Teach me how to trust.

First of all, you have to forgive your ex-boyfriend. Depending on what has transpired between you two, I don't know how easy that would be for you. I know for me, it was hard as hell. You must have some type of trust in your partner or you will lose a good one. It's not easy I know, been there and done that, however if you want a chance at being happy than you have to try. Talk to your God with an honest heart and tell him exactly the type of man you want and he will send him to you. Just be patient with him ok. I did that and he sent me a wonderful man.

just youself be honstly,,then u will find autually honestly can bring u friends.

You may start to tackle down the "loose good options" you'd mentioned before, those rules or criteria were just caging your personality to make the right interaction with man.