But I don't want to live in an Old Age Senior Complex with a bunch of Old Peopl

keep what ya have till you no longer can look after yourself then and only then is it a time to go to the old folks place 60s isnt old I would say 85 might be old but then depends on your health at that age

I hate this im old crap..I am over 55 and i am not old..I keep my home and my yard and i walk,shop and do everything i always did...I plan to stay right here in my house..It sounds like just because your husband had a mini stoke he is wanting to hang it up and get old....No way will i EVER live in one of those senior homes...If i get so old that i cannot function then just shoot me....Yes i can help you out,tell your husband to go on and set himself up for his old age now but he will need to go alone..My husband is 63 and he acts like he is 100 years old..I am always going and doing and i am a busy person,if he wants to sit in his recliner and get old thats Him...He is not going to make me old with him...A man that acts like he is 100 years old does nothing for you except to make you old right along with him..I am not willing to do that,and it does not sound like you are either...Stand your ground suspenseful! you are still cleaning house,writing novels and on mylot,you are active girl so stay that way....Your husband needs to get out more and see the world and get some life into those bones....

Where I live we have some really beautiful senior living communities. There are simple apartments and assisted living apartments where you can get help for yourself or your husband if you are unable to care for each other. I know when I feel I cannot take proper care of myself that is where I want to live. However if you don't feel that you are at that point in your life then all you have to do is say NO. BTW getting old is something we all have to do unless you choose to die young you might as well get used to it.

Hi suspenseful, I agree with you on this, you are much too young for such a place. I am 68 and my wife is 65, and we fully intend to stay in our own home as long as possible. As you say, sitting in those place with people much older than yourself would be depressing. My wife and I do not consider ourselves old, so you are little more than middle age. Take care and Blessings.

Then talk to your husband. Be honest to him. Do you have your children with you, I mean the older children. Maybe you can join them where they live. If you can stay with the place you are now living then stay there. When I grow old and when I retired from my work I want to live in my own house with my family. The reason maybe your husband would like to stay there is because of his health, and he is thinking that there there will be someone to look after you. Growing old is quite something most of us dont want to go to. Give him the reasons why, he will hear you. God Bless.

I really admire you for two things. First, I see in you a courage that shall, I hope, prove resilient and enduring in the years ahead. Okay, fine, you're getting a little older. That's a given fact for all of us, not only for you or me. Time spares no one. But the fact that you are unwilling to be eaten up by the toll that Father Time has to subject us all, I believe you shall weather the burden of having to see yourselves in some difficulties of all sorts, by your decision to stay in your home where it feels like, well, "home." I have never seen an amount of courage before. Usually, when I see people get old, they kind of are quite anxious about how are they gonna fair in the future. It's happening to you now. But I guess, what cuts you above all is that you're trying to choose a path harder to travel. And for that I really admire you. Second, I admire moreso the fact that your kind of one among the strong undercurrents in this issue. The trend right now is for old people to be placed in care houses and there be left to be taken care of other people. I see nothing wrong with that, especially when younger people - professional I suppose- are finding it hard to cope with having to take care of old people who really need more attention than normal. But having said that, I think the trend of care houses is a little to impersonal and anti-familial. You get to be taken care of other people, but as I look at it, it is the primary responsibility of the family to take care of their own, as a way to return the favor of being taken good care before in our lives. It stregthens bond even more, notwithstanding conflicts and other burdens, because we tend to nurture our own through ups and downs, through thick and thin, through hell or high waters. I just love the concept. And I am not sure I know exactly why. Thanks for posting.

In my opinion, I think you should continue to look around. Not all senior complexes are the same. There are some really great ones out there. I know people who have moved into some complexes that have a lot of fun things to do as well as people that can help you out if you should need it. Some places have free transportation and maid services, too. And, many are close to urban areas with lots of shopping, or they will have transportation to those areas. You don't have to give up your independence at all. Just keep looking and don't move into a place unless you really like it.

I wouldn't mind, here where I live the places are nice, cheaper than I have to pay now, and I can get out and do everything I did before, people 55 years old are not old, so that would not bother me, I am 53 now and can't wait until I can get one. But for you and your husband, you are going to have to talk this through, there is a whole lot at stake, your home, etc, so I do understand where you are coming from.

I'll be sixty-eight in a few months, but don't consider myself old. There's still plenty of life to go, and I don't intend to retire until the end of next year. I agree with you, I don't think I'd enjoy that environment, it would just enhance the aging process I think.

if i could afford it i would jump at the chance to move into oneI am old and fell like im in solitary confinement these days i could go for days without seeing a soul however i dont make enough to pay for one and crazy as it sounds i make too much to get assistance!those places at least have other folks arround if it wernt for my computer id go plum crazy !My daughter tells me well i bring you your supper every day !You know whar even prisoners get fed!!Thank God for my Lot!!!

