does absence make the heart grow more fonder? or forgetful?

I say it all depends on how true and deep the love is. If it isn't right for the people involved, the absence will wake the heart up, and help the person realize its time tomove on with their lives. But if the realtionship is strong and the love grows deep to the inner core of the couple, than the absence will make the heart grow fonder... Sooner or later one of the people will make sacrifices in their lives to be with the one they love.

i think it's hard to say... but i think most cases it won't work out. my friend was with her boyfriend for more than a year before he had to go abroad for his studies. but the thing about her situation was that even upon completion of his studies her bf wouldn't be coming back, as his family is planning on moving over there. so the most they'll get to actually meet up and physically see other is no more than approximately a month every year. in addition, my friend has also been facing pressure from her dad, who doesn't like the guy, since the beginning of the relationship. my friend was really sad when he left and they made all possible efforts to keep in touch, even to the extent of going online everyday. she will always try to go back home asap everyday just to be able to spend more time online with him. They will even leave their cams on while they're doing work. Unfortunately (or not, coz i'm really not in any position to judge), another guy came into her life a few months later. initially, she merely regarded him as a good friend, and when he confessed, she got a big shock, though she did admit that he'd stand a good chance if she wasn't attached. however, she didn't accept him immediately. after a very long and painful struggle though, she finally gave in. she's the sort who thinks far ahead (whether that's a good or bad thing in this case, i don't know) and said she didn't think she could possibly be involved with the first guy for say another 5 to 10 years and only get to see him a few weeks every year. i guess this, coupled with the pressure from her dad's disapproval, made it really hard for her. i don't blame her, coz i can't even imagine being in her situation. i just felt that it was a real pity, coz the first guy was quite a nice guy who really took good care of her. but in any case, she broke up with him and has been with the second guy now for almost a year already.

i think in most cases its out of sight, out of mind...unless they really love each other...sometimes long distance dating actually does work but not that often i think.

well i've been through that during the time when my wife (well she was my girlfriend back then) went to work abroad for six months. we remained faithful to each other. that happened twice. it depends on the personality of that person. i remained loyal to her and she to me. for example IF my girlfriend did not remain loyal, of course it will hurt me but i know to myself that i became loyal and the problem was on her side. but thank God we didnt have a problem when it comes to that. or heart and love for each other grow fonder. we are married now for five years and we have a two year old son. during the times when my wife was abroad the only communication we had was phone calls. no texting and no internet

i want to believe that absence makes the heart grow fonder. because im in that same situation your friends had. i'd like to think that after a year that we will not break up. there are a lot of things to make it work, and yes, constant communication is one, trust, and a lot of understanding and faith to each other too. being in this kind of relationship is really hard. but i want to believe that, LOVE is enough to make the relationship work. there should be firm plans on when they could be together again, and how long will the distance end. it should be a two way street... nothing more to add