How Does One Handle A Person That Has Gotten To Be A Pain!

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Last year I bumped into this woman named Annette in the supermarket near whom I've seen in the neighborhood for awhile now and started yakking...like me, she has two kitties so of course we started to talk about our cats and both of our furbabies will ONLY eat Fancy Feast. Also like me she receives SSI disability and ironically for the same exact amount. So we exchange phone numbers and on occasion all this time still bump into each other and sometimes call each other. Okay, fine. Now she is having real serious heavy duty problems, like one thing after another...I haven't gotten the whole story told to me, but I think she's one of those who when they do get SSI disability have a representative of the Adult Protective Services to handle their affairs (if they aren't capable of doing it themselves) so that representative pays the rent and utilities in her behalf and gives her the rest in cash money, but from what I'm gathering this representative has been helping himself to some of her money...so much so that it jeopardized her rent, now she's facing eviction...on top of that, whomever has been skimming her benefit money has also not been paying up the full utility bills and her electricity is going to be turned off..and on and on...I mean the woman is in a real dire straits position here. Now because I had had my own problems last year and my SSI benefits had been terminated leaving me dangling with only $5.71 to my name, not only did I get in contact with my SSA office but an "inspiration" led me to contact my local Congressman,which led me to a woman in his office that dealt with SSI benefit issues. Thanks to her, my benefits were re-instated in record time..only withing the month.....So since this woman, Annette knew of my problems, I told her that she too should call the Congressman's office and get help and gave her the phone number. I also supplied her with a ton of other information, including to contact JASA, The Legal Services Of The Elderly (she's 62 therefore can take advantage of this service and it's a free legal service) about the eviction issue, and they could also help with the SSI benefits and give her a new Adult Protective Service caseworker..I had known about JASA after my mother and I were facing eviction issues and due to them won the case in my favor So I'm very, very sympathetic to her...we do talk on the phone occasionally and email each other, so I do listen to her problems that she is facing. But now, to be point blank she's being a pain in the assets...calling me practically every half hour, and rattling on...She has YET to call JASA or the Congressman's office--like what am I supposed to do? I CAN'T DO THIS FOR HER--I can't make the phone calls for her..she has to do this herself...When I went through my problems I did things for myself Anyway...as mentioned in another discussion, I'm having that problem about depositing an IRS refund check that was due my deceased mother, but since I'm her sole survivor am entitled to yet my bank refuses to honor it. So sure to my vow to myself, I stated calling anyone and everyone today to get things rolling on my behalf...I am assigned a new IRS Tax Advocate who will help me sort things out..by email I contacted my Congressman...which was why I was assigned a Tax Advocate so soon as they must have contacted the Advocate's office..in other words they knew all about my case already! Last week I even emailed the Bank Commission, NY State Attorney, you name it everyone I can think of, including various consumer helplines like 7 on Your Side, Arnold Diaz's Shame on You, etc. I even called the IRS itself... So I spent ALL day calling, mostly just to leave messages about my case...I stayed home waiting for call backs (got some, not all)--but point being, I WANTED TO KEEP THE PHONE OPEN so I wouldn't miss any calls as some of these people are friggin hard to contact. PROBLEM?? Yes, nearly every fifteen minutes my phone is ringing (my answer machine picks up) and it's Annette..I had already told her I need to keep the phone open...but it's like she's not listening and kept calling my number all friggin day long. Now,...yes, I'm sympathetic, yes I'll listen to a person's problems, but like how many times does one have to tell a person...I need the phone line open?? I'm expecting my own important calls? I don't want to appear rude, or crass, or non-sympathetic...but like I said..I can't make these phone calls for her, she has to do them herself Like crap...I do want to help her, I'll gladly listen to her, but she's obviously not helping herself, by picking up her own phone and make her own phone calls to these people she needs to contact and is instead calling me up all the time How does one deal with a person like this? Have you ever had a person "latch" onto you trying to solve all their problems for them, when they need to do things on their own??...am I wrong to feel ticked off?