can women and men truly be friends?

The husband and the wife after they divorce, they still a friend. If the work don't have ex friends, so why they get married with others.

Wonder_grrrl66, To answer your first question Can women and men truly be friends?Yes without a shadow of a doubt they can be. Will there be some that can't, yep! Will there be some that can, yep! Here is the major question can you view a guy as just a friend and then you will have your own personal answer to that. Now on to the heart of the matter. So you and your ex broke up about 2 yrs ago but decided to remain friends becuase you valued his opinion and he was able to show and motivate you to do greater things, right? Well here's a question for you so that I can better understand the situation. Did you or he break it off? Were the circumstances of the break up riddled with ill thoughts toward one another? Did one person do something that upset the other to the point of no return or was it a mutual break up were you are more friends than a relationship and there for that was the reasoning? Sorry don't mean to be nibby but with out knowing the circumstances of the break up it's hard to give accurate advice .. Now on what I have here are the answers to the questions you have. What would you recommend in this situation? I would recommend if you decided to be friends afterwards to go out and talk what can it hurt? The worst that can happen is the guy still likes you and was hoping to try again. And here is the kicker if he signals that then tell him friends only if he can handle it you'll know. Also I'm a big fan at being point blank obvious. I would come out and ask the questions that I had for the ex. Maybe in two years he was straightening out his life and getting it in order and giving both you and him time to come to terms with the break up .. That could be why he was out of contact for so long. If it bothers you ask? When I was in elementary school I had one teacher tell me that only stupid question is the question not asked. Don't be afriad to question him after all this time if you have questions. Do you feel that we could be just friends? Personally I don't know .. I don't know you or him or the situation that caused the break up. But I can ask questions to help you find out for yourself. Do you still have feelings of any kind for him other that friendship? Are you uncomfortable at the thought of being around him? Are you still attracted to him? When I was younger I had a friend that I told no matter what happened we'd still be friends, You know what I'm still friends with him because I would rather be friends with him and have him in my life than not to have him in my life at all. Now may I ask if you never so him again would it hurt you, would you feel a loss? Do you believe there are no other motives behind his actions? His motives might be as pure as the driven snow I have no clue because I don't know him. I can offer you this you were in a relationship with him and yes people can change if they truly want to but is he the type that would have an underlying motive? Remember you haven't seen him in two years do give the benefit of the doubt you should be able to tell wether or not he has a motive with in the first few minutes to half hour. Or would you just leave well enough alone? That my dear is entirely up to you. I can not say yeah or nay to you on this. If it were me and I stated that I wanted to be friends because I respected his opinion and the way he motivated me to do things and become a better person. Then no I wouldn't leave well enough alone I would go out of my respect and curiousity and see what he truly wanted. If he wanted to hang out as friends and stayed true to format Bully for me for having the b@lls to actually go and attend a get together with him. But I did say if it was me. I wish you luck in your decision and hope that you make the best choice for you. You know all the information and therefore can make a more informative decision than all of us. But goodluck ... Out of curiousity sake , do you have feelings for him if so that does change everything. Or have you moved on and are involved and just feel awkward?

why not, if they want to be. i had seen that many times the same question is asked by many. i believe in true friendship. i am very good friends with some guys. there is niothing more tahn that. also chances are there that at first friendship, then the situation goes along to next step. the basis od realtionship is good friendship

In which era are u living dear....ofcourse...u two can be friends and if someone is asking questions even after you have cleared everything ...then i think that he/she hasnt matured yet...... think bout it....What all matters is only is that u twoo are clear about that....///thats it/.....LOL

I do believe that men and women can be friends after all there is no gender requirements in friendship right? Being friends with your ex is another thing. For me it would depend on how you part ways with your ex. If you parted ways feeling angry to each other or having issues that were not settled as there is really no closure on your relationship, then maybe being friends with that person might not that be easy because there is always a tendency to bring up old issues especially those that remain unanswered and unfix. If on the other hand you guys parted ways calmly and you know - ok, then being friends with your ex is more than possible. In your case, I do believe that you should trust him on being friends with you again, do not expect or think of other stuff - for now, give him the benefit of the doubt that he just want to be friends with you. if there's something on his mind other than friendship, let him say that directly to you first, do not assume because in assuming that he's after another round of relationship, you're ruining the possibility of you being friends again and to some extent, you might hurt yourself in the event that he is not into that. Just stay cool and let him show his true intentions.

I think women and men can be friends.it is possible if you keep the distance.so don't do the thing that let him misunderstand.I think you know what i mean.just keep going on ang good luck.

I suggest you give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he just likes to see you, for old times sake, maybe (probably) he still likes you, whether as a friend or what doesn't matter. We tend to complicate things, he might just want to have a chat, collect those $ 5.00 you owe him LOL, get your opinion on his new hair-do, might be in love with somebody else and wants your feedback...... There are thousands of things, and yes, he might just want to be your friend. I'd go and find out, there is little you can lose (unless, of course, YOU still love him, and then I don't know.)

I think men and women can be true friends. The most important point is men and women are quite different, they seldom have to be jealous to each other. And therefore they can give truly opinions and offer sincere help. But if both of you had a love relationship before. It depends on whether you can be friends again as both of you may still feel hurtful and sad to it.

Yah they could be a better friends. Because they are opposite and they have a lot to teach with each other and a lot to experience.

Nothing is impossible in this world as long as you learn to accept it. To me it can be. Good discussion.

I think friendship is a prelude for having a relationship with someone you love .It doesn't work other way around .You can be person who knows each other very well but not best of friends there after . with regards www.chocolatesavy.com

ya i dont know why they couldnt its not like were two different species, all my friends are women and i wouldnt change it. so i dont think tht there would a problem with it, not even if they dated once in there lifes if they get along thn why not be friends

Yes I think that women and men can truly be friends even without dating before. Just friends. I think you can be friend with your ex but at one moment it will come up the discussion......... about how did things go when you were together and stuff like that. But I think you can be friends!!

I think its very much possible to be just friends as long as both of you already have partners, or you are not physically attracted to them... I would probably find it very difficult to be just friends with someone I really get along with and find extremely attractive... If you know what I mean :)

I think you guys can be friends. I have many friends that were an ex at one point in time. I just have a close bond with my friends. I was usually always a friend before ever becoming a girlfriend. Honestly, I think you should still give him a shot to be your friend. Sometimes people lose contact with one another and all of a sudden find them. I know about this very well. I lose touch but I still remain in contact after years. Don't deny him a chance to be a good friend, if you don't honestly know if he's after something else. You maybe wrong about him and if you were how would you feel then??

Yes. That is possible. If both parties agree to be friends then it can be done.