If You Wanted Revenge On a Person, Would You Expose Them on the Internet?
By surfette
@surfette (673)
United States
April 12, 2008 3:00pm CST
This is a very sensitive subject. A person on another site that I belong to is very angry with her neighbor. She has printed this woman's name and picture on the site and has openly called her names. I don't think that this was a wise thing to do. What do you think?
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11 responses
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
12 Apr 08
No, I would never do that. I may write something about how I feel or how angry at someone on the net thru blog or discussion but I will never mention her whereabouts, post her picture or give her full name because somehow, she might get hurt and that is bad as well.
@jesbellaine (4139)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
Yes that is right because you can't make it right by creating or making another mistake.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
12 Apr 08
I really could not do that.I would not want anybody doing that to me.She just dont know that Lady can take her to court.Why not confront her instead of doing that.
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@shontia08 (846)
• United States
12 Apr 08
i agree with disvachic. the way she is going about is immature and it could cause more harm to her. i just feel like if someone does something to you then they will get it back when their time come. she's putting herself in a worse position. good topic!
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@Darkwing (21583)
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12 Apr 08
I think her actions are a coward's way to get sympathy. She would be far better off trying to talk to her neighbour and straighten things out, than put herself at risk of slander. She could be heavily sued for what she's done, in this country, at least.
Brightest Blessings.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
10 Dec 09
Well I really dont engage in revenge,I believe in confronting someone to the face and thrashing out our difference.I would never have done what this lady did though ,I think this is jeuvenille and doesnt achieve anything .I mean her neighbour is right there beside her couldnt she have gone and spoken with her about the issue
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@surfette (673)
• United States
10 Dec 09
I agree with you, but sometimes people build up problems to be so huge that they want the world to agree with them. This issue was much more complicated than I originally described, involving an affair with the lady's husband. It ended up getting the children involved as well. If it is a matter of a property dispute, then it is much better to confront the person and work it out. Because this was an "emotional" problem, it becomes a matter of the heart which is much harder to work out. I still would not have put this very sad story on the internet because it could end up working against this woman rather than for her.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
19 Nov 09
hi surfette,
I dont know if i would go to the extent of doing this thing but i know of a person who was really cheated by a girl ..not only in love but also she took lots of money from him and his best friend tried to question her so she called his best friend lots of name and his best friend got angry and she told me she is going to expose that girl to everyone she knows.. so she wont be ever able to get money out of any other guy ..but i wont surely go to that extent.
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@surfette (673)
• United States
19 Nov 09
I agree that even if that is what you want to do and even if it would be justified, there is a big chance that it might backfire and before you know it, you could be faced with a slander lawsuit. I'm a very passionate person and when I think that someone is being hurt or taken advantage of, I am eager to give my opinion. Sometimes, though, it's better to step back for a moment before you do anything too rash. Thanks for your response.
@vathsala30 (3732)
• India
7 Dec 09
Hi surfette
I do not think what your neighbour did is wise. Why should anybody expose somebody. After all winning the heart of the enemy is the greatest revenge than harming them. If that person decides to take any legal action, then your neibour will be landing in the soup
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
I used to think of that back then but then again, I also thought of it as not a very wise thing to do. For me, it's an act of cowardice and treachery. If I am not in good terms with someone else, I'd rather deal with them personally and settle the problems first hand..
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@callarse1 (4783)
• United States
12 Apr 08
Yes, I agree it's rude that she posted the woman's full name and pictures. Plus, who wants their information put on a website without their permission? I think the woman should have talked about her neighbor without names and pictures.
Pablo
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@Zorrogirl (1502)
• South Africa
12 Apr 08
i think it was stupid. people dont like it when people put each other down. and doing that openly makes them just as guilty. we all have juicy ideas about revenge, but most people dont go through with the actual deed. the thoughts are usually enough.
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@nova1945 (1612)
• United States
12 Apr 08
I would never do something like that. Revenge is one thing, but that would just be hateful. Imagine the terrible problems and dangers that could cause the other person.
Besides it would only serve to lower yourself to their level. It is much better to walk away and not get involved with that person again for anything.
@goergineo (1498)
• Jordan
12 Apr 08
It is really a bad thing. the best revange is living well. just let it go.
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