if she says it's over, is it really over?
By renaud_tan
@renaud_tan (416)
Philippines
April 11, 2008 10:08am CST
[i]when she says it's over.. is it really over?
if your girlfriend tells you that she doesn't love you anymore, what would you tell her? if she says that its over, does she really mean it? would you accept the fact that she doesn't love you anymore? how would you react if your situation with your girlfriend is like this? [/i]
4 responses
@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
it is for me. Based on my experience, if i say its over.. it is over. I guess some girls too are like me.. and probably others aren't.
Women can be so patient about the person they love, will endure everything they can take to fight for that love.. but when they walk away because they think it is hopeless fighting and being hurt all the time... there is no turning back.
@wonder_grrrl66 (236)
• United States
16 Apr 08
I think women can sometimes say it's over even when the don't really mean it's over, but that's very rare. When I've said it's over, I truly meant it and there wasn't anything the guy the could do to get me back.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
11 Apr 08
It depends how valid is the reasons behind..if its valid enough to ended the relationship.,, I guess its better for the guy to honor and respect the decision but, if its only a little argument and can be solved by waiting the time until the girl is ready, he has to wait patiently and apologize!
@the_ruler (1442)
• Turkey
11 Apr 08
as homegrowntexasgirl mentioned, it really depends on the person but nowadays, when a girl says it is over ,she really means it is over if there is not an extreme situation behind that thing.
You know,those extreme situations wouldn't happen in everyones life. I would like to give some examples but I am too sleepy to think of them right now but you might have seen some movies and the lady "had to" leave the man for something, and even if she loves him, she says she doesn't because there is another reason behind it.
But, if we have to be realistic, I don't think they would do that if they didn't really mean it. Just think: If you really love someone, and if you are really into anything with her, would you ever mention those words? and if you do, would she forgive you after you say you didn't mean them? I don't think so...
A friend of me used to say: "If you think she is yours, just let it go. If she really belongs to you,she will come back". First of all, this quote was a pessimistic one for me because I (thought) had not chance to let her go, but what happened? It didn't check if I let her or not.. She just left.. And now, I think that quote is too optimistic. Because if someone really belongs to you, he (or she) wouldn't say those words because of your importance in her heart.
Of course, as I have mentioned your relationship might be different. Not all the people in the world look like each other. We all differ in many topics. Maybe she really had a vital reason for saying this... I hope everything will be good for you at the end, wheter with her or without.