how do you deal with drama?
By heidi28
@heidi28 (69)
United States
April 11, 2008 9:40pm CST
i have been married now for 7 years and my husband has a child from a previous marriage and so do i and then we have one together. well he is quite a bit older than me and well theres only 6 years differnece between me and his daughter. here lately she has been trying to come between us well she kinda did she tried to set her dad up on a date and told my friends that she wanted me out of her daddys life so that she could move back home cause her and her boyfriend were having problems. now if she wanted to move back home i would not have had a problem with that but when she goes behind my back and dogs me out and tries to set her dad up with someone i have a problem shes 22 and needs to grow up and stop causing problems between me and her dad. i just finally had enough of it after seven years and left im on my on now with the kids and i am trying to work things out with him but of course shes still causing drama and now im not sure i even want to try and work things out with him because of her.
4 responses
@acastlegirl (135)
• United States
12 Apr 08
He needs to tell his daughter to grow up. If he didn't object to the fact that she set tried to set him up on a date, then it sounds like you have more problems than just her. If he did object, that's a good thing. She should also be a little more sensitive to her younger sibling's feelings. I'm sure this is putting a strain on him/her also.
@heidi28 (69)
• United States
12 Apr 08
oh it is but as much as i love my kids i will never allow them to do what he is allowing her to do. just the way i was raised my kids dont disrespect anyone for any reason especially an adult that does a lot for them and ask nothing in return. but sometimes when your put in that position its not a good atmosphere for the kids and i dont want my kids to be around the arguing and bickering all the time so i would rather them see us happy apart than fighting while we are together.
@eden32 (3973)
• United States
12 Apr 08
If his daughter's actions are the only problem, it seems a bit extreme to end your relationship over it.How did your husband handle it? Did he put her back in line & tell her he's not interested in dating? If not, then I would have a problem. But she's an adult, you don't have to allow her back in your home & you don't have to let her control what happens in your relationship.
@heidi28 (69)
• United States
12 Apr 08
its not really a control thing its more of her wanting daddy to take care of her forever and no one else if shes not happy then she wants no one happy. no after 7 years of it and me saying to him that he needs to talk to her and put her in line going in one ear and out the other like he doesn't even care is getting kinda old. ya no just cuz her mom left her at an early age doesn't mean that he has to baby her the rest of her life thats why she is the way she is and untill he grows some balls and stands up to her then yeah we need to be apart.
@lovespecialangel (3632)
• United States
12 Apr 08
He should have enough sence to not let his daughter do that to the two of you. Not to mention the fact that if she loved her dad she would let him be happy. Then again, if he loved you, he would not have let her come between the two of you.
@heidi28 (69)
• United States
12 Apr 08
you would think so huh! no she one of those that like to be poor me the worlds out to hurt me kind of people she thinks the world revolves around her and everyone should bow to her. no we've talked about the issue with her its always been an issue and i think that was just the straw that broke the camels back for me. it used to be petty stuff that she would do but she was a teenager and i would just ignore it, but now that shes older its not so petty anymore its serious and i'm not the type to come between him and his kid but yeah reality needs to sink in with both of them. maybe i just need a break and maybe while im gone and hes all by his self and he may see the real her and if he doesnt than hey they diserve each other.
