love or cheat ?

China
April 9, 2008 8:59pm CST
hi, everyone, whats your opinion about a man who betrayed his wife,however after that he left his lover -who is a single girl- and back to his wife but he still keeps saying loving the girl. by the way, he and his wife have a five years old daughter. its a little complicated, however, would you like to tell me your attitude towards this three persons. if you are the husband, how you can handle this, you know be with the wife but still thinks another woman? is this not hurt to you? if you are the wife, would you like to know the truth? and if you are the lover, would you like to give up this man or you want to keep this relationship? who is the one suffers the most in this relationship? and if you want to blame, who you will point to? and can you call this is real love? or just cheatint?
2 responses
Canteen
@Canteen (592)
• China
10 Apr 08
oh, the problem is really complicated. i wanna say the man is irresponsible. maybe something is wrong between he and his wife, but the child is innocent and absolutely it's bad for her to grow up in this kind of family. my parents got divorced when i was very young, i have to say this really gives me some bad influence. it's my bad who loved another woman and left my mom. but i don't want to blame my dad, cuz i know how he suffered in the marriage with my mom. he didn't love my mom. so it's hard to say who is right and who is wrong in this situation. maybe the wife can do something to hold the husband back and let him realize the one he really loves is her not the young girl. i think he must at least have loved his wife, if not, why did they get married at first? so maybe there's still love between them and they don't have to be divorced. it does the best to the child.
rafichang
@rafichang (35)
• China
10 Apr 08
thank you very much for your analysis. i think its really hard for any one of them to make a decision.
aowaow
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
17 Apr 08
It's up to the man now. If he wants the sour part, then leave the family and go with the woman, but he needs to think 10 times before doing this. If he wants the redemption, then depends on his approaching to his family back, especially his wife. The one who will most in here, is the girl who had the affair with him. This is only if she hopes too much on him.