My Love Problem

Hello, Wyrus. I have been in almost the same situation that you did. Not for five years, though. No, I did not get the girl, but I found out that my mistake was the way of approaching. When I went to talk to her, it was alright. But when I told her that I loved her, all the time I was talking to her she was reacting like if I was just trying to impress. And things got harder for me as well. So, you should move slowly. First of all, so you won't get as hurt as you probably will if you keep like this: do not expectate. Just don't think that she is going to say yes, nor think that she is going to say no. Do you part, and everything will be alright. Second: create a natural situation in order to "meet" her and become her friend. For example: "Hey, I saw you yesterday at that show and blablabla"... But of course, she must have been in the show, lol. The best way to do this is by being a friend of one of her friends. Then you ask to be introduced. Third: act like someone who loves, say romantic things, but do not say you love her. You'll become friends, and if you act in the right way, she will always be seeing you as someone more than a common friend. Just be romantic, and she will start to guess what would it be like to be with you. Fourth: just turn to her and say that you have a crush on her. Then ask what does she thinks about it. She will say wether she wants you or not. If failed, you won't be so hurt, since you weren't expecting ANYTHING. Respectfully, Munhozmib.

I have just came up with an interesting thing you could do to her . take you cell like your talking to someone , come up to her take you cell away , watch closely into her eyes for few seconds , but not more than 2-3 then take you cell back like your having a conversation with someone saying this phrase * I told you she had the most beautiful eyes in the world.. * and without any words just walk away ... that will make an impression.

First of all, a girl doesn't want a player because players are full of games and most of time are out for one thing. You do not seem like the type that just wants one thing. I understand how you feel, not having the back bone to do what you really want to do (been there, done that). You seem to be shy also.......is that the problem? Are you shy? Why don't you start a conversation with her? Start out by saying hello, how are you? after she answers you, say to her: "You know I've been meaning to tell you something but haven't had the nerve to approach you" and then finish it up however you want. Go ahead and do it okay!. I wish you the best.

first of all i think that you are throwing the word love around very carelessly. if you do not know this girl more than talking to her for a few times there is no way that you can honestly say that you love her. you may be very attracted to her and that is real and it does seem that you are infatuated that is obvious. but dont mistake that for love. if you really want to be with her suck it up and talk to her, see if you have anything in common, ask her out and see where it goes. if you think that becoming a "player" will get this girl out of your system then the love thing is just as i said it is. when you get to know her and see what she is like on a daily basis and still feel that she is one that you can fall in love with then pursue her. you only feel like a loser because you have convinced yourself that you are. sometimes girls will see that you are really into them if you show the confidence in yourself and let her see that you are something she needs. if you have to make her love you then it isnt love and you will get hurt. grow a set and ask her out, if you cant then move on because you have a lot more to learn than how to get a girl. im sorry if i seem blunt but you need blunt right now. hope it works out. oh by the way ive been married for seventeen years and grow more in love everyday. i tried the "make them love me thing" and ended up one hurt person on several occassions. good luck,my man

Trust me you do not want to be a player, I'm sure you're not the type seeing as you've been in love for five years with the same girl. Instead of scaring her off by saying you love her, or even asking her out why don't you get to know her better? Perhaps you could ask her out for a coffee? Or see a film? If you are worried about rejection maybe organise a whole group of friends going to the cinema- and invite her along casually? That way you can find out whether she's interested without feeling like a loser if she isn't interested. To increase your chances of success with her; make ure you look and smell your best (don't overdo the afterhave though!). Be nice to her, compliment her and be a good friend. I wish you a lot of luck!

Be yourself completely - if it's meant to be it'll be :) Get to know her and talk to her - that's the only way you'll have the possibility for her to be your friend, and then it'll move on to girlfriends. It'll take time, but you've already proved you're willing to wait - which is good :) Don't change into a player, be yourself, and the rest will follow. If it doesn't work out with this girl you can get to know someone else and hopefully meet someone who likes you just as much as you like this girl. Good luck.

The way I see it, you've fallen in love with this girl's looks, and have placed her on a pedestal. You idolise her, and so are afraid of being put down by her. You need to gain some confidence to approach her. Take her down off the pedestal, and ask her to join you for a coffee and chat with her; get to know what she's like inside. If she is beautiful on the outside and undesirable on the inside, it almost certainly will not work out. However, if she radiates her beauty from inside, then she's worth the five years you've spent admiring her, and you can get to know her more, by making that coffee a regular one to start with, and progressing from there. Good luck my friend, but never underestimate your charms. Brightest Blessings.

I do not understand how you want to be a 'player'? i do not guess girls just like to play with emotions taht much. if you truly love her, make courage to say her.otherwise how she would know this. ready for any response.

my suggestion is very simple- dont try to play,just be honest and ask her out. she will be moved if she feels your honest love

What you really need to do is get the guts to talk to her somehow,someway. Call her , write her a note or just go up and speak to her. you, unfortunately, need to brace yourself for rejection. This is not love...it is a huge crush. She could be seeing someone else or maybe not even attracted to you which does not mean you aren't attractive. It just means she isn';t the right girl. I'm much older now and I run into guys from my younger days that tell me they had a crush on me. know whats sad? I had one on them too quite often. I was very shy and lacked confidence. I am shocked when I hear guys tell me now that they would have loved to gone out with me but were afraid....I would never have guessed it. I'm not sayint thats how it is with this girl but you won't know if you don't make a move.

I am a girl,so I feel hard to help. But I can tell you my feeling about the boy at girl's position. The first appearance is important. Clean and tidy are vital.then intensity and polite are the elements too. I think firstly you should know clearly your girl frind's character and hobbies. Pay more attention to her.

Firstly,congratulations to you for having such a girl to love. You can put a message in her bags.If she go to the appointed place ,you can speak your love without any hesitation.On the contrary,go to next goal.

It is pretty easy by the way you need few things though . 1) Look good ! - Nice clothes ,good smell 2) Smile - try watching yourself in mirror with grimreapers face and ask yourself out and then try just lightly smiling - youll see the difference 3) Courage - major problem ... You have a fear to be turned down but you are the best guy in a world what else does she need ? - think that way , be confident . 4) Do not hesisate to ask but do it wisely , liek NOT TO ASK I WANNA BE YOU BOYFRIEND WANNA BE MY GIRLFRIEND ? No , youll be kicked out . Come to her look in to her eyes ( eye contact is very important ) make a compliment - simple like *wow you look gorgeous * do not forget to smile . Do not ask her to go out at first this is too ackward , watch her actions if she is like YACK i dont like you , then do not bother , if she is kind try asking her for a coup of coffee or watever next time you see her would be best if you did that the same day - Like Hi you look gorgeus , oh oh no time talking see you later . Next meeting is like make a sad smile like aww my plans for tonight are ruined .. wanna go to have a coup of coffee ? It is your choice what to do but remember if she turns you down life doesnt end here .