are you a private/secretive type of person or your life is........
By checapricorn
@checapricorn (16061)
United States
April 13, 2008 6:34pm CST
I am a secretive person because I love to have some privacy in my life. I do share some of my experiences but most of it, I just kept it with me! I am talking here about an individual whose life is very open to all that she knows. Life, happiness,successes,failures,diseases,career,marriage life,financial problems,family problems and all!
are you? if yes why? and if no why not?
Enjoy posting and sharing!
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33 responses
@motorheadbanger (441)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Yes, I am a private person. I keep things organized a certain way, so that when something gets moved I know right away. But thats probably because I also spend a great deal of time in my room.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
wow...thanks for sharing motorheadbanger! I don't have that skills like you like organizing your life in a certain way. I really appreciate who are like you, since you have that time to keep things in line without being influence by any outside force activity! hhahahaha....you know life, friends, Tv, malling,playing sports and all!
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@desertdarlene (8910)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I am actually a loner, but I'm pretty open about my life. I don't really do anything that I think should be hidden and don't mind talking about my life. But, I really don't do anything anyone is interested in hearing about. And, because of that, some people have told me that they thought I was a private person. I'm really not all that private, I just don't do anything that's really out of line and I'm not too social, so I don't talk about other people.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
i see....being open is a good thing too since people will be learning from you and from your experiences but to be like that or like you needs to have some guts. I don't really have that and tend to just keep it by myself! anyhow, I'm sure your friends are getting more lessons from your sharing to them, they will get some idea how you handle your life, how your surpasses those trials and commit those achievements! By being open too, you just don't know you may have touched other's life and you were once their inspirations in life!
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@samimkardar (828)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I m not a private type person, I like to share my all experiences with my close peoples, my family members and my close friends, in result they share their experience in daily life as well as their professional life, through sharing your experiences with other u get more deas and better suggestion who may helpful to go better in ur life.
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@samimkardar (828)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I should not keep ur experiences with u, u should share it with ur close and reliable friends/ family members, get their comments on it and absorb the ideas from their experiences. It will be more helpful to take right and useful decision in ur life.Just get the ideas from others, the final decision will be yours only. Cheer Up.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hi samimkardar, great reasons indeed. I guess what i kept with me are the experiences which was totally useless! Cheers!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
14 Apr 08
hello,
i for one believe that we should not tell everybody what goes on and off our lives.
i am truthful with all my friends but they only knew few that they want to know. i am not the kind of person who will divulge everything for the sake of being honest.
i guess that's why we have a so-called weather friends coz one will never understand such position and the other will so that is the beauty of having many friends.
i tell my mom what is going on in my life but not all coz i dont like others knowing my business even if they are family and friends.
THOUGH
my husband knows EVERYTHING and anything there is in my life.
we are both honest to each other and we agreed to share every minute details in our lives be it a silly emotion or not.
such arrangement helps us understand each other better and have a much better and open relationship compared to most people i know of.
i honestly feel that a couple should be very honest with each other coz no matter what happen they will always have each other and others wont be there as much as you want them to.
i said all this based on my own experienced and what works for me may not works for you or someone coz we are different individuals who have different ways of living.
nuf said,,,
takecare!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I agree!we have the same point of view about keeping some of our personal experiences to our friends! I am not very open to my friends even to my close friends. I always reserve for me not that I don't trust them or whatever, Its just my nature not to talk much! But, being a wife, I tell everything to my husband no matter how crazy my feelings or ideas are! Being transparent is very important since if it will be misunderstood, it will create some trouble!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I agree! It's truly wonderful when the relationship is very transparent and have open-communication! We are just lucky to have our that kind of partner since I know some of my friends, they don't have such openness to one another! It's pretty sad and depressing and I know some didn't last long either!
