Would you EVER GET BACK WITH YOUR EX IF HE/SHE ASK YOU TO?
By manya_pearl
@manya_pearl (1901)
Singapore
April 9, 2008 5:24am CST
For me, i think its depend on how he changed... its depends on my feeling, do i still have feeling for him or not. For some reason, i wont back with my ex since i knew his character already... so i avoid not to have bad experience in relationship with the same person...
how about you?
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24 responses
@plumwish07 (4057)
• Indonesia
10 Apr 08
i don't think so although i know that we should give second chance to the person who ever hurted us. i have my own consideration for this matter. once someone already disappointed me in honesty in this kind relationship, i never thought that i should deserve him a second chance. beside that if i also see that the character of this person still the same way, as like you, i won't ever go back again with this person
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Jul 08
I have got back with alot of my ex's many times when I was younger. they didn't change one bit. I thought I was in love with them though, so I gave it another try. They treated me badly and cheated on me. It hurt me very bad and I did not take them back again after that. I got so tired of it. My husband and I had split up one time before we got married, but he realised he lost or left the love of his life. He came back to me and asked me to marry him and we have been together for 16 years now.
@vipulchawla (2220)
• India
9 Apr 08
Well. i have been in a relationship which broke out all of a sudden. And i am still curious to know the reason. We broke out without even saying anything to each other. though i still miss her and she had made it clear to me that the relationship cannot be our future.. but i know that we still love each other.
But the thing is.. she is the only person whom i can think of getting back if she asks me too. Though i have seen cases with my friends where a girl ditches a guy(both being my friends) for another guy. And in that case i completely agree to the guy if he doesn't get back to that girl if she asks too. Because in his case, the girl has broken his truat which can't be build again..
In my case,I understand her problems. so i can think of getting back
But this is not the case always
@clowdine (1402)
• Philippines
9 Apr 08
If I were still single, and without a boyfriend and he is not yet married, I will probably give him another chance. We were just young then and we fought over a very shallow and childish thing. Don't laugh at this but... we parted ways because of a plastic balloon which was a neighborhood kids' cheap toy. I don't know if you've seen it? Filipino mylotters would know what I'm talking about.
@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Same here.For me,an ex is still an ex.He'll say he loved me but he broke my heart.Wtf?
@crackhead (1826)
• India
12 Apr 08
To be frank i am a practical guy and wont loose any one soo easily. And if the person whom i like the most leaves me and when she wants me to get back again. I guess its the most difficult thing which i can do , i dont get back that easily cause once a relationship ends it means some thing is broken and it cant be attached again that easily. yeah may be i can just stay in touch with them but not the way i used to be. Its difficult to develop the trust which is lost in a relationship.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 08
I believe everything left to Time to persuade us.
In earlier phase, we don't want, but in the end, we end hooking up with the person. Unconditionally and unrecognized the Time had arranged it, we have no chance to reject it, but our Heart had been persuaded by Time.
The same with those who expecting for it, sometimes Time is fooling us around. The more we hope for it, the more it will never become a reality.
I remembered back my friend before her marriage, she said did not want to marry a smoker husband. But in the end, she married a heavy smokers type.
There is a reason behind the stage of Time giving us that way. We just choose, Time will rotate its gear, Time knows what will be happened, but not us.
So, just follow the wave.
@kjcolmo (24)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Also, as of me it would depend what area of him he is willing to change and if he really means it.
For a good example, before leaving him if he tried to control you. If so, upon my experience. heck no! If a man tries to rule your world, controlling where you go when you have to be back. Gives you attitude. No No No. Do NOT go back with him.
@sandybel20 (413)
• Romania
17 Apr 08
I never give a second chance to a relationship because usually you end up having the same problems and arguments you had when you were first dating. I just won't put myself in the same situation twice . I think it's a waste of time. Few people manage to really change and maybe those desrve a second chance.
One of my friends broke up and got back together so many times with her boyfriend that i can't remember. They are still fight over the same old things.
It's not worth the time and effort.
@dhvani_ant (63)
• India
9 Apr 08
for me...my ex is my friend now and i no more love him. he is my freind now because when we meet first our relationship began with friendship which was for about 3 years and our relation for about 2years...in our realtion also our friendship never got lost as result when now when we ended everyhting we are good friends..as we understand each other over time.i dont regret having such a good friend and today i love my love more than anyhting
@monishavakil (1019)
• India
9 Apr 08
to be very honest about it, i it would all depend on the circumstances of our break up. if i have been miserable in the relationsip i would never get back, however if i still love him yes i would return