Did your parents beat you when you were young ?

Yes, I was beaten as a child. One of my brothers and myself were adopted. I was just beginning the second grade. The beating began immediately. The first thing I was beaten for was being left handed. The second thing was to teach me my multiplication tables. For each one I would get wrong, when being quizzed by them, or not anwering quickly enough, I got ten swats with a 1x4 board. The beating were only part of the problem. My adoptive mother would pour rubbing alchohol on me, you know where, while I was bathing. She would then have the nerve to wonder why I was so red!!!! She liked playing "peek a boo" with a pillow over my face and almost smothered me one night. The beatings and strange behavior continued till I had enough and left home at 16. Anything that happened in the home I got blamed for, even when they had proof that it was my brother that had done it. I spoke to an aunt about a year ago. She and her father, my adoptive dad's (Ron) family, apologized for not being there for us. How could they, they were states away from us. She told me that Ron had said that he was going to be extreme with us because he felt that his mother had been too soft on him and his sister. I haven't seen these people since I was 17. I'm in my 40's. I quit speaking with them entirely several years ago. Yes, I would occasionally try to mend fences. A person wants to be loved by their family afterall. For many years I thought it was my fault and that I deserved it. I know better now. Currently they are being ugly to Ron's sister. Their father passed and he forced her out of the home and into a small apartment that is barely liveable. He won't let her see the paperwork. She is afraid of him. They are bad people. I would not let them near a child. I would sooner take their lives and rot in jail then allow them to harm another child. Fortunately, that isn't something I have to worry about.

I was never beaten when I was young but did get slapped on the face by my mother for answering back (I deserved that one) and smacked on the bottom a few times. My hubby got it worse though and was hit by a jug chord, a belt, a broom and almost beaten to the point that he started to bleed when he crashed his parents car. If his mother hadn't jumped in and stopped his father, then I am not sure whether he would of been here today. I have seen worse in a lot of Pacific Island families and have witnessed neighbors pulling children's hair and all sorts. If you disobeyed your parents, you got a beating. Sad but true.

i remember dad nevet beat me up. it was mom who used to beat me. she used to beat very hard. i think she is not good at controlling temper. she even beat when there were trivial issues.

I am so sorry to hear about this. Beating is not the way forward. You can't force a child to get better results this way. I prefer to think that if you nuture them, give them lots of love and ensure that they understand the difference between right and wrong then that should be enough. I know that a lot of the Asian way of life - I am assuming that this story comes from Asia (if it doesn't then please do accept my apologies) - they have very strict codes and that to succeed in your schooling and have respect for your elders are both very high on the list of priorities. However, I really don't believe this is the best way to treat your child. My mother didn't beat me. I remember the last time she spanked me on my bottom. I was 4 yrs old, she hit me once and said that that would suffice, from now on she would not tolerate that sort of behavoiur, but she also would not hit me again, ever, but that if I gave her a look, I was to understand that that was equivalent to a spanking. I tell you it worked. Not only on me but to all my friends too! My golly she was good and so incredibly loving. She said it hurt her more to hit me than it did to receive the punishment and just couldn't envisage slapping me ever again - and she didn't!

I feel I am lucky enough that my parents hardly beat me when I was young,but if I was lazy or fell the exams my mother may scold me,and I quite agree with your opinion,parents should not always beat their children especially when they grow up,as it may make them produce the idea of treason,and then you will find that there is a generation gap between you and your children.

I had my share of beating ...why lie. But i really desrved it. My sisters and i used to play on a building construction site and jump from the first floor in the sand . We thought it was fun...and we kept going there every day and jumped form the second floor and higher untill one of the neighbours told our parents. Now i understand the saying: "I made you , I'll kill you!"

Beating a child and being abusive in anyway is never right. There is a difference though between abuse and discipline. Discipline, even spankings, should never leave marks or permanent damage. Parents who do go to those extremes are never right to do so. There is no way to make up for what they did or repair that sort of damage. I know myself my parents weren't the greatest but in comparison to others I probably got off very lucky.

Yes I got spanked quite a few times. Mainly by my father though. Some of the time I felt like he over did it myself. Then there were times I guess I asked for it also.

My parents never hurt me physically. But then again I was a good boy. I do recognize that there really are some kids that are too wild and out of control. But I still don't believe in beating them up. There's got to be a better way to discipline them, perhaps the reward-and-punishment system. Like, increase their allowance if they're doing good. Decrease their allowance if they're behaving badly.

well my dad use to beat me an my sister not so much my brothers cause they were boys an i found out one day from my grandma that she beat my dad when he was growwing up she even told me about the time the poilice came an threaten to take my dad away cause he was late comming home so she beat him real bad an the reason he was late was he was playing bowling for his school I know bowling right anyway he got hit with a ball an the teachers took him to get medical attention an he had to get stitches she said it didn't matter he shouldn't of been late anyway because of him I am real carefull with my children an happy to say out of all my dad's kids none of us hit our kids we broke the chain

I dont really remember my dad hitting me, but my Mom did a one time and YES I totally agree that I deserved it. I was only 9, wrote her a note and went with one of my older friends to the lake. I knew she would say no, so I wrote a note. LOL I learned my lesson for sure. My Mom told me once I grew up why my dad never hit us. He once hit my older brother before I was born and he couldnt stop, so then on my Mom swore at him to never touch her baby's again.

no my parents did not beat me when i was a child the rather not do it because by the time i was finish with the dance that i would normally do before the belt reaches my behind they would be washed away in tears with laughter. So if they were really mad at something that i did they would just punish me.

My parents never "beat me" My Dad busted my butt once when i was younger and thats all it took....i never disrespected my dad again...till this day i dont even use profanity around my dad.....cuss like a sailor around everyone else though! lol

Yes I was beaten when I was little, though I'm not going to bother going in details. Whats done is done. I don't so much hate my parents but they do get on my nerves easily, though it may be more of a teenager thing. There is no real way of stopping violent disciplinary actions by parents because of how enclosed and personal it is. A parent disciplining his/her child is nothing uncommon and people tends to ignore it because it really isn't their business. The only real way of stopping or reducing it is to educate or get more attention on the issue. Still most parents that do it just because it is the easiest way of controlling their kids.

No never my parents have ever touched me always tried to make me understand if i was wrong at any point of time.

When I was still a child, about 3 to 9 years old, my father used to discipline me through spanking and beating. But it was not that painful enough because I even remember that I was laughing when he did that to me once. He is just trying to make me feel that I have done wrong.

I agree with you, it does more harm than it does good. Parents abusing their children is just awful! I was beat a few times as a kid ... however in my case I can say that I was not abused physically.

No that I remember.Maybe I erased.