My dad acts weird at times!
By shedii
@shedii (1486)
India
April 9, 2008 7:38am CST
I was reading a discussion here about going to bed with door locked or not and I thought I may get some suggestion about my problem.
My dad doesn't allow me to stay awake late night to study and the reason for this is that according to him waking early morning is better than studying at night. But he is not understanding my situtation that I start from home to go to attend college & classes in the morning 9am so I'll have to wake up at 3am or something if I want to study for longer time and I can't wake up sooooooo early.
I explained about this to him & he said ok. But then daily night after 11pm every 15 minutes he comes to me & says its 11 now, its 11:15 now & so on...Then, recently I sarted doing this that I say good night to my parents at night before 10, go to my room, put on bed lamp & lock up my room to study so that I can study at night without my dad knowing about it. But its just a temporary solution because some day definitely my dad is going to find out this. Does anyone here has any sugesstion that could solve my problem?
2 responses
@Wyndsong738 (24)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I would say sit down and have a talk with your dad again. Explain to him that you are in college and you need to be able to make your own decisions. You are responsible enough to set your own schedule, and while you love him and respect his advice, it's not the way you want to do things. Tell your dad that he needs to respect your ability to do things for yourself and that you understand his concern. A lot of parents just want to know that their views are seen and respected, and that their children understand that they want the best for them. Talking openly and honestly goes a long ways. If need be, tell him that you can't have him interrupting your studying and so that is why you lock your door, and keep doing that even after he knows about it.
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@shedii (1486)
• India
10 Apr 08
Thanks for your response! I have explained to him about it, but he is not ready to understand it. He wants me to wake up early because he did it while he was a student and he thinks thats the right way. I don't think he is going to understand so I have decided I'll continue locking my room to study and wouldn't think about what happens next.
@casita (237)
• United States
9 Apr 08
I guess it all really depends on how much sleep you are getting. You can study all sorts of hours, but if you are sleep deprived you won't really retain any of it.
As a parent, I can say that time is just a clock. I get up at 4a.m. So, obviously, I go to bed at a time that others might seem very early.
During the summer, my high school age son stays up very late. . .so getting up at 11:00am. really isn't late at all. . .although hopefully this year he's finally old enough to get a summer job!
Do you see my point?
As long as you get sufficient sleep, I really don't think what time it is matters at all. Schedules change when your classes change each semester. Schedules will change in the summer. Schedules will change with job changes. So, we set our clocks to adjust.
Also, by coming in every 15 minutes he's probably doing more harm to you than good. It's a break in your concentration, I would think.
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