I was approached by a lesbian friend as a possible partner...

I wouldn't be offended. Your friend enjoys your company and finds you attractive - both of those are compliments and should be taken as such. I would have laughed it off also, especially if I enjoyed their company - I'd have probably said something like "I know my hubby/boyfriend is driving me crazy - but I'm not ready to switch teams yet - LOL" Course my friends and I joke that one day we might just turn lesbian - you never have to fight about who controls the remote and you could double your wardrobe just by dating someone ;-)

Hi Ruby, WOW!! Amazing. Errr, I've never been approached by a lesbian of course, LOL..but I've been approached by this particular gay guy. But he's not really my friend, just someone that happens to work at the same office as me which was a few years back. He sort of talked to me everyday and I knew he was gay but just treated him like "one of the guys". So, when one day he "hinted" to me that he had feelings for me, I was very uneasy and really had difficulty in sleeping because I wouldn't know how to face him the next day onwards. He took it bad because since that day, I didn't really talked "friendly" with him. But I wasn't trying to be rude or anything like that. In fact, I was very shocked and at the same time, had a very slow response to things like what should I do next and should I talk as per normal or just act blur etc. So, I chose to be quiet and let things subside. The next I knew, he spread the word in the office that I'm a loser. I just shrugged it off but I really wasn't in the run to hurt "his" feelings. It was just as spot-on reacting from me since I didn't really expect that kind of thing to happen. But there are other gay friends whom I known them to be my friend's friend etc; and they are pretty cool about being buddies like going for an outing together as a group like that. There are gays that are cool like that, and won't harbor their feelings just like that to you. Good discussion here, made me remember my past. ;)

Nope but refuse it in a way not to offend her also like what you have done! Its ok to be honest and confide our feelings so no reason for us to be offended but as long as we handle it properly we will maintain the frienship that which is a good thing and as long also as she will be open-minded enough to understand why you refuse her then no problem at all!

i never face this kind of sisuation.

I would surely be offended. The friend should first make sure that he/she an I think alike or not. You cannot randomly approach anyone.

Offended by what? A friend having a thing for me? Or a friend giving me the brush off. I wouldn't be offended either way, but more so had being brushed off, I would take a friend having a thing for me as a compliment.

Not offendet, but just a bit sad.

hi ruby222 hahaa, hmm don't know what to write actually i have never been on such position, but one of my friend did and he got scared.. hahaaa i'm not used to use the 'offend' word but my friend's experience is a little different with yours the other 'guy' is not his close friend nor mine errmm.. if it's me, i think i might be offended ?? actually i think i will be more in a sad condition than in being offended the friendship will not be the same, and surely i'm not going to be able to stay close with him thanks ruby222 .. ^^

No I wouldn't have been offended. I would probably be surprised that she thought there was any possibility of me being interested since from all appearances I am very straight. The only reason our friendship wouldn't be the same after would be if she couldn't handle being only friends.

No I do not think I would have been offended at all, I certainly do not think I would have let it affect the friendship, not if I could help it anyway. I would probably feel a little flattered that she thought that much about me. I would like to think that I would have done the same thing as you did.

no I would not be offended, the same thing happened to me a lot of years ago and like you I laughed it of and that was the end of the matter and we stayed friends for years until she moved away.

I think I'd feel quite chuffed at this proof that I could still pull at my advanced age actually!! I certainly wouldn't be offended, but I'd probably be rather surprised that my friend would approach me in this way if I'd not previously given her any reason to suspect that I'd be interested.