falling in love with a friend

Philippines
April 11, 2008 6:42pm CST
I have a close buddy since college and now we're both working. He had been telling others that we're best friends in college when according to my opinion we were not. Only that we hailed from the same hometown, took up the same course, and we have the same church that we attend. My feeling for him started when his father kept on teasing and matching me with him and even my classmates did the same specially my bestfriend. I did not know why they kept on pairing us. So, my feelings for him developed. And by now I am hopelessly waiting for him to tell me that he also have a feeling for me more than just a friend. We still communicate through text messaging and he just kept on asking how i'm doing. Could it be possible that he also feels the same way that I feel for him? What would you do if you fall in love with a friend?
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@rombi001 (941)
20 Apr 08
I know what you mean... its so difficult because you don't know how they feel about you.. I mean they are always happy around you and want to spend time with you but is it because they like you or its just because you are a good friend? Personally I don't know how to deal with it... I don't want to risk a friendship!
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• India
14 Apr 08
ur feeling developed for because u liked her ..thats y feelings developed
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@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
Wow, that would be an interesting scenario good for the movies. But anyhow, you might be right that he has some feelings for you more than just friends. But you might also be wrong. And so, it might be best to wait and see. In the meantime, you might socialize with other men and see if he gets jealous a bit. Ha ha
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Apr 08
why not ask him out on a date, lots of young women do that now days.If he has romantic interests in you he might just take you up on it. If he just wants to be a friend well nothing has been hurt and if you guys did date who knows what might happen next. try it and see.
• United States
12 Apr 08
ok well aparently you are both adults maybe you should sit down with him and actually talk let him know how you feel but at the same time you haver to not get your hopes up that he feels the same way yeah i know it is a lot easier to say then it is to do but you just have swallow your guts and do it cause honestly that is the only way that you might find something out
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• India
12 Apr 08
first ask yourself if you are really in love with this friend or you think you are in love because the pople around you constantly keep saying that you are. If you are sure of being in love,I think you should first analyse everything thats at stake like how well you two understand each other and whether your friendship will survive the talk. If all is well you should tell him about your feelings.