When marriages go wrong....

So far I have no married friends in the Philippines who get divorce or split up but I heard some acquintances here in DK who are divorced and in the process of divorce. I wonder why people split up after taking vows and all. I asked some people and said that top most reasons why people in DK ended up their marriages because of lack of time together. What I mean is quality time with just the two of them as a couple. Most of the times they go out with friends or family, they have no chance to keep burning the desire and excitement for each other. Oh I feel so bad hearing it. I do wonder of course if I will have a successful marriage life with the person I choose to spend the rest of my life with.

It only upsets me when I thought they had a good marriage. Now if I saw a reason for why this marriage should have been broken then it doesn't bother me. I have been on the end of a divorce. And it did upset my friends because no one understood why? I didn't even understood why this was happening to me. It does make you stop and re-evaluate your marriage.

My only friend that got divorced after 10 years of marriage had problems during the marriage. Even though she was much more unhappy than he was, it was no big surprise to her friends. I think he was caught slightly off guard but he really had not reason to be, if he had just paid attention. I know everything around us can affect our relationship, but people around us breaking up doesn’t make me second guess what I have.

I am divorced and was very shocked when he left me but am overall happy it happened to me as I have moved on and am happier than ever. I think people need to really take time and think before they get married.

It doesn't really bother me or upset me these days. I've been married three times, for 1 year, 5 yrs, and the last was 16 years. I have been in my current relationship for 3 years now, it's great, he's wonderful, but I have to wonder, will it last. I mean as in 'forever'. We are not currently married, and are not making any plans to be married anytime soon, he's been married 3 times before also. So you might say that we are both a little leary of marriage. If it does last between us, I don't need a piece of paper or a ring to know that he loves me.

hi whywiki i once spoke to my godmother the other day and i told her about this girl that i met. and she said something that was extremly strange. she said, "it's not easy to love someone" and after reading your discussion (and comments) i realise now that a relationship (and marrage) requires cannot be sustained by just feelings alone. we have to really out our heart, mind, body and soul into it. what will i do if it's not enought ? i'll atleast ask her what i did wrong before she leaves. but i this a great discussion and have a good one !

It upsets me a little, depending on which friends it is. But it is an every day life occurance and so I am never surprised by it anymore. I don't know too many people that have been married to only one partner, for very long. Marriage isn't what it used to be, people just jump in and out of them these days. There is no commitment anymore. I am divorced as well, and have been for the last 20 years. I will never marry again and instead I lived with a guy for 19 years and now we have broken up to, just two months ago. I left him in Winnipeg and moved to Calgary where my daughter lives. And loving it, the free life again, to do what ever I want to do.