How do you know he/she's the one you want to marry?
By xtinelee
@xtinelee (3371)
Singapore
April 13, 2008 9:53am CST
I am quite clueless about the answer to this question. Yes, I do love him. Yes, I do care for him. and Yes, I even want to live together with him, be with him all the time. But no, there are times that I want to be away from him, No, there are times when I can't stand certain ways that he's been doing.. etc.
How do you know when he/she's the one you want to get married to?
I'm quite afraid to make that choice, as I want it to be 'for as long as I live'.
5 responses
@travibabiesgirl (1690)
• United States
13 Apr 08
My step dad once asked me a question and I never understood the answer until I met the man I am now married to. When I would say I was in love with someone he would ask me if your mom and this guy were on a boat and it started sinking, if you could only save one who would you save? I would always pick my mom. He would say wrong answer. My mom is my best friend and I could not imagine putting any one above her. When I fell in love with the one who is my soul mate I now know what that means. I would save him. He is my life and I could not imagine putting any one above him. I hope that helps you as much as it did me. It helped me see what was real love and what was just caring about someone. Best of luck to you.
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@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
15 Apr 08
take a vacation for each other and see if you miss each other...if you miss each other and want to be together badly and cant tolerate being apart, then they are probably the right one...
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
15 Apr 08
take a separate vacation from one another to test your relationship and see if you miss each other in the time frame...check out other girls and see if you r interesting in others, or your mind wanders back to your girlfriend that you prefer. it is a test if u miss one another when u r away from each other.
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
13 Apr 08
for me, it is when he accepts me as who i am and what i am and if i misses him more even though we just got home after a date, etc
@YennLing (112)
• Canada
15 Apr 08
Many people believe what travibaiesgirl said is the right way to test. But I also can't understand why would people choose their partner over parents? I love him, but of course I love my parents more. I've been knowing my parents practically in my whole life. For me, boyfriend is the second people that I love after my parents. I have a method to test you. Do you think you still can go out and kiss somebody who is very handsome, nice and rich just for having fun? Or you feel you're not able to do it because you always imagine your boyfriend? Do you think you will feel the world is no longer fun if your boyfriend leaves you? To test your boyfriend : Tell him after you're married with him you want to live in another country which is so far away from his hometown. Will he follow you or will he insist you to follow him? Try to find a way to test that he cares about your parents and can communicate well with them. Coz if he doesn't, someday you will face something that will push you to choose between your parents or your partner. Good luck.