@jairgirl (2877)
• United States
15 Apr 08
glad to know we're on the same page haha!
i dont see anything wrong of your nature coz i am the same as well just not with my husband coz he will not stop questioning me if i didnt tell him whatever's going on in my head and heart.
so to shut him up i will just talk and talk and talk LOL!
kidding aside, your husband will always be there for you, being a couple you agreed to share yourself and be part of the ONENESS of it.
love is much better that way and i know you know that it is a wonderful feeling knowing you are sharing such deep and open relationship with him.
takecare!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Apr 08
I am a very private person but I will share all only with my son and my best friend Nelda. to others what I make and hw I do it and all other facets of my life are not for sharing. If someone wants all the details he or she will have to become best friends with me else no I do not share .but I find that I can be very open here on mylot and not feel bad about it either.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I see..Yea, its true about here in mylot, you can ask anything may it be private, personal or whatever since we will get a lot of feedback from the different point of views and we are actually learning from each one and we don't know these people in real, great chance to be open enough!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
yeah i got problems money problems that is...
well i was a secretive person too. but most of it are from all of my friends who share there secretes in me. but most of my secretes are not very much secretes but it is still a secretes... i wish i got treasure secretes heheheh.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
you're funny carinio! maybe you are just hiding your treasures there! hahahhaha...well, actually, I'm confuse a little bit about your answer or maybe you just don't have any secrets at all since your life is open to every one!to your gf, friends and all! hahhaha..I'm just kidding...enjoy posting! congrats, you're responses are getting longer now! more earnings already?
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
hahahahahahahha!well, I will respect that secret! and about your earning, I know we will make it here....just enjoy posting! Hopefully, next pay out, we will get good amount! right? hehhehe...thanks for posting always carinio!
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@carinio98 (2929)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
well my earnings are smaller than my pet over here hehehe... i am very secretive but you know i like to make all of my girl friends to be jealous to one another thats what. well i got a secrets when i was so young little boy but eheheh cant tell here.... well im not hiding my treasures at all you can open it if you like to but be careful it may spill... lol
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@agfarm (930)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Dear Che I love that....is that French ? If so ....what does it mean?
I know that the word Tres is french and it means Very , But that's as far as my French goes.
Anyhow.....my life is an open Book.....with all of it's Ups and downs. I have nothing to Hide or Fear at this point of my life. I've seen The really Ugly-side of life.......so anything outside of that ( to me ) is a Blessing.
I've always been 1 to not care what people see ,because they're going to make their judgements anyway....' may as well start with an Honest look.
How are U doing to day , Dear friend.
I hope all is well my friend. Have a Magical Day. A.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Jun 08
LOL, not French agfarm, i don't know anything about French, I wish!That's great and I know everyone around you love that since they will be learning from your personal experiences.. I am going great friend..thanks! happy magical day too!LOL!
@posham (1236)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
i think i'm a secretive person.. i usually keep my emotions to myself... that's why it's helpful for me to write.. i can let out my tears and laughter with the flow of my pen's ink to the depths of the paper... hmm, well actually that's just a metaphor because i use my laptop... hahaha.. i dunnow.. i just like to listen most of the tme.. and if i talk, it'll be more of jokes and stories rather than what i feel...
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hi posham, I was like you a lot for the past 30 years of my life..Now that I got married, I tried to confide everything to my husband since I trust him a lot and It feels good..I am very picky about friends that is why I tend to be listener always!
@gemini_rose (16264)
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16 Apr 08
I am more open on here than I am with anyone, I talk about absolutely everything on here and I am not bothered or ashamed of anything I have done. With people in my real world, I keep most things in and do not talk about them.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Apr 08
That's me also, It's better here since, we get sincere opinion even if we don't know the people in real!Thanks for dropping by gemini_rose and have a great time!
@gemini_rose (16264)
•
17 Apr 08
Thank you for best response, speak soon.
And Mooch you may not have many friends in the real world, but you have many on here!! I for a fact would not be bothered by looks or anything else.
@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
14 Apr 08
Hi c.c. My life is an open book, i'm the sort of person that wont bat an eye to discuss anything.My friends always says "what wont you tell." my reply is "what is there not to tell."With me it's ,what you see is what you get.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I do agree dragonlfy. I just don't know why I secretive, I just need maybe to know or trust more before I will open up and so far in my life, there are really things that we can't hide forever, but I always make it sure that it will be my family who will know first!Its not really a big issue though, I am just very open to all! hahahhahaa....but, I do have plenty of friends who are like you and I love them, I' learning from them and their experiences!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
Thats a great attitude too but you know, not every one has the guts to do it! Being open to your friends will let them learn from you and your experiences.
