concern yet irritating
@suhasinihemanth (11)
India
April 8, 2008 7:07am CST
I stay with my widiwed mother and my paternal grandmother,after my dad's death we shifted to the same aprtment where my aunts stay, because of my financial situation I had to quit studying and start working, my dad was though a very good person by heart, was a drunkard, he died of liver cancer, now every one looks at me with concern and keep telling me that I should finish my graduation, work and be more patient at home as well. I have a very good rappot with my mom and grand mom and we discuss, fight , argue yet come to a wonderful conclusion abiut any thing and every thing. I just hate it when every body comes to me with some or the other topic asking me to change my self and comparing me with others, how on earth can they compare two people who basically have different backgrounds? It is so stressful as I know that they are really only concened about e and no other reason for them to be doing this. I agree that they have been really mnore than supportive to my mom and grand mom but that doesnt mean I take it all. It is so depressive and I dont want to discuss about this with my mom as she might feel bad about it. I just feel like never returning home just to avoid this. Its just getting on my nerves and dont know when and how will I break down, 2 days ago I visited a doctor who has identified me as a patient suffering from depression.
2 responses
@houndsgood (774)
• United States
8 Apr 08
Every mom and grandmother wants their kid to put forth their best effort, because they want the very best for them in their life. It is perfectly normal. It is probably very important for them for you to graduate because you have better opportunities ahead of you with your degree or certificate to whatever you are studying. But mostly, it is the satisfaction you will feel and its just not the piece of paper. Being in a job you love really has an effect on your life, and being able to support yourself is a good feeling too. I would say, slowly start to get into your classes again. It might be good for you too, during this time to build up a routine. It helps pull people out of depression too. And the fastest way to be able to get out of living with everyone else is to finish school.
I can't blame you that you are depressed - you are grieving. That would depress most people. I would also consider going to a grief counselor.
@houndsgood (774)
• United States
8 Apr 08
BTW, they are probably afraid of losing you also, as they just lost a loved one, and that is part of THEIR grieving process.
@suhasinihemanth (11)
• India
9 Apr 08
Thanks for your response but here its not my mom or greand mom as they know I am taking some time now but may be I will finish it off soon but its my aunts and uncles who are doing this as they dont even want to agree that there is some thing called depression or that I have my own financial problems or that I am waiting to save some money to pay the fees for graduating in my favorite subject i.e dance & music, My mom and grand mom are perfectly fine with this idea as they know I will be successful with that but my uncle and aunts just want me to take up some subject just for the heck of it.
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
8 Apr 08
I am so sad about how tough your situation is. My friend, I've been waiting to chat with you. Do you have a yahoo messenger so we can discuss how I can make you feel better? But pls. place your Yahoo ID on the PM board.
