about it and not resort to childish name calling. NOr should we hit the negative button each and every time we do not agree with someone else's viewpoint. I get so I do not respondat all when there are people name calling and trying to foment trouble. It is not worht it to me and we all lose points when something is deleted because people get childish and resort to calling one another stupid names.