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@dragonfly242 (1060)
• Bahamas
14 Apr 08
Trust me i wasn't born with the guts.But in my years on earth i've decided that keeping secrets take to much energy. And to be quit honest, i dont care to much what others think of me..i'm just trying to live as best as i can.And do to others as i would like done to me.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
17 Jun 08
I am a very secretive person when it pertains to a few individuals. In recent years I have been more open to friends, and now that my friends have changed and we've drifted apart, I am more sharing with my fiance.
I still feel as if I am a bit less sharing in some instances, but it is only because I grew up in a family that is entirely too nosey for their own goods, and has really caused me not to trust them in affairs of secrecy.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Jun 08
Hi SomeCowgirl, thanks for sharing..My experience also with friends like they walk about someone when not around and judge or criticize the person made me avoid sharing my experiences and made me very choosy in selecting friends!
@bianca0531 (427)
• Philippines
17 Jun 08
I am a private person. I seldom share my life's experiences to other people. I just don't talk to others too much.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Hi bianca, thanks for sharing. When I was younger, I also prefer to keep it especially if I am sure that I will be able to solve or manage it alone!
@oo0kulasa0oo (260)
• Philippines
18 Jun 08
I prefer keeping my privacy as much as possible. Whatever I want to remain a secret, I keep for myself. I believe that that way, life can be easier, more simple and peaceful.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
18 Jun 08
Hi there kulasa, I am with you, not unless maybe if the experiences is worthwhile to be shared and we are sure our friends will learn from it!
@peterpiper (28)
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16 Jun 08
We are pretty kind of private people here and we value our quiet lives ,if others want to lay there souls bare then thats fine by me but if it is us we would rather that our business is our business.Then it causes no problems.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Hi peterpiper, Welcome and Happy Mylotting...Thanks for sharing your views!
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I am a little of both. I dont share everything but I dont mind sharing alot of stuff about my life. Its always good to get some others opinions.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
thats true, i love the idea also of sharing to learn how other people will react on a certain issue and it gives us an idea or lesson somehow!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I agree subha, we always reserve something for ourselves especially experiences that we think very personal!
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I am a very private person. I do not like fo rpeople to know my business in my real life. I don't mind speaking to my Mylot friends but I do not elaborate on my home life either. I try to not tell my business to people because they love to spread the word and gossip and talk about me. I like to keep my information private. It is my business and none of theirs to spread around.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
15 Apr 08
I am with you! I am like that too, since this time, its just hard to trust people. So, I prefer too, to just keep it with me and decide for myself! If i really need another opinion, I will prioritize my parents or sister! But, I am very open to my husband since I know he is supporting me all the way!Thanks for dropping and happy posting stephcjh!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
17 Apr 08
I agree with you nengs10, Like you, I am also very open to my husband on my feelings, opinions, plans,decisions and everything and Its just a blessing indeed to have a partner who truly listen and understand us! but, in my friends, I have always limitations, I only share things that I know it worth for them to know and learn from!
@rhane7315 (5649)
• Philippines
14 Apr 08
i'm a secretive type of person because some of the people around me don't know how to keep a secret even if they say "i promise, i won't tell anybody" lol easy to say but hard to do. so when it comes on secrets, i don't trust anybody easily
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Apr 08
I agree thats why also I don't trust easily too and always have reservation on the things I am sharing.
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@chechuva (1275)
• Philippines
15 Apr 08
before i used to tell all my stuff to my friends.. and there are times that i share my experiences to people that i think can relate to my life situations. i kept my self private with my family. coz i don't want them to know what im going through.
but now im getting old, everything change. i usually talk now to my family. i find it more comfortable and comforting to share things with my family. i learned that my family is more open in sharing their thoughts, their real thoughts of what im sharing to them. unlike to my friends, there are times they have hesitations if they are going to correct or react to me. they'll just say their comments when things went wrong or ok.