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I agree with both of the replies to this discussion. You kinda need to help her understand but take her feelings into consideration as well. Hugzzz

I believe as an adult you have to be happy. Children want mommy or daddy all to themselves that is normal. However I think you need to just tell your child that mommy loves you and will always love you more then anyone else but mommy needs to have adult time too just like you need play time with your friends. My daughter didn't really mind when I dated but hated when her daddy did. He was beside himself and didn't want her to hate him for seeing other women. I finally sat her down and explained to her that daddy would always love her but that daddy needed to be happy too and if daddy didn't get to go out even with women that he would be sad and she didn't want her daddy to be sad. I told her that she was to be nice to all of daddy's friends and that even if she didn't like daddy's friends that daddy got to pick them not her just like daddy didn't get to pick which friends she liked. It seemed to work for her and only had to have the talk a few more times as she was growing up. Now she is more accepting of others and their feelings even if it isn't something she would want for them. What is the saying.. if momma isn't happy nobody is happy? As long as we love our children and put their needs first we can still have relationships and go on dates. They will be fine and when they see a mom that is happy it is so much better for them in the long run.

That is really a tough call. It really depends on how much trama the child has gone through. If the child hasn't gone through any trama then it depends on if you are willing to go through the difficult times. If your child is not ready for you to have a man in your life they will make it difficult for you. But then again, the child may not be ready until he or she is put in the situation. I know this isn't much help, but it's a tough call.