Naturally Positive - Naturally Negative

i hear ya. I am doing more then training myself to be positive, i am asking God to allow me to see every situation the way he sees it. I don't know if that is positive thinking, or faith, or what. what i do know, trusting in God's eyes has opened up my own to the most amazing people and situations. Choosing to trust in God, is where I am at today, and will be everyday as long as i am here. God allowed me too see you, and you are one of the most amazing people i have ever met.

The key word being 'most' momma. I honestly believe, although many people try to prove me wrong - it remains a choice to each one of us - to choose to be positive about every situation or to choose to be negative. We can let our emotions rule and instantly have a negative reaction to much of the things and people around us. But - if we make a concious effort, to 'see' the positive side of things and people, and think before we react, not letting our emotions rule, rather logic and persistence for the positive side of life, we can train ourselves to begin to naturally see the positive side of everything and everyone. Much like how you are doing now.

ahhhhhhh momma. I just do what He leads me to do - as best I can. He led me to you too....... Sista - recognition? Is that the same as spirit recognition? lol

Opposites attract? lol My husband was negative and I was (am) positive. It took me (and the Lord) forever to teach him that being positive was so much better. Now, we're both so positive we make everybody else sick.....lol

I can't answer that one for you carmel. I think one has to want to be positive to actually be positive. I also think it has a lot to do with choice, although I could be wrong. I often am.

Well if the L♥rd made your husband positive, how come my husband didn't stay positive? He can be so critical and mean sometimes..

Still - lecanis - even though I would never assume to know anything you've been through or suffered, I think we all could begin to express our experiences in the suffering department. I always told my daughter, it's not the issues in life we have to go through as much as how we deal with those issues. Each issue is going to be different and handled differently by each individual. I think most of all,it depends on our 'natural' instinct. Whether we wee things in a positive light or a negative one. Circumstances can be outwardly very negative, but I think if we dig deeply enough we can find a positive aspect of things. While there might be complete negative thought processes while enduring disease or pain, we can do one of two things; go with the negative aspects and bury ourselves in negative thought, or try to at least have a positive outlook on everything else. But then again,,,,,,,what do I know??????? I'm just speaking how I handle things in my life. If it's a negative aspect of somekind, I don't dwell on it from a negative point of view. While I can understand gray - I've always tried to choose between the black and white.... You said, "I'm determined to survive despite some health problems that should have killed me years ago,". There are more positive thoughts in that one sentence than you give yourself credit for. Determination, survival, despite, should have, are all positive thought patterns to a negative situation. So see - you aren't as negative as you thought.....lol

It's okay, Lecanis, negative things and events happen to everybody. There are things in my past which are NOT good things, but when I see how they led me here to present day, in that manner they can be viewed as positive. If those things had not happened, then maybe I would have been happy then, but perhaps not now. That is the problem with the human condition, we cannot see the future so we really have no idea how good or bad things right now might affect our lives in the future. I do believe that things happen for a reason, and a lot of times it just takes time and experience to discover the reason. Sometimes there doesn't seem to be one, even after a long time, but I am confident that things are not just happening willy nilly with no purpose.

I know it's hard sometimes when a partner is negative and you are so positive. I had to teach my husband how to be positive. It took him a while, but he finally got it. Now, he's much happier. I try to steer clear of really negative people. They drain me sometimes.

Never regret being positive goergineo. Those people are in our lives to teach us something - if we are open to the lesson. You don't have to judge them.....just choose to limit your contact with them and stay aware.....but don't give up being positive because of them........Good points.

Congrats on getting your first best answer. Keep up the great work

Exactly mommyboo. It's a concious choice. Like you, I refuse to be a victim or allow anyone to 'fool' me twice. When we choose not to allow abuse, I think we express our own value. Making the choice to rise above, looking beyond the trees to see the beauty of the forest is such a better response than allowing emotions and feeling to overide. Positive people begat positive responses. Negative people tend to bring negative things toward them. I try to keep my 'garden' free from the weeds as much as I can.

Thank you so much to both of you!! It's always better to be around people who are happy, so why not attempt to help everybody around you be that way? I can ruin my day all by myself thank you very much... LOL! I like this site, lots of information and great people.

I'm glad it is, too! Thanks for checking out my discussions. Hope to find some feedback from you there a.s.a.p.

