have you ever been through a hard separation where kids are involved?
By angepange
@angepange (123)
Australia
April 8, 2008 11:18pm CST
i am going through a separation at the moment where i have 2 young daughters. the father cant accept that its over, it has been 5 months now. he wont leave me alone and uses my daughters as guilt to make me give him another go? he was abusive and mean, he thinks he can change but i dont!
does anyone have any advice for me or have you gotten through something similar?
2 responses
@keep_onwatch (2680)
• India
14 Apr 08
Yeah even im in the same situation, its been 2 months since we have been seperated and he still asks 4 another chance, you r right they think they can change, but they wont! Even i know he wont, he is abusive and so careless. Now hez trynna make my life all the more horrible being all the more abusive n sick, saying hez tired asking me to forgive him! I say you shud stick to what your mind n heary says. You r doing the right thing....
@angepange (123)
• Australia
28 May 08
thankyou. and good luck with you also. i still havent taken him back. your are right. they will never change, buggers!
@Cherokee_Rose (118)
• United States
9 Apr 08
You are doing the right thing,just stand your ground.I have been there yes,and my daughter is going through the same thing now.Once an abuser,always an abuser.Things may seem ok for a couple weeks,when you start thinking maybe he has changed,then it just gets ugly all over again,putting you and your daughters in danger again.Depending on how old the children are,they will see in time what he's doing,and only for his sake,not theirs or yours.Just stay strong,you can do it,don't give in.My thoughts and prayers are with you
