Do you go to bat for your "enemy"?
By gxnfly
@gxnfly (1147)
China
April 10, 2008 6:53am CST
OK,this happened to my friend Xin.Xin got into some trouble at work last week,He was reproached for not turning in his sales reports in time by the manager.To his surprise his secretary went to bat for him by admitting that she had misplaced the reports that he gave her to be typed.
For you information they are enemies usually,he think she is too superficial and spoiled.She think he is too bossy and talks behind his back all the time.They hate each other inwardly and argue with each other all the time.Actually my friend was think of getting rid of her someday.But to his surprise,she
went to bat for him .Now he was a litte bit moved by what she did,just still don't know why she did that.
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10 responses
@TriciaW (2441)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Sounds like there might be more to this then either care to admit. It would be interesting to see if he would defend her if she was attacked by someone. Sometimes oppisites attract and since you mentioned they argue a lot and the reasons for their dislikes sound kind a bit like personalities it may be that deep down they really like each other and would be hard pressed to find another place or other people they could relate to in this setting. Just a thought.
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@bournecaindelta (2477)
• India
10 Apr 08
I personally never had the situation, but I think that your friend was just lucky that he has such a good enemy . I never have been in a situation where I have had to support my enemy, I have very less enemies too. But I think that I would If The situation in which it would put my enemy is very grave and I have the feeling they wouldn't be able to handle it.
bourne
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
11 Apr 08
It sounds like even if they don't like each other, she is very much a woman of integrity and that is a very good thing. He should reassess his feelings for her. He may find that she really is not as bad as he thought she was.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
31 Jul 08
That sounds about right. It used to be do unto others as you would have done unto you, but these days, it is do unto others before they do unto you. I hated the workplace. People were such back stabbers. They would always stir up gossip or they would start trouble for you while you are trying to do your work, get your paycheck and just go home. I think it was a game for them.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
11 Apr 08
I would have done just as she did and have done things similar to that. I don't actually hate anyone but there are people that i don't exactly like either. If I am wrong, I could not sit back and let someone take the blame for me. I don't have to like them. Its integrity and honesty.
@ubuntujason (196)
• United States
11 Apr 08
hey all~
wow sounds like a possible truce in the making :P to answer the question, yes i would goto bat for an enemy, IF it's a just cause (something like the situation u described) i believe in honest and that people should be given a chance, innocent till proven guilty and such...so if even an enemy is accused of something, i think that model should still apply....
on the other hand, if it's not a just cause, then no...i would leave them out to dry....
~j
@paulsy (1263)
• Philippines
10 Apr 08
Well, inspite of their differences, I think the secretary still felt her responsibility for her boss. They may argue all the time but maybe somehow she still has some respect for him. He is fortunate to have a secretary like her. Maybe somehow she also wants to patch things up with her boss. That is really an amazing thing for her to do. I hope he was grateful to her for covering up for him.
@spokesman (84)
• United States
10 Apr 08
Sometimes the way to foster communication and friendship is to take a forward, proactive step in reaching out to those we don't see eye to eye with. It's too bad the governments of the world haven't tried this technique more often.
@wittyakanksha (436)
• India
10 Apr 08
that was something nice and surprising!i'm sure xin would be torn between contradicting feelings.it could be a sudden change of heart or it could possible by that she has something else planned.or i think maybe she's trying to make amends with him.i would suggest that he stills take his cautions around her and if she's trying to make efforts towards the whole thing then allow her to do the same.
