Is it a responsibility?

I believe in helping out parents, but you don't need to give all of your money to them. Abuse is a different story. It's so much better if the parents would not depend on their children for their retirement.

It's not right for the father to quit working and expecting his daughter to pay his way. The job of parents is to prepare children to make their way in the world and to support them until they can--unless they're deadbeats, in which case the parents should kick them out or demand behavior changes. I see nothing wrong with parents charging some rent if they take into account how much the child makes and how much they want them to save towards getting their own place and independence. But it's wrong for your children to support you! Your friend's parents are moochers and she should move out and not feel guilty.

I don't think that is right at all. Espically if it is her first job. Maybe pay a little money to help out with some of the house hold expenses but not all of it. I can't believe her dad quit his job expecting her new job to pay all of the bills.

Well I don't think it's the childs responsibility to pay the bills, but it does happen in our culture. As soon as one gets a job, they are often asked to bear the brunt of a lot of finances and sometimes don't get anything for them to keep for themselves unless it's transport money. Most of the time, both parents wouldn't be working so the responsibility fell upon the children. It was just they way they did things. My older brother was asked to help out when he first got his full-time paid job but I'm not sure on how much. I have worked with many young people who were forced into giving their full paycheck over to their parents and only given back $20 to last them until their next paycheck. The sad thing about this is that because you live under their roof what they say goes, and it's hard to go against it or else you get disciplined and even shunned by the families. I know I won't be doing that to my son and burdening him with any of our financial woes. If he chooses to help out then fine but I am not going to force him to.

If the your friend is a teenager and on the parents' car insurance, THAT is the only expense shend should have to pay IMO... However, if your friend is an adult, living at home, has a job and doesn't go to school.. then yes, she should help with SOME of the expenses while saving up to get a place of her own. If the father quit his job for her to take care of him, shame on him, for that should not be a reason, however, it is his prerogative to quit working at any time he wants.

well i think that its every childs responsibility to look after their parents and its a shame that parents have to ask this. I am an Indian and in our culture we consider parents as god. many people in India leave very good job opportunities and let go many luxuries of life just o stay with their parents even if they are very old. Parents make many sacrifices for their children throughout their life and children should pay back whenever they get an opportunity. In India many we just look for an opportunity to help our parents and its not only our responsibility or duty totake care of them but also our prevellege. I know many would not agree with this idea but I have visited few western countries and have found that people are much happier here inspite of poverty.

You have only heard one side of the story. Maybe the father stopped working for health reasons. In any case I think when children start to work as teenagers it is usually for minimum wage and part time. They should be allowed to keep all the money they make to cover their personal expenses and save up some money. When an adult child with a full salary lives in the parents house this child should either move out and cover their expenses completely or divide the household expenses. Example 2 parents and 1 adult child with a full salary. The adult person who lives with their parents should cover 1/3 of the household expenses such as food, electricity, rent, water and heating. Grown ups, be it parents or children should always take care of their own responsibilities, unless there is illness or misfortune. If there is, children should take care of their parents and parents should take care of their children. That is what families are for.

I think if her dad can still work he shouldn't have stopped working at all. In my case my mom and dad are old and my sisters who live with them are giving shares in paying for the bills and food since my parents are both 80 plus now but my dad have some pension money and he uses it to buy medicine for him and my mom. If I had extra money I wouldn't mind doing it for my parents. My parents don't expect any of us to give them money or anything we just do it on our own. Parents should be taken care of by their children when they are old to work or not capable of working anymore. I won't expect that from my kids when I grow old..If they want to give that's fine, if they don't want then it's their choice but my being a parent to them would never change.

Different people, different issues.... certainly nothing wrong in asking and certainly nothing wrong in not paying.....it all is in the family

How old is the friend and how old are her parents. these issues matter because a young person just starting out could not really help her parents that much. But if the person is much older and the parent aged yes I think a grown son or daughter has to help them to some extent.I mean the parents have worked their tails off to provide a child with everything it needs but sometimes in old age the parents just do need help really and truly.

you know what ive been pndering this question all my life cause my mother is sorta the same bu i swear if i had alot of money a application and full paid room to the old floks home she would go , ...i think that yeah thats how parents are , we birth you , raised you , fed you , you know the rest , so do the same in their last year on earth like to me thats sorta of a crutch that they use ..but idk this question probalky goes into the minds of people who dont have kids i guess maybe when we get older we will think differently , but to me i wouldnt want my kid to take care of me , respect me yes but dont take care of me while you have your life ahead of you

I think parents are children's responsbility,but it's not like your friend's father,as the responsbility is not to say that children should afford everything and the parents need not to consider anything,it stand more about the spirit,and the parents should not have the idea that"I foster them and they must listen to me on everything" as children have their own job,their own family and their own responsbility,so do not add the pressure on their shoulders.

I donot think chilren do have the responsibility for their parent. We have the right to deal with our own property.With the salary ,we can do what we want or something else. If anyone of parents has some trouble with their own life.Then,we should or must take care of them.The reason is that without them where you will be? But everything should be on its right way.

I think she should pay rent and help out, but I certainly don't think it is at all right for the parents to take advantage of her like that. Unless there is some reason why the parents can't work and she was willing to support them.