Does your partner change after moving in with you/after marriage?
@FrangipaniLady07 (22)
Malaysia
April 10, 2008 4:34am CST
Does your partner change for better or worse, after marriage or when moving in together?
Do you like the change and what advice could you give others before they make that leap?
Mhusband and I started as friends before becoming more intimately involved. We got to know each other's background etc etc. He was attentive, courteous and would actually plan to lunch or dine at a fantastic restaurant/resort which is almost 2 hours drive away. He had no problems with my mini skirts etc but after getting married, he became more possessive and bossy but me being me, put my foot down and refuse to budge and told him he married me for ME.
That was the end of that issue. He's been supportive and alot more patient when our kids came along. Our relationship is really fantastic compared to the 1st coupla years. Communication does play an important part. Give and take and agreeing to disagree. I'm not saying it's perfect but it's good enough and we are happy.
Whether you agree or disagree that many of us do change..your opinions and advice on this subject are warmly welcomed.
1 response
@heart143 (1202)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
No, I don't think he has changed or if ever he has changed...he changed for the better.
Once we get married or moved in with our partner, the mystery hiding or camouflaging ourselves disappear. The real you surfaces. In our daily living with our partners, we discover many things about him, as well as he discovers something new about us. I can't say it's a change but instead a discovery, because people cannot just change in an instant.
I would say I'm very lucky because I married a very good man. He is very supportive and loving. He gives me anything I want and would always do anything to make my child and I very happy. We also had our adjustment period...the time when we had to discover "the good and the bad" sides of each other and I'm glad it's over. We have learned to love and accept each other's shortcomings. Now, I couldn't ask for more...he keeps on changing, and changing and changing for the better.