No confusion with blinders AJ. Keep writing. I'm going to go check out your discussions. Glad to hear your gas tank is half full...

It is unhealthy tammy. It can cause depression. I try to do what I can to steer clear of that, and those kind of people.

And believe me or not munhozmib, most people will end up not wanting to be around people who are always negative. Another reason to be positive,,,unless you don't like people around you.lol

You are absolutely correct! It's just so hard to give up of an old habit, isn't it?

That light was the most positive force I can imagine. Some people don't understand distancing, but I do. I call it keeping my garden weeded..... I think it comes down to becoming what some people call 'a self made person', learning and putting those lessons to good use. Stay positive billionaire.........lemons and lemonade and all that other positive stuff.....

Yes, because if you don't keep your garden weeded, it spreads and kills everything. I never looked at it like that but looking at the situation, I am self made, I decided from the time I was a child to walk my own path and to this day my family still doesn't understand, looking at it now it could have been easy to follow but I decide to do just the opposite. Sometimes I wonder whether I was doing something wrong but now that I have gotten older I see that I did the right thing for me.

I love this! You did 'the right thing for you'. I make this comment all the time when people discuss the right and wrong way to do something. I don't believe in right and wrong ways, only personalized ways. If it works for you and doesn't hurt anybody else and allows you to accomplish what you desire, then it's right.

Trust in one thing money. Working at being positive is another. I don't think being realistic is necessarily being negative, however, my husband used to tell me the same thing. "I'm just being realistic". It used to make me so mad when he said that, because it proved he was just seeing the negative side of things. Being positive meant looking at the positive side of things and keeping his mouth shut about the realism....lol.....It took a while for him to learn to keep his realism to himself. lolololol

Dear dairy product......lol I think you are probably right - half and half, depending on a lot of outside influences. The trick to it though is staying positive no matter if the conditions. Whether you don't get enough sleep, the weather, screaming kids, no money, or whatever the situation - staying positive doesn't make the situation easier - just easier to handle.

LOL! That is sage advice! I try to just take a few deep breaths and calm down before getting all cranky! It does help! It is just sometimes harder to remain calm than to fly off the handle. LOL! Thank you for the advice, Dairy Product AKA: Half and Half AKA: Cortjo73

A series of conraditions....I like that janni.

ei thanks =)

I hope you stay positive, even with the bad situations around us shnookums. Stay positive and stay strong.

I think when we are thrown a curve ball suspenseful, good thought CAN produce good results, if the good thoughts are directed in toward the proper source. Even with the number of disappointments in my own life, I want to be a positive person, to try to influence a more positive response in others, and to try to see the good in my life instead of always dwelling on the bad. I'm sorry, but I don't understand your last statement. If you are a Christian and believe you have a future in Heaven with God, How in the world can that be a negative experience? The idea of spending eternity with God in Heaven (to me) is the most positive thing a Christian could hope for.

I was negative toward myself for a very long time ido. I changed that. I am my own best friend. I am no longer negative toward myself. I prefer to see the best side of me, and everything and everyone around me. As long as you continue to see the flaws in others, you will continue to react to the flaws you see in yourself. I prefer to see things and people from the inside out, not the outside in.

I don't know if you're right or not Crazy....I don't believe the world is going to hell in a handbasket. Of course I'm one of those people you talk about never being able to see it. I see however, the people who believe it, and don't do anything to prevent it. I see those people who always have a negative attitude who don't think they can do anything about it. I see those people who can only see the negative around them, in them, and therefore, see it in everything and everyone they come in contact with. We who are positive, choose to try our best to bring a little sunshine into the world and hope we can make it a better place, if by nothing else, trying to stay positive in such an overwhelming environment that can easily appear negative. If you look at everything in a negative light, you just might not be able to see the positive side to something when it happens to come your way. I don't know you can change the world if you are alway negative. I can only see you falling into the trap along with the other negative people. What are you doing to make the world more positive if you are consistently negative? Change yourself first. That's the only way you can change the world.

Blessings Pose. I think we've all had a taste of the negative side of things. It just depends on where we choose to stay.....We all need a little help now and again. I hope you continue to encourage people to be positive.

You're right dharma. It's how you see things. We've all had those moments. It's whether or not you let the negative pull you in or do what you can to stay positive.

Sounds like you are blessed with very positive aspects gitfiddle....a positive wife, kids, life, and a great God........I like your attitude. Hope it stays positive.