how would you react if...
By andrejuly84
@andrejuly84 (1047)
Romania
April 8, 2008 2:25am CST
your 3 years old daughter would tell you that her parents are grandma and grandpa?she told me that and she told me that my grandma taught her that.i know my girlie wasn't lying cause she started to cry as she was afraid.don't know how does my grandma care about my daughter but i guess i have to find another solution.i have to let my girlie there because i have lot to study but i guess i have to change this or she will turn my daughter against me and against her father.my parents help me to rise my daughter with money and caring about but this doesn't mean that they are her parents.i guess my grandma wants the girlie to remain at my parents cause i intend to move out of town this summer and she is afraid they will loose the child.i am gonna talk with her about this.maybe i won't let my girlie there anymore although i would study less but at least don't loose my daughter
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4 responses
@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
Hi andrejuly84! Oh that is sad! I do agree with you that you should talk to them. They maybe helping you a lot but that doesn't mean that they have the right to feed lies to your daughter. I just hope you can clarify things with them and I hope it is just a simple misunderstanding between families. Good luck and I am hoping for the best to you and your daughter. Just my thoughts dear! Take care and have a nice day! :)
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
10 Apr 08
hope they won't steal my daughter in the end.
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@faith210 (11224)
• Philippines
11 Apr 08
Hi andrejuly84! You are the mother of that child and nobody can ever take that away from you! You have every right to fight and win that if ever they will steal her away from you. I am very much sure they would never succeed. Don't worry too much dear friend, I will always be praying for you. Just my thoughts. Take care and have a nice day my friend! :)
@cinderella2007 (2662)
•
8 Apr 08
I think I would be very hurt and annoyed at the grandparents who have the ability to confuse your daughter by telling her that they are her parents.
You need to talk to your daughter and find out what else the grandparents are making her say and if she feels uncomfortable about anything they make her do or say!
I would also talk to the grandparents and find out why they expect your daughter to call them her parents. It could be due to intending to move town but this should affect what your daughter call her grandparents.
If I was you I would spend abit more time with your daughter to reassure her that you do love her and enjoy her company.
If you rely on the grandparents for care and money, I wouldnt cut them out of your daughters life as they could turn nasty and demand you to re-pay them!
Hope this helps!!??
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
8 Apr 08
not the grandparents told her that, my grandma told her, i mean the mother of my mother.she told also to my daughter not to go in the park cause she doesn't like this, but my girlie loves to walk in the park and play there. my grandma is a person that doesn't like the other's company, likes to stay alone, not to have friends and so.my girlie started crying when she told me both things.i asked her what else told her, but didn't find too many. i decided to spend more time with my daughter despite the fact i have a lot to study.i will try to study while she is with me playing, don't know but i won't let her stay with my grandma too much. few months ago she told me that she screams and don't like to stay there. anyway she spends at my grandma 3-4 hours a day not all day long, but enough to teach her different things. in the last period my girlie likes to go there as she gets always chocolate, juice, wafers and other sweets.she buys her everyday something to attract her by her side. my girlie loves her grandparents, i know a break should make her suffer but anyway even i don't move out of the town we won't live anymore in the same house with them in a few months. i don't want her to get confuse about elementary things because of them.i have many other problems because of the different points of view we have.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
i think you should just talk it out with your parents. tell her she shouldn't say unnecessary things to your daughter. especially if she has intentions of turning your daughter against you and your husband. because it would create only problems in the future. and try to understand your parents. maybe they are just lonely and they just want a child to brighten up their house.
and i think you should also spend more time with your daughter no matter how busy you are with your studies. that way, your daughter would feel that you are really her mother. and even if your parents would tell her that they are her parents, she wouldn't easily believe it because you were always there for her.
i hope everything goes well for you and your daughter.
