trying to recover but getting nowhere.

I know, but don't you wish - people would take on the initiative after seeing things done so much and do it, without being told how to! Thing is - some things like the housework - can go so far, then they run out of dishes, and they are under penalty of a good walloping if they touch the good china, and the cutlery - amazing how its never put away. some things - like the goats, have to be fed, and bottles have to be done, they are items that can't be let go.

Oh my gosh I know just what you mean! Talk about being superwoman...Even when ill, dealing with emotional stuff, household responsibilities, work, kids, school, etc. who has time to take care of one's self? I can't tell you when the last time I painted my toenails, LOL. And I just hate having to tell them to do something, I mean what is so hard in seeing something that needs to be done and doing it? Especially when I need to be out of commission. But I agree Hatley. I know that I myself have refused help, as if my struggling is some type of revenge, haha. That's showing em! But anyway I digress. Especially after such a devastating time and adding illness on top of it, everyone will need to take a backseat. You have to take some time out for yourself to cope and recover, otherwise all that stress and exertion could manifest into something worse.