Hi suspenseful,I certainly can sympathize, change at times can be very hard to accept.I received a lovely power point presentation last week which I would like to share with you,I only wish I could send the music and pics with the words,I do hope you enjoy. Old age is winter,alas,for many people,but for those who are wise and optimistic,it is the happy and fruitful time of harvest. So long as one continues to be amazed,one can delay growing old. The entire life of a human being depends upon "yes" and "No" uttered two to three times between the ages of sixteen and twenty-five. Old age arrives suddenly,as does the snow.One morning,on awakeningone realizes that everything is white. It is by growing old that one learns to remain young. If someone declares that he is able to do everything at sixty that he was able to do at twenty,then he was not doing very much when he was twenty. Old age embellishes everything.It has the effect of the setting sun on the beautiful twilights of autum. As one grows old,one generally rids himself of his shortcomings because they no longer serve any useful purpose. There are four great periods in the life of a man; the one where he believes in Santa Claus,the one where he no longer believes in Santa Claus,and finally the one where he looks more like Santa Claus. The good side of this,as old as one might be,is that one is always younger than he will ever be. The person who considers himself too old to learn something has probably always been that way. Have a nice Day. Who knows what the future holds for any one of us?The most important thing of all is to remain young at heart,and allow that little child within time to play. I am sure the senior apartment if it comes to this,will have several folk who felt the same as you,there may be new friends to meet and enjoy,it also may be giving you the opportunity to bring some sunshine into others lives. Take care,and good luck for your future plans whatever they may be.

i like the complexes that you have your own apartment and you can look after yourself, the next step is you do meals with the centre and the third is when you move into the centre itself (with nurses and the like) that is the palce where i want to go... seriously, they have activities for almost every day of the week! they do fun stuff like crafts, shopping and have a in house library! what more could you ask for? lol

I'm 74 and still working because I enjoy my work.My parents checked themselves in to a Nursing Home when they were 90 and loved it. Are you prepared to Care for your Husband, should he have another more debilitating stroke? If you were living in an assisted living facility there would be help with his care. I'd suggest you plan your future carefully, because you usually only get one chance. Think more of what you Love, rather than what you Hate.

Ok question, when I lived in Maine, they had a place for older people and those who had disabilities, so some were younger. It was a nice community, the nicest thing about it. They all had their own apartment. Kitchen, bathroom, it was the size of a duplex with one floor is the only way that I can explain it. They had a nurse on duty in the central location that also had things like a community kitchen and things like that. They also had a pick up and delivery van for those who did not drive to go to town, on a bus route, and there were those that drove. It was 5 minutes from the nearest store but private so that you could enjoy that if you like. I am not sure what it was called but it was there. I am not sure if that would help you with what you are saying and allow your husband to think he won. Hehe. ok that was not meant to be mean, I am sarcastic and a New Yorker. I do understand what you are saying, I understand what your husband is saying as to what information I am reading. There is a balance. How is your husband doing with his recovery? Ainge

I think it's a two way street suspenseful. If my husband wanted to move into a place like that and I didn't, I would have to understand his reasons. There might be a few fears he's not telling you. He might be thinking it's the best thing (should something happen to him). I would sure want to look at every avenue I could think of before I did it. On the other hand, just because the other people act old, you don't have to. The first thing I think about is having financial security, no matter what the future brings.

That is wonderful that you do not feel old! I think what your husband is thinking is about the security that someone is always around in case of health problems or if you need help with anything but there are other alternatives. Living in a Senior complex has a lot to offer for those who have time on their hands. Maybe there is something you and your husband can sign up for so that you can find others to socialize with if that is what he is needing? You could find it fun to take classes of all kinds through your local Senior Community Centers or even places like Salvation Army too.

In Australia, we have Retirement Communities where you can have your own piece of paradise, including gardens. The good thing is, medical help is never far away and you can treat it as you would your own home (like you have now)oh, and some are even accepting pets these days too.

I also do not feel old but I am eighty and I am chuckling at your not wanting to live around old people as though they were some kind of disease. for one thing at fifty five one is certainly not old just mature. here in Ca we have Lesure world and it is super deluxe notthat I would want to live there really l I live in a large apt complex with my adult son so feel for you in a smaller place. small apts are no fun. Why cannot you just stay where you are or is your husband concerned about his health and wants to go to a place where they have health staff. i also like being around younger people but still old age is not contagious and some of us are rather nice to be around. Senior citizen is much nicer than old people said with a sound of digust. YOu will reach old age too you know.When you get to be my age and still have full mental capacity you will also dislike being called "Old people" with a sneer.

It is good that you donot feel old.Keep it up suspenseful.But As you said I cannot hate old age people even if I am old.(Now I am only just 24).I also dont like old age homes.I think the life with the family and grand chlidren will be most good one.