today I will meet family that I haven't seen in a long time and I am nervous

You should never be ashamed that you are out of work. I am not ashamed because you are out of work. I am just as nervous about meeting them as you are, but they will either like us for who we are or they won't. If they don't, we never have to see them again. They are not what is important, our children, you, and I are what's important. And none of us think less of you. You may be unemployed, but you are getting out there and finding jobs and trying to make things work financially for us. That is all that matters. Who cares what others think of us. Stand proud of who you are and don't lie. Be honest.

you should tell them the truth as it will not hurt them ,they will stand beside u as they r ur family members

I'd be honest and open and tell them you are unemployed and need a job. Your being ashamed may be standing in the way of an opportunity. Your uncle or aunt may know of someone who needs an employee. For the sake of your own pride, don't hamper what may come to you in the future. Your angel may also thank you for being upfront. Takes a braver man to stand where he actually is instead of where he thinks someone else would prefer him to be. And the fact that you think they will be ashamed may be totally wrong. Often people who are wealthy know what it's like to have nothing and work hard. You may be surprised. Good luck.

Foundmyangel, My advice to you is this: You have two choices her, either , you feel fully confident with WHO you are... not what you do, then go ahead and go.. If these relatives are rich , does tht make them better human beings?? If they are human at the least, they will wish that you find the work you love.. Get it ?? Just take the time to feel good about yourself.. your job is not you.. you are you... Just tell the Truth and so what about the reactions.. because peole will always judge most of the time.. If they ask you what do you do... Try this .. I am for the first time in my life learning to become and not always focusing on doing...and in the becomeing .. I will certainly find what my true life's wowrk is. If you still do not feel good, just don't go.. Flamenca

Try to relax. I know it's hard, I went through the same thing when I met my bmom a few years ago. Your aunt & uncle are probably just as anxious to meet you. There are ways you can get around the employment topic without lying. I wouldn't recommend lying at all, it always comes back to bite you in the butt. I don't know what it is that you would usually do for employment, but if it's a hands on type laborer, you could say that your self employed and between contracts. The self employed usually goes pretty far, and not always a lie, if your doing odd jobs here and there than that's exactly what you are. Enjoy your time with them and try not to stress out too much.

hey... they're still family whether you have a job or not. and money is no object... what's important is that you guys are related and same blood runs in your vains. Blood is thicker than water... if they are really you're family they will accept you for who you are... ;) don't worry about it. you'll do great!

I wouldn't lie. I would just not mention the things that you don't want to talk about.

I've been living outside my country (Germany) for almost 30 years. In December 2005 I was invited by my soon-to-be sister-in-law to attend her wedding with my brother, she paid for the flight since I was supposed to be her wedding gift to her future husband. I live in Mexico, and I hadn't seen my family in more than 10 years, and the whole thing was a total disaster. I'm still after more than two years, trying to figure out why my siblings treated me the way they did, they were simply rude. Maybe I find the answer some day but I know one thingt: I won't go back.

Don't be afraid they are also human like you. I think this is the right time to show of what who really you are. In other side i understand you coz you don't just want to be criticized of no having a job. Im sure they will be more greatful if you will not pretend any..I know its hard to do it but just try and im sure they will understand.

Lie will just lead to another lie. Beside, if you lie about your current status in life sooner or later they would know about it. So, when you meet your relatives and ask you about your work etc.., just tell them the truth. If you really a family to them then they would understand what you are going through right now, besides, your wife is there to support and be there with you. Goodluck! Cheers!

i think its not right to tell them your still employed for it will only add conflict.i have been also told a lie and it gave me more problem.anyway, we have white lies and black lies , if you think its a white lie then continue with it.just be responsible with it.please be my friend.

No Be Honest To Tell The Truth... Just Find a Job As Early as Possible... Telling A lie wouldn't make you fine... I know they will understand You Because They are your Family..... And good luck To meet them again