Can you tell your spouse/partner anything?

Yes, I do, but my spouse is the secretive type. I often do a monologue because his responses are often monosyllabics, or worst, he just nods or smiles. More often, this really gets to my nerves...however, lately, I realized that I'd just have to accept that he is different from the way I was brought up. I am more open to him than he to me...which unnerved me a couple of times. But now I see that I have to work up on this kind of relationship to our advantage. Meaning that we complement each other--he the quiet type, and me being the more open one. He is willing to listen to me, and I am more willing to open up. That's the way I am seeing it now, although at times I push him to open up and be more spontaneous. I am not afraid that he would get mad at me because he never does it. It's his being so clamped up about his feelings that is driving me nuts at times...like when his sister got pregnant out of wedlock, I was just shocked when the baby came, and I thought she was still single! And I was supposed to be already a member of the family, being his wife. Anything that has something to do with his own family is often a taboo for discussion with him...in other words, he does not tell me things, including our two grown up kids. Well, well.That's the way he is, and I am resigned to that fact a long time ago.

Yes You have to be honest in your relationship to also expect the same from the other person as well. We should be able to come out with the truth, whatever it is good or bad. Even if you do a mistake which he /she will not like, you should have the courage to tell him of that. Therte should be no secrets between the both of you. I always tell what is on my mind to my Husband, even if it is something I don't like about him. He can take it without getting angry and puffed up. He also told me many times what and where I have gone wrong. If I have, I have corrected myself many a time. We have gone through 31 years of married life together being honest to eachother.

you should be honest to your partner, and just know that once the communication link between you guy is broken and you started hiding thinsg from one another, it will definitely affect the relationship

It depends upon the 'issue' to be told. If it is some serious 'mistake' of my partner, I do point it out to her, though in a polite manner. I feel it is better to tell your likes and dislikes to your partner, in a sensible manner and like-wise we should also be prepared for her likes and dislikes. I belive - Nobody is a perfect partner, therefore, we have to accomodate our partners and vice versa with her/his positive and negative points. Good post!

Walking on egg shells around someone is not the way to live, I can tell my partner anything and know he will laugh it off and realise im not being nasty. If I seriously worried everytime I had to tell him something O would need to reconsider our relationship.

My boyfriend and I have been through alot in the past year and after our rough patch we agreed to tell each other right away if we have problem with something they are saying or doing. If it is hurting us, etc. I think our little time out was needed because we had a problem that we did not address and it then got out of hand. In one way i am glad it happened though because we are now stronger than ever and are more open with each other (we were always open but not when it came to telling each other if we were having problems) So basically, yes it is definitely important to have honest and open lines of communication. It won't work if there is none in the long run.

in myself experience, i would like to tell anything that i don't like about his behaviour perhaps? although we just new in our relationship, i am not afraid to tell this kind thing. for me, starting healthy relationship is more important than anything. why we should pretend to accept it if we don't like it at all? something true, i am gonna tell it to him but with good manner offcourse so that he won't feel offense. now i am married and i still tell what kind things that i don't like from him and he also tells me what he doen't like about my behaviour then we become know each other which is good which is not

Frankly, my husband does get upset at certain things I tell him. But that doesn't mean that I walk on eggshells( who am I kidding? well, in my mind I do!). But I'm the kind of person who can't keep things to herself (especially with her husband). And over the years I've realized that it's just him getting defensive (because of his childhood) and we might argue over it...but we're back to loving each other with our little faults too. I also realized that because of the way he reacts, I've started getting defensive when he points out a flaw in me. But we are both working on that aspect...and for us that's what marriage is....we work things out. Sometimes, one of us slips and we pick ourselves up and go on from there.

I have a healthy relationship with my partner, I can tell him anything, it does not mean he will like it and not get upset but I can tell him anything and we work it out.

i usually tell my partner when he does stuff that i don't like. although sometimes he isn't too happy about it, i'm not worried that he'll dump me. firstly, it's a technique to tell someone something that is not exactly good news. i don't just tell him off like that. i try to be tactful about it, sending the message across in a way that he can accept. it's important that you let your partner know about things / behaviour that irritates you. if not it'll just simmer in you and explode in one episode. it's also unfair to your partner if you don't like something he did but he has absolutely no idea about it. at least he is given the chance to change the behaviour and not strain the relationship.

It's funny that I came across this discussion today. My husband has said a few things to me today that have upset me and were hurtful. I didn't confront him about the particulars, but I did tell him to stop picking on me. (That sounds really childish. LOL! But true) He still doesn't know what he's done and I probably won't tell him. Because from past experience it is just better to let it go and let it fade into oblivion. It'll stop bothering me in a few days anyway. If I were to tell him what it was he did he'd just make me feel worse - so that is why I let it go. Not because I'm afraid he will divorce me. And if it was something really important I'd let him know.

I have a relationhship problem. Because of my past, I am afraid to make anyone angry. I worry they will leave me. A slamming door sets my heart pounding even though the door wasn't slammed in anger. The people in my life would never leave me because I got angry. I know my feelings are irrational and hope someday I will heal enough to trust someone again. I've been married before and have dated since then. I always seem to pick the guys with problems. I sacrifice my needs and make allowances for my partner's behaviour even when I don't like what they do. I forgive them and inch by inch_ I lose me. For now, other than my family, I'm staying out of relationships.

nahh.. i dont feel the need to walk on eggshells, and have no problem opening mouth and tellin em "dewd, knock it off", nor does he wth me either. prolly why weve lasted as long as we have

In general, I would try to keep a smooth communication with my spouse. I would tell all of the things happened on me. But, occasionally, if I think something would hurt him , I woulk hold on it. Why do I offend her for this unimportant things? I think it isn't neccessary to tell her some unpleasant event which is not important in our living.

Yes I do share with my wife everything and she with me we have a honest communication. We belive in blind each ather. You must know that we are 34 years toogether.

I tell him what I'm feeling all the time. If I hold it in then I end up getting moody and taking it out on him and my son, so I have learnt over the years to talk to him about anything and everything.

One reasons why my exes leaved me coz im always frank with them...Once i noticed something that they do have no respect over myself. I really confronted them. Without doubt to speak what's inside my mind.

I use to feel as though I could tell my husband anything and everything. Things have simple changed in that fact of life for me. I mean I can tell him about him doing something wrong, that's easy. Other than telling him he's doing something wrong, I feel as though I can't say anything. We seem to bump heads about everything else. I remember this one time. We were in the car on the way to somewhere, can't remember. However, he wanted to throw a receipt that he had from pumping gas out the window. I told him not to do it because of the fact that there is something else other than paper in it and it wouldn't be good for the environment. And he was just like so what, because everyone else does it. He believed that just because he didn't do it, doesn't mean someone else in a car next to us wouldn't be doing the same thing. I was trying to get him to understand, I person can start making a difference. And I just got too frustrated with him. There are multiple times that I've bumped heads with him on things like this. It's stupid, but now I just try to remember before I decide to say anything about things that I know will we bump heads about.

Right!Honest is very important between the two.But I think we shouldn't be limited by the other we should also have our own space and time.I think there is no need to walk on the pins and needles aroud her/him making sure he/she is always happy.If you do that that must be very tired and I think there is no need to continue.

Mine too! I can tell anything to my boyfriend. It is really nice to have someone you love on which you can share everything